Tommy Roome, of Rams Grove, Romford, has been accused of murdering Mr Hayden, 27, who was stabbed outside his home in Chadwell Heath on 13 September.
Mr Roome was also charged with the attempted murder of Mr Hayden's father, Paul, 46, who was also injured.
He is due to appear at Barkingside Magistrates' Court on Friday.
Mr Hayden died from a stab wound to the thigh a day after he was attacked in Gibbfield Close at about 01:25 BST.
Both he and his father were assaulted when they confronted a group of men outside their home following the attempted theft of a moped.
The bodyguard had worked in security at ITV and at high-profile events including the marriage between footballer Peter Crouch and model Abbey Clancy. He was also employed by Havering Council.
Two other teenagers, aged 16 and 19, were previously arrested over the attack and bailed.

Thirty-six whales were rescued and pushed back into the sea at Tuticorin on Tuesday, but 28 of them floated back to the shore and died on Wednesday.
Earlier, 45 whales died after 81 of the animals were stranded on Monday.
The last time such an incident occurred in Tuticorin was in 1973 when 147 whales died.
Local fishermen, helped by officials, have been using mechanised boats to float the stranded whales back into the sea, but many of the animals have returned to the shore, BBC Hindi's Imran Qureshi reports.
"This is a well known phenomenon. When there is mass stranding, whales return ashore. Pilot whales are very social animals and they live in groups. They are very aware that some of their group members are in distress on the shore, possibly dead, so they don't wish to go back into the sea," whale expert Dr Kumaran Sathasivam said.
The dead whales are being buried near the shore at Tuticorin, officials say.

FirstGroup takes over on Sunday amid ongoing disputes over driver-operated doors and the role of train guards.
The company said it would be "retaining a second person" on board trains.
The RMT union said in talks the firm refused to provide a guarantee "despite what they have been telling the press".
FirstGroup and Hong Kong company MTR will provide 90 new trains by December 2020 with doors that can be operated by the driver.
Franchise managing director Andy Mellors said: "Our commitment with the 750 new carriages for the suburban routes out of Waterloo is that we will be retaining a second person on board those trains."
But following talks the RMT said FirstGroup altered the wording to say it was "planning" to keep a second person.
General secretary Mick Cash said: "The company refused to give a guarantee that there will be a second person â€Žon their trains despite what they have been telling the press.
"They also failed to clarify what safety competencies and role a second member of staff would have on their services."
The union sees a second member of staff on board its trains as "critical" to passenger safety.
In an earlier BBC interview, Mr Mellors said the new trains would "retain a second person" on board, but could not say what that person's role would be.
A company statement said: "We know that a second member of staff provides assurance to our passengers on trains and ensures we have capable colleagues on board to deliver assistance during the journey for anyone that needs help or advice while travelling on our trains."
Disputes over driver-only operated trains on other rail services have led to 16 months of industrial action by the RMT.
The South Western rail service currently operates routes between London Waterloo, Reading, Bristol, Exeter, Weymouth, and Portsmouth, as well as Island Line on the Isle of Wight.
A 19-year-old man has been charged with the murder of celebrity minder Ricky Hayden, who was stabbed to death in east London.
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The number of short-finned pilot whales who have died after they were stranded on a beach in the Indian state of Tamil Nadu has risen to 73, officials said.
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The new South Western rail franchise holder has been criticised by a union for allegedly refusing to guarantee a second staff member on board its forthcoming trains.