I personally have made a lot of decisions oriented around the inevitability of this dynamic. I let friends fall away after they move across town or just otherwise lose the ability to stop seeing me regularly. I&#x27;ve walked away from commitments where I&#x27;d lost every single reason why I&#x27;d made the commitment in the first place, I don&#x27;t do this lightly. I&#x27;ve let myself become estranged from family for the sole reason they didn&#x27;t adequately value the effort I went to to see them.<p>One or two children will be all I have, I am never going to start a startup, band, or other such long shot waste of time. I only have so much to give, and I ultimately will always put myself first, because when I put myself first, the quality of what I have to give to the people I truly care about and who care about me goes way up. The people who fall short of that all have their own lives that I am not and never will be responsible for. I&#x27;ve learned this the hard way too many times.