Read in a book: &quot;If you spoke to your friends like you speak to yourself, would anyone ever want to be your friend?&quot; (&quot;Living with a heart wide open&quot;). 
The line instantly changed my self-talk from negative and dystopian to compassionate and constructive i.e. things like scolding myself when I missed a freeway exit while driving. Turns out my case is not uncommon - most people call themselves stupid 8-10 times a day.