In fact, for me, it is the other way around.<p>When I was dating some girls, I couldn&#x27;t concentrate on myself completely.<p>I had to stop it and check what I really wanted, what I wanted &quot;besides&quot; not being alone.<p>This lead to questioning my job and quit it too, haha.<p>When I was single, and knew what I wanted, I didn&#x27;t had to cry after someone who didn&#x27;t accept me for who I wasn&#x27;t, it became okay for me.<p>I started to see the opinions, people have about me, simply as an opinion and not criticism about me as a person. Like some people don&#x27;t like peanut butter, and I do, and it doesn&#x27;t make peanut butter less delicious just because some people don&#x27;t like it. I don&#x27;t liked monogamy so I didn&#x27;t date mono-people anymore.<p>Then I started to project this into my work life as well.
I looked what I wanted and threw away what I had.
I didn&#x27;t want a 9-5 job in an open office space, I wanted home office without people disturbing me while coding, without commuting etc. So I didn&#x27;t accept any offers that didn&#x27;t at least offered this.<p>Now my life feels much better :)