I can&#x27;t speak for him but I&#x27;m a bit over 40 and single again, and looking.  What I&#x27;m seeing in the DC metro area is a ton of single women in my age range who are single and never married, and all of a sudden now they want to get married and have kids.  (Some of them want kids, some don&#x27;t.)  So not &quot;pushing 30&quot;, but &quot;pushing 40&quot;.  Other data I&#x27;ve seen shows that there&#x27;s a big surplus of single women in both the NYC and DC metro areas.  OTOH, in Seattle and the Bay Area, there&#x27;s a big surplus of single men.  (There&#x27;s a smaller surplus in Portland.)<p>My problem is that I don&#x27;t live quite in the DC area, I&#x27;m about an hour away from downtown DC.  And what I&#x27;m finding is that the desirable single women all live right in downtown DC, and do not want to date a man who lives an hour away.  Now, if there were a healthy market of compatible men, this attitude would be quite understandable.  But we&#x27;re talking about a bunch of women who are bitching that they can&#x27;t find any decent men to date, but then I come along and I&#x27;m told, &quot;you look great, but you&#x27;re too far away!!  Sorry, but give me a ring when you move closer.&quot;<p>So IMO, these women are extremely picky and unrealistic.  If I find someone I really like and might want to marry, I would move to be closer to her, just like married couples routinely move long-distance because one of them got a new job.  I&#x27;ve even stated this up-front, as I do not plan to stay in my current location long-term (I&#x27;m a software engineer like probably half the audience here, our jobs don&#x27;t last that long and we move around a lot).  So as far as I can tell, many of these women have done this to themselves by being way too picky and having overly high expectations.  They think they&#x27;re going to find a guy who looks like George Clooney or whatever, has a $250j&#x2F;year career, and lives across the street from them.