&gt;&gt; I have a better explanation. She was talking about the kinds of stuff she was into, and didn&#x27;t sense that you were into the same things. Then when you said you did do stuff like that, she was interested because you had more in common.<p>Or...she could be a normal person and try to understand what I&#x27;ve been doing my whole life until now, just like I was listening to her about her own stories. Because in normal world, people have diverse lives.<p>If I say I only want a programmer woman (since I&#x27;m a programmer), but who is even better than me. What would you say about that? Am I being picky? Big ego? If I am, then why isn&#x27;t she called picky?