this.<p>i&#x27;ve joked before that parenting 3+ young kids is really just figuring out how to ensure one doesn&#x27;t get neglected any more or less than the others or that it&#x27;s switching from man-to-man to zone defense. either way, you reach a point where the time&#x2F;energy&#x2F;money required to give your loved ones what they need no longer comes from &quot;you&quot; (your sleep&#x2F;hobbies&#x2F;friends), but has to be taken from what you can give your other loved ones as you are already maxed physically&#x2F;mentally&#x2F;financially. it&#x27;s then not a matter of &quot;doing everything you can&quot; anymore, but trying to do the &quot;right things&quot; that you can, and balancing consequences of which are dropped and hoping you can mitigate in future. sometimes it works, sometimes it hurts.<p>friends will then joke &quot;and that&#x27;s why i&#x27;m never having kids&quot; or &quot;that&#x27;s why we&#x27;re only having one&quot;, but it&#x27;s not &quot;worse&quot;, just different.