The current dominant themes in certain feminism &amp; diversity cliques in our community are openly hostile towards me.  I&#x27;m a male.  I&#x27;m white.  I&#x27;m middle class.  I&#x27;m heterosexual.<p>I&#x27;m also a leader.  I&#x27;m a parent of two daughters.  My mother had to fight sexism issues in her career.  I am supportive of inclusion &amp; diversity.  I am trying to raise my girls to be empowered, confident &amp; curious.  But the dominant themes in current diversity &amp; feminist circles are so racist &amp; sexist towards me that my first impulse is outrage.<p>For those of you who share this impulse- I want to provide the piece of perspective that helps me manage my frustration: Our culture operates under a pendulum.  Right now, it&#x27;s bad, but it will swing back.<p>There are “equality” people who are openly hostile to certain categories of humans based on gender, sexuality &amp; race.  This has happened before and it will happen again.<p>The pendulum will swing back and we&#x27;ll look back at these people in the same way as certain stale feminists &amp; race marketeers of the 80s, 70s, 60s, 50s etc.  The leaders of these ideas in the tech community who focus on gender &amp; race over building products that people want will not last.  They get louder &amp; shriller, but wielding bigotry to fight bigotry always fertilizes suspicion.<p>You can&#x27;t fight exclusion with exclusion.  So don’t worry about these themes.  If people aren’t bitching about their bigotry, their relevance wanes.<p>Just keep trying to do big things.  If someone calls you privileged, it doesn&#x27;t mean it wasn&#x27;t hard &amp; that you didn&#x27;t earn it.  You don’t have to argue with every person who writes something stupid on the Internet.  To hell with those bigots.  Their misery does not earn them the right to rob you of your own self worth and success.  Diversity means that all perspectives deserve to be heard.  It is ok that someone uses the word diversity to ward off white folks from leading.  The community eventually rejects this kind of bigotry.<p>You can find these people worthy of your contempt and still be supportive of diversity &amp; equality.  Now ignore these fools and go build your shit.