Oh, I know what all the advice is in the abstract. I want anecdotes, to see whether the advice people give actually matches up with the statistical reality.<p>For example, large raises might happen more often than people think. If the people who <i>do</i> get raises never talk about them, for fear of their coworkers finding out about the widened pay-gap, then it would <i>seem</i> like nobody gets big raises.