&gt; Also, honestly in this day and age is it really appropriate to take at minimum 4 days to respond to a question from your <i>&quot;significant other&quot;</i>? That is not normal. [emphasis added]<p>This is the real problem. Once you&#x27;re dating someone (that is, it&#x27;s past the courtship part and you&#x27;ve acknowledged the relationship), if you can&#x27;t check your communication devices at least once or twice a day for messages from them (excluding hectic work&#x2F;life schedules), there&#x27;s a problem. You&#x27;re continuing the game from courtship, you don&#x27;t respect them, or you aren&#x27;t actually into the relationship.<p>EDIT: Added &#x27;once or &#x27;. I realize this is a YMMV moment, but even if you don&#x27;t carry your phone during the day (like me), you can check it when you wake up and before bed. And if you&#x27;re interested&#x2F;invested in someone, you&#x27;ve got to make more time than that or there&#x27;s never an actual conversation.