To answer this, the parents, and many sibling posts all in one;  we&#x27;ve already have almost a good decade of misery together, so we figured &quot;might as well do it for masochism&#x27;s sake&quot; :)<p>I&#x27;d re-echo the clarification of my main point though, and be less glib:  by being able to meet these differences head on, we each managed over the years to shift the other, and produce a dynamic I&#x27;ve become &quot;pretty OK&quot; with.  Fortunately the mindsets of the parents don&#x27;t have to carry down to children in exact parity.  (To re-glib for the conclusion; Especially in my case or else I&#x27;d be elbow deep in some cancer patient, and I don&#x27;t have a strong stomach for that sort of thing)