Sounds like the girls are getting too much attention, and so are passively enjoying swatting flies more than enjoying the hunt for a match.<p>Actually answering questions takes a lot of effort when you&#x27;re responding to 25 people in parallel. That you&#x27;re even getting &#x2F;any&#x2F; response is a testament to you, given that you&#x27;re 41 and yet not looking for a &quot;mom&quot;.<p>Anyway... As someone else suggested, it sounds like you need to get these girls out of the email-back-n-forth as fast as possible. e.g. &quot;Hi, I see we have X in common. Want to meet up tomorrow for lunch?&quot;