I think that works some but for me it has been messier than that.  I think self reflection and friendly peer feedback helps.  Also some personality assessments help. I have found that &quot;Strengths Finder&quot; has helped me in my career find a place that is satisfying and where I can be extremely competent.   As a ADHD with Dyslexia I had to slog through the boredom of the growing my skills till I was competent in programming.<p>I also try to see if I am in the flow with hobbies or work, But being competent enough to be in the flow takes a lot of skills before you get there.<p>I have two girls that seem to understand well what their are meant to do both for hobbies and work. We practiced a lot of self-reflection with them when they were growing up and both have strong feedback loops with people they trust.<p>But it is messy. Maybe that is what we are meant to do.  That is find out what we are meant to do.  Kind-of meta.