Hmm. Possibly. Obviously that&#x27;s not how I read it, but I don&#x27;t claim that my way is the only way it could have been read.<p>I can&#x27;t say I agree with the choice you&#x27;ve assumed, though, between &quot;language policing&quot; a comment, and appreciating it for its substantive contribution. I think we&#x27;re all sophisticated enough that we can recognize the substantive value of a comment, as I&#x27;ve tried to do, while also trying to suggest ways to build a more respectful community for everyone. In its best form, &quot;language policing&quot; will usually not be unconditional and vociferous condemnation, but rather a thoughtful sharing of perspectives and suggestion for incremental improvement.<p>This is the very ethos of this forum in so many other arenas--tech, business, often politics--but I&#x27;m often disappointed that the prevailing attitude here is so <i>closed</i> when it comes to issues of gender politics (for lack of a better term). Part of the issue may be that these issues are not always thoughtfully raised, and there can sometimes be an unwelcome tendency towards outrage (in both directions). But I think it would be a shame if we didn&#x27;t keep trying to improve ourselves, and the tech community at large to make for a more welcoming community.<p>Edit: As others have pointed out elsewhere, one does not normally describe a relationship as &quot;out of your league.&quot; That&#x27;s a description typically bestowed upon <i>people</i>. I suspect this is why I and others have interpreted the comment they way we have. I don&#x27;t think this entirely rules out the possibility you raised about the original commenter&#x27;s intent, but I do think it means that my interpretation is probably correct--or at least eminently defensible.<p>I&#x27;d also add that the original commenter&#x27;s intent does not matter much to me. I was never here to impugn his or her character in the first place. My point has only ever been that the comment, regardless of its precise intended meaning, reasonably communicates a certain disrespect for women.