<i>&gt; Do we all have to share this culture of mourning and condoleances?</i><p>Don&#x27;t, if you don&#x27;t want to. Nobody&#x27;s making you care, nobody&#x27;s going to judge you if it didn&#x27;t matter to you. But you could do a lot worse than to take that urge to tell everyone how much you don&#x27;t care and shove it down somewhere deep and dark. And, as it happens, you did.