&gt; Well done. Really, what would it take to get you to re-phrase your comment into something like:<p>&gt; &quot;Forgive me for asking because I don&#x27;t understand how these situations came to pass in the first place?&quot;<p>To be honest, I don&#x27;t think anything would.<p>Simply stated, I have met too many people (friends, family and coworkers) who tell me well-crafted stories about how they came to be in a car accident, or almost-accident.  These stories invariably cast the teller as the victim who could do nothing to prevent the accident (aside from driving more slowly or following at a greater distance).  When I later ride with them, I find that they tailgate, speed and roll through stop signs.<p>Perhaps I was too quick to judge.  Maybe you&#x27;re among the 1% of &#x27;attentive drivers&#x27; who actually drive well.  I&#x27;m just so tired of hearing the excuses of the other 99% that I lumped you in with them.<p>If you really are that 1%, then I have to say I&#x27;m truly am sorry.  I hope you are.  Because if you aren&#x27;t, you&#x27;re probably feeling smug about putting me in my place and will feel justified in driving recklessly in the future.