Your Berkeley friends may simply be more educated. In any case, before you pass judgment, try expressing a differing opinion.<p>Most of the feminists that are my friends aren&#x27;t &#x27;militant&#x27;. I can disagree with them and point out where their little bits of dogma differ with reality. We can usually have a discussion and learn from each other.<p>But trying to do that with any self-proclaimed feminist who doesn&#x27;t already know me and it&#x27;s I don&#x27;t get it because of male privilege, or I&#x27;m ignorant on the subject (even if I cite sources and they don&#x27;t), or I&#x27;m a rapist or rape sympathizer. They give me appeals to (their own) authority, fabricated statistics* , specious arguments about female fear, and I get shouted down if I want to discuss where males have similar struggles to females.<p>I once pointed out that the term feminism does not espouse the equality the feminist movement is trying to achieve. I said that is a disservice to the movement because it excludes some would-be allies while at the same time encouraging the &quot;bad&quot; type of feminist. I also pointed out that if someone self-identifies as a feminist, I don&#x27;t <i>really</i> know what that person means. For some, like your friends apparently, it means what I think it means. But for others it means &quot;white males are the devil.&quot;<p>I was immediately attacked. My attacker stated that she had read all the literature and (a million non sequiturs). My feminist friends just bowed out of the conversation, which irked me. The only person who stood up and was like &quot;Uh, this is crazy. You&#x27;re not even talking about what he said,&quot; was another male.<p>*Did you know murder by males is the number one cause of death among females?<p>Edit: Formatting