Well, what sucks is when you only get attention from groups that you have no interest in, and the people you are interested in seem to have no interest in you.<p>In a way, getting the interest from the undesirable people makes it even worse, because you&#x27;re seeing the difference.  If everyone ignored you, it wouldn&#x27;t seem as bad I think.  But if you&#x27;re a straight dude, and you can&#x27;t get a date to save your life, but gay men are constantly hitting on you, that&#x27;s not going to do much for your self-esteem, it&#x27;s going to make you question why you only seem to appeal to them.