Or to think that it doesn&#x27;t matter what happens externally.<p>Aurelius says something like &quot;How ridiculous and how strange to be surprised by anything that happens in life.&quot; As in, why would external events matter or be a surprise? Things happen. The only thing you can control is how you react to them and what you choose to do about them. That helps me at least. It&#x27;s all about process, not outcomes. Outcome is a roll of the die, so all you can do is make sure your internal processes are sound.