Re-creating socializing skills

By someone that probably has a mental disorder

Note: I really need this certiﬁcate ASAP. That’s why I'm making this about my life's personal struggle.

Challenge I can’t remember the last time I hung out with a real friend. I remember being very excited after I graduated middle school and commenced high school at a completely different institution, because I believed it would open new doors at meeting new people, making friends and maybe, just maybe, I would get to love someone. To have someone to spend time with, have fun, talk sincerely, and overall, to have someone that cares about me. It turned out to be quite the opposite. Now I’m almost halfway through my professional career at the university, and since then it’s been dark times. Times of loneliness and negative emotions. Covid hasn’t helped, of course. Because of it, currently my days feel like a physical isolation from other people. Kinda like being in a one-man high security prison. At the very beginning of the pandemic, I somehow managed to get involved in a loving relationship, but due to my poor socializing skills I believe she got bored and made the decision to ghost me. That annihilated me. But I don’t hate her, neither do I blame her. I truly wish her the best. It may have been a very brief relationship, but one that was very valuable to my spirit. So... yeah… I really need to learn how to be a part of society. To be seen as an interesting individual worth hanging out with, to learn the necessary skills to maintain a friendship and, eventually, learn to love someone. For me and a life worth living and remembering.

Selection I guess Learning Launch is the most viable tool for my case, because it consists of small tests or interactions that will slowly develop my socializing methods. Also because the process will generate deep, personal and psychotherapeutic questions that may help me understand the reason I am the way I am.

Application Of course, I would love to test my methods at school, but there is no face-to-face school due to Covid. So, I needed a different approach. I like riding bicycles, but only practice it as a loner. Recently I heard about a particular cycling group that gathers near of where I live. I decided to join them and test my new socializing methods, which consists of positivity, eye contact, silence and listening, fellowship, sharing and respecting, demonstrating curiosity and, obviously, a happy face. *Note: I'm very introverted, and demonstrating most of these things has been a real struggle of mine. Learning Launch turned out to be the right tool. These small tests allowed me to quickly identify deﬁciencies or mistakes in my behaviour, and quickly make changes to it.

Insight Learning Launch was pretty effective. These small tests allowed me to quickly identify deﬁciencies or mistakes in my behaviour, and quickly make changes to it. But the main lesson came from someone I previously knew. A classmate from a long time ago

(childhood times) attended the event, and he provided me with very valuable feedback about my past behaviour and my new current behaviour. The problem: primarily my face. He told me back in the day I seemed angry all the time; I seemed to hate everything and everyone. This was really no surprise. The physical features of my face gave that impression, but that was my natural face, and making a happy face was against my nature. It physically hurts if I make it for an extended time. And of course, my introverted qualities made this aggressive appearance more believable; like I truly dislike people, when it was really the opposite. I like being around people. So, now that I was aware of my key problem and conﬁrmed the approach I should take, it’s time to train myself.

Approach What would I do differently next time? Mostly nothing. Just small details. Because overall, it was a quite successful experiment. I can’t really say I made friends, but I coexisted with new people that seem to be comfortable being near me. And that is big progress in my project. I will continue attending these events, and I'm hoping regular school will begin soon. It's what this project is mainly intended for, and that's why this isn’t a deﬁnitive method, because I might need to tweak it a bit in future testing. I also need to train the muscles of my face so I don't make the angry one, because it still hurts.

Reading this in its completion seems like a comedy. Maybe it is.


Re - creating socializing skills By someone that probably has a mental disorder Note : I really need this certiﬁcate ASAP . That ’s why I 'm making this about my life 's personal struggle . Challenge I ca n’t remember the last time I hung out with a real friend . I remember being very excited after I graduated middle school and commenced high school at a completely different institution , because I believed it would open new doors at meeting new people , making friends and maybe , just maybe , I would get to love someone . To have someone to spend time with , have fun , talk sincerely , and overall , to have someone that cares about me . It turned out to be quite the opposite . Now I ’m almost halfway through my professional career at the university , and since then it ’s been dark times . Times of loneliness and negative emotions . Covid has n’t helped , of course . Because of it , currently my days feel like a physical isolation from other people . Kinda like being in a one - man high security prison . At the very beginning of the pandemic , I somehow managed to get involved in a loving relationship , but due to my poor socializing skills I believe she got bored and made the decision to ghost me . That annihilated me . But I do n’t hate her , neither do I blame her . I truly wish her the best . It may have been a very brief relationship , but one that was very valuable to my spirit . So ... yeah … I really need to learn how to be a part of society . To be seen as an interesting individual worth hanging out with , to learn the necessary skills to maintain a friendship and , eventually , learn to love someone . For me and a life worth living and remembering . Selection I guess Learning Launch is the most viable tool for my case , because it consists of small tests or interactions that will slowly develop my socializing methods . Also because the process will generate deep , personal and psychotherapeutic questions that may help me understand the reason I am the way I am . Application Of course , I would love to test my methods at school , but there is no face - to - face school due to Covid . So , I needed a different approach . I like riding bicycles , but only practice it as a loner . Recently I heard about a particular cycling group that gathers near of where I live . I decided to join them and test my new socializing methods , which consists of positivity , eye contact , silence and listening , fellowship , sharing and respecting , demonstrating curiosity and , obviously , a happy face . * Note : I 'm very introverted , and demonstrating most of these things has been a real struggle of mine . Learning Launch turned out to be the right tool . These small tests allowed me to quickly identify deﬁciencies or mistakes in my behaviour , and quickly make changes to it . Insight Learning Launch was pretty effective . These small tests allowed me to quickly identify deﬁciencies or mistakes in my behaviour , and quickly make changes to it . But the main lesson came from someone I previously knew . A classmate from a long time ago ( childhood times ) attended the event , and he provided me with very valuable feedback about my past behaviour and my new current behaviour . The problem : primarily my face . He told me back in the day I seemed angry all the time ; I seemed to hate everything and everyone . This was really no surprise . The physical features of my face gave that impression , but that was my natural face , and making a happy face was against my nature . It physically hurts if I make it for an extended time . And of course , my introverted qualities made this aggressive appearance more believable ; like I truly dislike people , when it was really the opposite . I like being around people . So , now that I was aware of my key problem and conﬁrmed the approach I should take , it ’s time to train myself . Approach What would I do differently next time ? Mostly nothing . Just small details . Because overall , it was a quite successful experiment . I ca n’t really say I made friends , but I coexisted with new people that seem to be comfortable being near me . And that is big progress in my project . I will continue attending these events , and I 'm hoping regular school will begin soon . It 's what this project is mainly intended for , and that 's why this is n’t a deﬁnitive method , because I might need to tweak it a bit in future testing . I also need to train the muscles of my face so I do n't make the angry one , because it still hurts . Reading this in its completion seems like a comedy . Maybe it is .