&gt; I don&#x27;t know. I just posted this because I guessed many people here have been in my shoes. Have you? What did you do?<p>Not in this context but in a similar situation yes. Long time ago. What I did was introspection until finally I reached and embraced the cold, hard truth:<p>- I&#x27;m finding all kind of excuses not to <i>do</i> what I <i>know</i> I should be <i>doing</i> because I&#x27;m afraid.<p>- The fact that I am not happy has little to do with my job and everything to do with me.<p>- Why I feel unhappy? With whom am I really unhappy with and why?!<p>- If I can&#x27;t find some <i>quality time</i>  NOW (running, learning an instrument, having fun with my then gf - now wife, etc.) it will <i>never</i> happen. I have to make it happen.<p>- It&#x27;s all about choices I do, some are intentional and others are unintentional<p>... and finally it hit me! I lacked two things: A very specific <i>cause</i> like a clear destination, where do I see myself in 10 years, in 5 years, in 1 year? How do I wanna look next year? How do I wanna my relationship to evolve? How good do I wanna become? etc.<p>Once you have this sorted out (where do you want to and why) everything else starts making sense. Good luck.