Having just been back in the scene this past week, this is disturbingly accurate.  I&#x27;m 41.<p>I&#x27;m surprised by the number of women that are still on the site from the last time I went through this 5 years ago.<p>I have a large profile, with a ton of hooks for conversation, and yet the number of girls I talk to on there either don&#x27;t want to or can&#x27;t be bothered to ask a question.  And unfortunately, the one that does, I have no attraction to.<p>Being 41 is also problematic.  There is a change that happens to a lot of the women around this time.  They seem to shift from something that is attractive, to suddenly looking like a mom.  The haircut, the face, the body.  For the life of me, I can&#x27;t seem to make myself attracted to this Mom look.  Which means looking for partners much younger.<p>It&#x27;s also been strange, you&#x27;ll message a girl, and ask a question.  She&#x27;ll respond with the answer, and that&#x27;s it.  Trying to keep that going ends up trying to share something about myself, and then ask another question.  They answer the question again, and provide nothing to carry on the conversation.  I get the feeling that these women want to be wooed, but that happens after we meet.  At this stage, you&#x27;re trying to find compatibility.  You could be a dog, you could be a gay man who poses as a woman because he likes the compliments (read it on Reddit), a bot, etc...  Interaction is the key.<p>Ah well, back I go.