&gt; I ask because it sounds like she&#x27;s using you<p>I&#x27;m 32. She&#x27;s mid-twenties. She&#x27;s a gorgeous girl, I&#x27;m not going to hold it against her for exploring her options. If she does decide that a rich, handsome guy is right for her, that&#x27;s fine by me. I have plenty of options too, and that works both ways.<p>&gt; By the way, $200 for a bottle of real Champagne in a restaurant while pricey is not anything to crazy.<p>You&#x27;re just thinking about the Champagne. He flew down there, took her on a trip to a nearby town, dinners, drinks, and dancing every night. Sure, $300 isn&#x27;t that much when it&#x27;s just for the one dinner, but my guess is that he blew well over $5k on this one trip.<p>That&#x27;s a lot of money. Worse, it&#x27;s a lot of time. Were I him, I&#x27;d just have hired an escort got on with it. She enjoyed the parts she enjoyed and didn&#x27;t enjoy the parts she didn&#x27;t enjoy. To me it&#x27;s an extravagance that is wholly unnecessary. I would not trade my life for one of that kind of luxury. If I could add the ability to pay for that kind of luxury onto my current life, sure, that would be fine. But the best things in life really are free.<p>&gt; And yeah, some of the best places in town to eat are expensive.<p>Depends on where you live. If you&#x27;re in NYC or LA, where all the talent flocks to, certainly the top restaurants there are great. Generally in a mid-size city like Kansas City or Atlanta, the ethnic restaurants available are amazing the best of those simply blow all but the very top-tier ones away. At my company, we go to Houston&#x27;s sometime on the CEO&#x27;s dime. The $30 plates there are decent, but I always come away wishing I&#x27;d been able to go to my favorite Korean taco place.<p>&gt; So if you were her, would you rather the option to eat at any of the best places or only the ones you could afford?<p>I think she&#x27;s coming around to my way of looking at things. I took her to a Korean yesterday (different from the taco joint) and this girl, who has been wined and dined by crazy-rich guys, was over the hill about how amazing the food was in this little hole-in-the-wall strip mall joint and how it was some of the best food she&#x27;s ever had in her life.<p>I go there twice a month.<p>Certainly she&#x27;d like to have the best of both worlds, but Hugh Grant isn&#x27;t knocking on her door. I don&#x27;t have to compete with movie stars, I can just compete with the other guy she dates. And from what I hear from her, you can be rich and handsome and still be an insufferable bore.<p>If anyone&#x27;s using anyone, it&#x27;s her using these guys for spa treatments and dinners.