::The meaning of bugger in Canadian and American English is almost totally expletive and disappearing very quickly.  If you want to use colourful language then you could use 'fucked' as it is not particular to male or female. However I find it totally inappropriate for a neutral and thoughful information source. I would rather be fucked by my valet than buggered by him, just because bugger is such an archaic word that the valet sounds old!  Also the word bugger, because of it's negative connotations, seems more violent than a more neutral phrase. I vote for 'penetrated.'