Looking online is your problem. Sure, donatj met his wife on Ok Cupid, but online dating is mostly luck. I have girl friends with an account... they get tens of messages a day, if not more. Even if you do everything right, you can get lost in the inbox (kinda like applying for jobs!).<p>Online dating works as an &quot;extra&quot; way to find someone, not your sole source. Despite all the talk about online culture, most couples of any kind (serious, affair, etc) meet in person.