Sorry this is a bit of an un-HN comment<p>&gt; A few months later I ran into Tanya. We had a lot of fun together and she eventually told me that she was sorry she didn’t get back to me that time. Apparently at the time she was questioning her entire sexual identity and was trying to figure out if she was a lesbian.<p>I had this, but slightly different, from the other side recently. Met this great girl, got on really well, talked on Facebook for weeks, there was definitely some of this &quot;How long should I wait?&quot; going on. But, unfortunately for her this coincided with me questioning my gender. As time was going on things were progressing well with her, but it felt more and more like I was lying to her and leading her on. I didn&#x27;t know how to go about telling her, it&#x27;s not the kind of thing you can tell someone you don&#x27;t know that well, let alone someone you are flirting with... In the end I noobed out and stopped talking to her. I felt so guilty, I&#x27;m sure she was wondering what she did or said. I have since apologised and told her why.<p>&gt; Well, that was definitely not a theory that crossed my mind.<p>I think that was pretty much exactly what she said.