You are not a member of a statistically underrepresented population in software engineering, so when you decide to describe how you would feel if you were allowed to participate in an event because of your background, you should be more careful to add the disclaimer that your circumstances are not representative of these people&#x27;s.<p>My issue is not that you chose to describe your own feelings, though I feel like those feelings are pretty banal and uninteresting. My issue is that you chose to share those feelings by reframing someone else&#x27;s feelings. <i>You</i> would be uncomfortable. <i>These people are not</i>. Your circumstances are so different from theirs that we can safely assume there are plenty of valid reasons why they feel differently.