You Hurt My Feelings (2023 film)
You Hurt My Feelings is a 2023 American comedy-drama film written, directed and produced by Nicole Holofcener. It stars Julia Louis-Dreyfus, Tobias Menzies, Michaela Watkins, Arian Moayed and  Jeannie Berlin. The film was shot in New York City in May 2022. It had its world premiere at the 2023 Sundance Film Festival on January 22, 2023, and was released in the United States on May 26, 2023, by A24. Summary
Beth is a successful memoirist and teacher, who has recently written her first fiction novel. She is in a loving marriage with Don (Tobias Menzies), a therapist. Don struggles with feeling self-conscious over aging and struggles with his patients, many of whose problems he is not engaged with. Beth's agent tells her that her novel needs multiple revisions causing her to doubt her work. She is reassured by Don, who has read a draft of the work and suggests she seek out other representation with someone who is more enthusiastic about her. While out shopping for socks, Don confesses to Mark, Beth's brother-in-law, that he does not like Beth's novel but feels he cannot be honest with Beth, a conversation which Beth inadvertently overhears, when Beth and her sister Sarah (Michaela Watkins) enter the store to greet their husbands. Beth's faith in their relationship is shaken. Her sister, Sarah, Mark's wife, tries to reassure her that she occasionally has to lie to her husband, an actor, about his performances. This does not reassure Beth. Beth continues to struggle and acts out towards Don. At Mark's birthday dinner, she finally reveals to Don that she overheard what he said. Though he tries to tell Beth she was missing context, he eventually reveals that he does not like her book but did not want to discourage her as it was only his opinion. When Eliot, Beth and Don's son, accuses Beth of putting pressure on him to be extraordinary, Don and Beth finally talk out their differences. They talk about white lies they have told each other and Beth realizes that part of the way she reacts is due to the verbal abuse her controlling father put her through as a child. She seeks out a new agent who is enthusiastic about her work. One year later, Beth's novel is published. Don and Beth, now reconciled, celebrate their anniversary. Don decides to go through a major change which is under eye surgery and Beth lies to him and tell him he's going to look great. Cast 
 Julia Louis-Dreyfus as Beth, a novelist who also teaches writing classes
 Tobias Menzies as Don, a therapist and Beth's husband
 Michaela Watkins as Sarah, Beth's sister
 Arian Moayed as Mark, Sarah's husband
 Owen Teague as Eliot, Beth and Don's son
 Jeannie Berlin as Georgia, Beth and Sarah's mother
 Amber Tamblyn as Carolyn 
 David Cross as Jonathan
 Zach Cherry as Jim
 Sarah Steele as Frankie
 LaTanya Richardson Jackson as Sylvia
 Sunita Mani as Dr. Allen
 Deniz Akdeniz as Vince
 Clara Wong as Ali

Production 
In October 2021, it was announced Julia Louis-Dreyfus would star in and produce the film, then titled Beth and Don, with Nicole Holofcener directing from a screenplay she wrote. In May 2022, Tobias Menzies, Michaela Watkins, Arian Moayed, Owen Teague, Jeannie Berlin, David Cross and Amber Tamblyn joined the cast of the film. Principal photography began in May 2022, in New York City. Cinematographer Jeffrey Waldron said, "I worked to build a natural, inviting New York look that didn't distract from the unfolding story, but brought cinematic punctuation to its important human moments". To achieve this, he used an Arri Alexa Mini camera with custom-adjusted Panavision Primo lenses. In order to make the film feel "filmic, human and handmade", he further softened and reduced contrast in prep with the help of a custom film emulation LUT. Release
A24 picked up the U.S. distribution rights at the 2021 American Film Market. The film premiered on January 22, 2023, at the Sundance Film Festival. It was released theatrically on May 26, 2023. Reception

Box office 
In the United States and Canada, You Hurt My Feelings was released alongside  The Little Mermaid, Kandahar, The Machine, and About My Father, and was projected to gross around $1 million from 912 theaters over its four-day Memorial Day opening weekend. The film grossed $474,000 on its first day, and debuted to $1.4 million over the 3-day weekend (and $1.8 million over the four-day frame). Critical response 
  Audiences surveyed by PostTrak gave the film an overall 75% positive score, with 42% saying they would definitely recommend it. References

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2023 comedy-drama films
2023 films
2023 independent films
2020s American films
2020s English-language films
A24 (company) films
American comedy-drama films
American independent films
English-language comedy-drama films
FilmNation Entertainment films
Films directed by Nicole Holofcener
Films scored by Michael Andrews
Films shot in New York City
Films with screenplays by Nicole Holofcener