That&#x27;s another good point. Many IT people have poor social skills. Women often feel or act uncomfortable around them when they&#x27;re acting a bit more &quot;confident.&quot; Then, someone expects them to take the lead rather aggressively in an extra-uncomfortable situation. See the double standard about comfort zones and harm in the making?<p>I feel for the &quot;nerd&quot; in that position. A normal, but geeky, person can pull it off easy enough. The other type might be very uncomfortable depending on who they&#x27;re showing up.