&gt; In most cases, they&#x27;ll only accept the phone call if they&#x27;re already into the guy. If they&#x27;re unsure about the guy, he&#x27;s probably ensured he&#x27;s going to get a negative response.<p>Counterpoint: this is self selection mechanism in itself. I don&#x27;t want to be dating the person who can&#x27;t handle getting a phone call without it being &quot;awkward&quot; or &quot;weird&quot;.<p>Playing the game by the numbers is only worthwhile if your goal is ephemeral (i.e. to &quot;score&quot;). If your goal is to have a lasting meaningful relationship, then who cares what the numbers are. Be yourself.<p>&gt; After the initial courting phase, I&#x27;ve found things to be a bit different and more dependent upon the individual. That&#x27;s the time to show your own preferences rather than play the game.<p>If your preferences matter to you, use them as a selection methodology or you&#x27;re just wasting time.