After having a few long-term but ultimately unsuccessful relationships via online dating, I&#x27;m holding out for some god damn serendipity for the next one.<p>I don&#x27;t believe in &quot;the one&quot; or any of that flighty bullshit, but I do feel there is just something different about the bond you make with another human if you just happen to find yourselves in a situation together, rather than the logical omniscience effect of knowing that you sort of engineered to be together, and knowing that they know that you know this, and so on.<p>Don&#x27;t get me wrong. The few partners I&#x27;ve had from dating apps were amazing people and I&#x27;m glad to have known them. There&#x27;s nothing wrong with finding partners that way and many people find a lot of happiness through it.<p>I think I just feel saturated by online dating and the pre-engineered and instant gratification feelings that can come along with it.<p>It reminds me of a DFW quote:<p><i>“Both destiny&#x27;s kisses and its dope-slaps illustrate an individual person&#x27;s basic personal powerlessness over the really meaningful events in his life: i.e. almost nothing important that ever happens to you happens because you engineer it. Destiny has no beeper; destiny always leans trenchcoated out of an alley with some sort of Psst that you usually can&#x27;t even hear because you&#x27;re in such a rush to or from something important you&#x27;ve tried to engineer.”</i>