Don&#x27;t feel like an asshole. Life is complicated and turbulent - everyone&#x27;s. It&#x27;s easy to forget that when watching TV or browsing Facebook, which beam only idealised portraits and high notes into our minds--the conscious and unconscious parts. It&#x27;s easy to think everyone has their shit together and you&#x27;re the only fuckup, but you couldn&#x27;t be more wrong.<p>In reality, a lot more parents stayed together for the kids than you realise. Decades of marriage aren&#x27;t easy to sustain for anyone, no matter what their personalities or notional compatibility. Many more people struggled and struggle with depression, alcoholism or substance abuse than meets the eye. There&#x27;s a veneer of <i>comme il faut</i> civilisation over it all, but it&#x27;s very thin.<p>Actually-existing reality is messy. The world is messy. Don&#x27;t forget that you only see the curated--in some cases scrupulously curated--presentation layer of almost everyone else&#x27;s life.<p>It&#x27;s almost like going to a Quixtar-Amway IBO motivational conference&#x2F;Sieg Heil cult rally, or any trade show consisting primarily of account reps, crazed MBA apes and sales bullshitters; it&#x27;ll seem like everyone&#x27;s a successful millionaire except you, because that&#x27;s the whole point of the venture. Nobody would pay expensive registration fees to attend a grim, morose and sober appraisal of the ups and downs of the casino that is their life. In reality, 89% of them are broke.