&gt; the qualifications for a good mate are very specific to every person<p>The set of qualifications is specific to every person, sure, but whatever is in that set for a given woman, you need to be <i>better</i> than the competition at those qualifications.<p>Unless you&#x27;re fine with marrying just anyone, the thesis of the blog post doesn&#x27;t hold for dating; it&#x27;s not enough to be &#x27;decent&#x27; or even &#x27;good&#x27;.