37_https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IqtaW2ufbcw_reducing violence
gpt
Kia ora, Ricky, welcome back.
human
Kia ora.
gpt
Good. Are you okay today?
human
Yeah, yeah fine.
gpt
All right. So where we left last time, you were going away to think about a few things and to, um, develop some sort of plan of action. How'd it go? What were you up to?
human
Actually, it's been pretty good. I, um, I talked to my mom, which, uh-
gpt
Right.
human
-which is a big deal. And, uh, she was excellent. Um, I knew she would be. Um, and, uh, I've made an appointment for the, uh, for Stopping Violence and [unintelligible 00:16:15]
gpt
Good to know, excellent.
human
Um, I've cut down on the drink. I haven't stopped drinking, but, uh-- Yeah, so, uh, it's okay.
gpt
Things are looking pretty good.
human
Yeah.
gpt
So you've rung your mom, had a chat to her.
human
Mm-hmm.
gpt
Any other whānau members? You talked about your brothers and sisters last time.
human
Uh, I didn't speak to my brothers and sisters this time, I just spoke to my mom, but, uh, she, uh, she suggested that I go and stay with my, uh, auntie and my uncle. Uh—
gpt
Here in Christchurch?
human
Yeah.
gpt
Okay.
human
I'm not sure.
gpt
No?
human
I'm not sure, I'm thinking about it.
gpt
What are you not sure about?
human
Well, I'm not sure if I want to live with my auntie and uncle. [chuckles] Um, I think, yeah, I'll probably need to. I think probably living with, uh, with my mate in his flat is probably not that helpful.
gpt
Okay. Just sort of interested, when you rang your mom and, um, told her what's happening, how difficult was it to talk about the issue of violence and being violent towards your partner?
human
It was terrible. It was really hard. Uh, I think probably the hardest person to talk to about it, my mom. My, um, my old man, um-- Yeah, it was hard.
gpt
We-we talked about, uh, last time that this is hard stuff and that, um, we are prepared to kind of do the hard yard. So you've gone away, you've talked to your folks, put it out there about your issue of violence? Um, I'm thinking about, uh, with-with Tristan and the whole alcohol issue there. So it sounds like to me if you've- you've started to put quite a bit of stuff in place.
human
I try.
gpt
Yeah. What does it tell me about you as a man, as a father, as someone who wants to get moving?
human
Well, I hope it tells you that, um, that I'm a good bloke. That I'm a good dad. That I really- that I'm really serious. I am really serious.
gpt
Grand. You talked a little bit about, uh, you'd really like to get back with Kristie?
human
Yeah.
gpt
And-and-and your kids and developing that whānau. Have you had an opportunity to get in touch with her and—
human
Uh, yeah, I talked to her about it. We talked a little bit. Um, and she's not completely convinced.
gpt
Right.
human
Um, but we'll see how it goes.
gpt
Okay. So what do you think you're gonna need to do to show her and others, uh, to convince them that you are serious?
human
I need to, um, I need to see all these things that I've started to put into action, I need to see them through to the end.
gpt
Mm-hmm.
human
Well. I need to- I need to, uh, to show her that she can trust me. That I'm serious about it.
gpt
Yeah.