After years of teaching and mentoring, I love helping those &quot;asking for help&quot;. See my stackoverflow profile if you want. However, also after years of teaching, I am very abrasive to those &quot;demanding assistance&quot;. I find that subtly is often drained out of conversations regarding the responsibility of the teacher and the consideration of the learner.<p>&quot;Can you help me understand why <i>this</i> doesnt work?&quot;<p>...is very different from...<p>&quot;It looks like you know what you are doing, fix this for me.&quot;<p>..even though the outcomes are often very similar.