&gt; Why is this such a big problem?<p>These needs are not a problem. But not stating them clearly creates a problem, where you do what you think would help, but your needs are still not satisfied.<p>&gt; I don&#x27;t like this sentiment that everyone must be a rock and steel-strong independent individual who never has to rely on others&#x2F;relationships&#x2F;family&#x2F;society and just cuts through life like a knife through butter.<p>I didn&#x27;t say that either. The more clear and honest you are in expressing your needs to others – the more likely you to get them fulfilled. But for that you often need to do some work first; you can&#x27;t rely on others to know your needs better then you.