I once proposed that the way to express one&#x27;s attraction to a person was to treat the person nicely, e.g., holding a door for them.  My interlocutor responded &quot;So, flirt with them.&quot;  I suddenly had no idea was &quot;flirting&quot; was.  I thought flirting meant actions intended to propose amorous activity (American Heritage Dictionary: &quot;To amuse oneself in playful amorousness; play lightly or mockingly at courtship&quot;), and my sincere intent had been to remove that element.  Had I been flirting all these years?  Is it impossible <i>not</i> to flirt, while treating people in a warm manner?