&gt; as a man, you should strive to be elite in something, preferably something useful and sexually attractive. Otherwise you&#x27;re just another brick in the wall.<p>The way you phrase this, the more probable cause would be that <i>women</i> don&#x27;t want to marry <i>down</i>, hence men are motivated to be better (and they know that by being &quot;just another brick in the wall&quot; won&#x27;t get them the partner they want&quot;).<p>This agrees with my observations of the world. Men don&#x27;t care about accomplishments, they (we) just want a woman that is beautiful; whereas women care much more about a man&#x27;s social status (<i>warning</i>: this is a very broad generalisation and of course doesn&#x27;t hold for everybody).