Yeah.  A lot of people don&#x27;t want to either.  Going there can often lead to questions about the self and character and other things...  I went through that.  Small town ignorance, married a wonderful woman who some how saw better in me, and a lot of introspection on car rides home to shake it.<p>Doing that hurts and it&#x27;s scary, but it also rewards one with security and empathy needed to understand just how completely unacceptable bigotry, racism, etc... really are too.<p>The triggers for that so very often happen by another person, a target, sharing.