I <i>am</i> trying to address your central point. Your point is, as far as I can understand, &quot;if it&#x27;s okay for the military to control soldiers&#x27; sex lives in X, Y, and Z ways, why isn&#x27;t it okay to similarly control teenager&#x27;s and unmarried people&#x27;s sex lives?&quot;<p>But the kinds and degrees of control that work successfully are totally different from the kinds that you&#x27;re suggesting. The &quot;seizing on an ambiguity&quot; is actually seizing on the fact that the policies you claim support abstinence&#x27;s effectiveness are <i>not policies of abstinence</i>.