Generally speaking, if a person is required to talk to you as their job, they probably don&#x27;t desire it.[0] They&#x27;re not in the right headspace and they get it plenty enough as it is. Similarly, if you have no idea who they are and they&#x27;re not in a location (physically or online) which implies they&#x27;re interested in receiving random attention, they&#x27;re probably not going to be interested. Aside from that, testing boundaries is something most people seem to learn to do.<p>Personally, as a woman, I&#x27;ve been friends first with almost every person I&#x27;ve dated - I have a suspicion that that is what&#x27;s missing from the current general dating culture. The idea that every person you meet, you&#x27;ve got to decide whether they&#x27;re &quot;dating material&quot; or &quot;friend material&quot; near-instantly (generally based on the context of where&#x2F;how you met them) is bizarre.<p>[0] They also probably don&#x27;t desire discussions about politics or your pet dog or other things unrelated to the job unless they bring it up. They&#x27;re rarely in a position of power here - the customer is. You&#x27;re not equals in this exchange.