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 D'Juan; not meaning to gloss over anything you've said, but I want to highlight a particular section because I think my response will help to address the remainder. On my talk page, you said ""I can't go against human nature and let someone slap me in the face and turn the other cheek. I can't allow arrogant users to believe what they are doing is right or to kiss their ass. I can't allow my freedoms to be taken away. And the bottom line is that this is so bad, I can leave Wikipedia and we can both be happy."" 

 Allow me to give you a hypothetical set of responses to, as you have said, an ""arrogant pompous user"" who has greatly angered you with something they have done to your user page. You could respond by undoing the vandalism and... 
 # Sending them a message ""Please do not vandalize my user page, or indeed any other page on Wikipedia. If you continue to vandalize, I will take appropriate steps to have your account banned. Thank you."" 
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 # Sending them a message ""You fucking asshole! Good fucking grief, is your life so pathetically empty that you have to go vandalizing people's user pages to find a sense of self worth in your worthless existence you call a life? Go get a fucking clue, and get off Wikipedia while you're at it! Oh, and have a plate-full of shit and eat it with a fucking rusty fork! When you're done with that, stick your head up your ass and lick up your desert, prick!"" 
 Now, you haven't responded like the second response above. But, your responses to people have been considerably closer to (2) at times than to (1).  

 Let's take a step back from this and take an above-the-trees look at the situation. What are your goals? The only goal that I can see is to stop the user vandalizing your user page, or any page on Wikipedia. Defending your honor in front of these people is not a worthwhile goal. You've never met these people, likely never will, and their opinions of you have absolutely no bearing on your life. Furthermore, your anger with them will not cause them to stop vandalizing your user page. Nothing that you can say to them in anger is going to do anything to stop them from doing more vandalizing. You have no physical way of stopping them. Using anger at them isn't going to make the situation any better. If instead you warn the user and later involve an admin if they continue (feel free to ask me to step in by the way), you can get the individual blocked, and/or have your user page temporarily protected.  

 When a user angers me (and they do at times) it's not a matter of turning the cheek. I recognize the relative importance in my life of the people here; they have no..zero..zip...nadda..impact on my life. Their opinions of me do not matter. Anger is not a response that is going to yield anything productive. When you removed my comments to you on your user page following your withdrawn RfA and in the edit summary said ""rv assholes"", I could have taken great offense, and responded to you in like manner, calling you an asshole for ignoring my attempts to help you. Instead, I attempted to re-engage you in discussion. Result? We're talking again! That's good! That's productive! If I'd gotten angry with you, you'd be pissed off, I'd be pissed off, and nothing positive would have happened.  

 I can write just as much vitriol as anyone else can. I spent 8 years in the US Navy Reserves. I can dress someone down with insults with the best of them and leave them crying for their mommies. But, it sure doesn't prove to anyone that I am any more of a 'man', or get them to do what I want them to do. As you say, human nature is to respond to anger with anger. Where does it stop? FOCUS on the goals you want to achieve. IDENTIFY what tasks you need to do to achieve those goals. GO AFTER those tasks with all of your intelligence. With those steps you will achieve great things. If you instead choose to get angry whenever someone upsets you, you are no better than an animal force to respond to the demands of your DNA; completely subservient to 'human nature' and incapable of rising about the primordial muck and becoming something more.  

 Nobody will respect you for being able to dish out hate-filled vitriol. People will respect you for being a leader, and resolving situations in a calm, mature manner. You are very intelligent. Don't waste yourself in the primordial muck of 'human nature'. Aspire to be better.   

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