The women who treat other women harsher than men are doing so from internalized misogyny.  The men who are harder on other men are doing so because being bad at coding is seen as (at least within our patriarchal society) a feminine trait and thus they are harder on men who display feminine traits than on women who they expect such behavior from.<p>Edit: Just to clarify, are those down voting me unhappy of the literal message, not liking my use of sarcasm, or not approving of the message inferred by my sarcasm?