Exactly the same here. I think it&#x27;s not really &quot;being a dick&quot;, but just a dissonance between how the different types of people operate. I&#x27;m usually so passive that any sort &quot;No, I want my free time after work&quot; feels rude, and I&#x27;m probably not very good at being assertive and nice at the same time yet, haha.<p>The other developers always seemed to get the message that when I said &quot;Maybe... I&#x27;m not sure if I have the time for it... I can see...&quot;, I really meant &quot;No, but please don&#x27;t make me say no.&quot;, while anyone else hears it as &quot;Cool, he said he would see if he has the time for it&quot; and then follow up with me a few days later &quot;Did you make time for that project?&quot;<p>I&#x27;m making an effort to flat out say &quot;No&quot; more often, but it&#x27;s nice that other people are also beginning to realize that I only mean &quot;Yes&quot; when I actually use the word &quot;yes&quot;.