Personal Goal


# Lots of in person


### Mere presence of many important personal goals is related with high life satisfaction
- **Goal characters related with SWB**
> - match vs. conflict
> - content itself of goal
> - process versus outcome and others
> - Joy in process
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# Vertical coherence of goals - match vs. conflict


### **Structure Coherence at various levels**
- Between Goals
> - within level (horizontal)
> - b/w lower vs. higher level (vertical)
- Between personal resource & goa
- Between goals & environment (refer Kasser’s prison study)
### One makes other goal make easier versus. no coherence → regret

# Goal Framing - important attitude


- “avoidance” goals - not get criticized, not appear dumb
- “approach” goals - try something new, learn as much as possible
**second one is more closer to happiness - *a very stable, significant difference**

> The safest boat is one that never leaves the dock. 
> The next safest boat is one who know when to sail and when not to and where to sail and where not to And that is well-equipped and well taken care of.


# Focus of Goal Pursuit - Process versus Outcome


**“Linking” - **extent to which a person believes that their happiness is dependent upon obtaining certain kinds of outcomes
High Linkers - “I can be happy if and only X happens…” - even minor negative events seen as threats to higher order goals (happiness)
**High linkers ruminate more and experience more depression - like over justify**

# Joy is in the process


the activity should be engaged for intrinsic reasons (fun, enjoyment, interest), **not merely **as a means for another purpose (refer "wait")
> - intrinsic motivation - desire to engage in an activity because we enjoy it or find it interesting - ex. "Flow"
> - extrinsic motivation - desire to engage in an activity because of external rewards or pressures
> **Flow loss of self-consciousness(time flies) and give lot pleasure after flow**
>> Flow - Autotelic experience by high skill and challenge
>> auto = itself, telos= goal


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**Achievement: A ‘by-product’ of joyful engagement not a object - Happiness is NOT about reaching a destination, process**

# Over-justification


Occurs when incentives are used to bring out behavior without any external reward
- When overly rewarded, interest dies
> "the game lost its magical qualities for me once I thought seriously about playing for a living" - NBA legend, Bill Russell


# Summary


- minimize conflicts
- choose goals that maximize your talents, interests, and match your skill level - to Flow
- focus more on the PROCESS, less on the outcome"focus on BE**ING** X, not on BE**COMING** X"
"Changing time is tremendously shorter than life after change and process before change"




