&gt; Some people (probably most people) don&#x27;t wear clothes just to get a reaction from others.<p>The clothes people choose to wear becomes a part of their identity. They are choosing for a reason, that reason comes from them. Unless you&#x27;re a kid and your parents are picking out your clothes for you, what you wear is a reflection of who you are.<p>Nobody deserves to receive negative attention from others based on how they dress, but it&#x27;s a bit of wishful thinking to claim that there should be no consequences to how you look. People get what they work towards, not what they deserve. And two people can receive the same attention, one person can receive it positively, the other negatively. Without reading a person&#x27;s mind, it&#x27;s impossible to know how to &#x27;safely&#x27; interact with them.<p>&gt; he &quot;real answer&quot; of &quot;what should I do&quot; about being treated this way is to fight this misconception<p>Need to stop you right there. You can&#x27;t demand that someone get political just to change their personal situation. Fighting for social justice is a privilege afforded to those who have managed to reach a point in their lives where they can afford to spend great deals of their time persuading others to change the way they think.<p>You and I have this privilege, most people do not. Many people, if they start trying to fight the &quot;way things are&quot;, it will get them fired.<p>&gt; While you are welcome to have your own opinion, lumping your own experiences in with theirs and expressing an opinion about both as if they were one experience is not only factually inaccurate, it prevents discussion about the issue at hand, which is women receive unfair and undesireable treatment from men.<p>Nobody is doing this. I expressed an experience I had that I felt had parallels to her experience. Both experiences had parallels to the ordinary one. I shared them because I felt they&#x27;d help illustrate what goes on under their noses. It&#x27;s not quite as overt as in my case, but it still happens, more subtly.<p>I&#x27;m not trying to conflate, but to raise awareness.