&gt; deeper need, like &quot;need to not feel alone&quot;, &quot;need for social recognition&quot;, &quot;need to feel secure&quot; and so on<p>Why is this such a big problem? We are social animals and like to be around others. And yes, part of it is social recognition, we mostly do what&#x27;s expected in our culture and don&#x27;t like to be the odd ones. Many people like to boast how unique and non-conformist they are, but deep down most of us want to be accepted.<p>You could say there&#x27;s no need for career achievements either, because then you&#x27;re just a workoholic. There&#x27;s no need for anything in particular.<p>I don&#x27;t like this sentiment that everyone must be a rock and steel-strong independent individual who never has to rely on others&#x2F;relationships&#x2F;family&#x2F;society and just cuts through life like a knife through butter. Most of us aren&#x27;t like that and if you listen to any successful person they will tell you how much they can thank other people (spouse, family, friends) for their support and how they couldn&#x27;t have achieved the things they did without that support. The totally individualist mindset is not healthy I think (for most people).<p>Of course I don&#x27;t mean you should be desperate. But people in our lives are not just &quot;supporting actors&quot; in our movie, but a lot more important. They shape us in many ways.