It&#x27;s not about <i>being</i> better, it&#x27;s about <i>doing</i> better.<p>I have a friend that I&#x27;ve been dating. She tells me all about the other guys she dates. This past weekend for her birthday a friend flew down from another state to hang out with her for the weekend.<p>This guy is loaded. Way more money than sense. Among the things he got her that weekend was a $200 bottle of champagne that he must&#x27;ve paid $300 for because he got it in a restaurant. She doesn&#x27;t drink. She had half a cup and they left the bottle on the table when they left.<p>He does all this for a girl he sees a few times a year. When she told me this story, I went down to the massage place she likes, and got her a $200 gift card for massages. She was <i>very</i> grateful.<p>I don&#x27;t take her to expensive restaurants, I take her to the best places in town to eat, which are never really expensive. I take time to try to get to know her and try to work on my issues so that the time we spend together is better.<p>As a result she spends way more time with me than she does with the others. Where other guys spend money to cover up their perceived inadequacies, I put time and effort into making every moment I spend with her special.<p>That kind of effort is an order of magnitude more effective at finding and keeping the woman of your dreams. And you don&#x27;t have to have a ton of money or a huge penis or be six feet tall to do it.