I didn&#x27;t seek instant gratification, nor did my partners. And in fact, one thing I had in common with each partner was a mutual dislike of the online interface through which we met specifically because we felt it forced instant gratification mindset upon you.<p>This is only an anecdote, of course, so others may have vastly different experiences. But for me, it felt impossible to interact with almost all other participants in a dating platform <i>unless</i> you did seek instant gratification -- because that&#x27;s what everyone else was evaluating in <i>you</i> (the ability to serve as instant gratification <i>for them</i>).<p>That&#x27;s what I mean in terms of disliking the instant gratification aspects of the dating platforms. It seems integral to the platform, regardless of whether it&#x27;s part of what you personally are seeking (it wasn&#x27;t for me) and this has been constant across several different platforms over a fairly long period of time, so it seems more like a consistent trait of <i>online dating platforms</i> than a particular consequence of how one uses them.