What I&#x27;m arguing is that attraction bypasses the mechanisms of will and rational decision. We are not logical robots. Most of us do not &quot;decide&quot; to like another person.<p>Falling in love or feeling sexually attracted to someone are irrational things by definition. You do not decide to do it. You cannot force yourself to feel attracted to someone because they &quot;play fair&quot;, either. Because of (reasonable) society norms, you cannot simply engage with everyone you&#x27;re sexually attracted to -- it&#x27;s not ok to harass fellow coworkers, or someone else&#x27;s partner, etc. But the core of it is irrational. You cannot impose rational rules like &quot;I&#x27;ll pay more attention to people who text me back immediately or who are more considerate of other people, or who I agree with on serious issues, even though what I&#x27;d <i>really</i> like is to call X and do the naughty all night long&quot;.