I appreciate that you refuse to accept an explanation until it completely makes sense to you, but it sounds like you&#x27;re attached at a gut level to some basic misconceptions.  (In particular: it&#x27;s not just that local clocks appear to run at different rates, it&#x27;s that ticks of two separated clocks do not always have a meaningful one-to-one mapping, so it&#x27;s often not possible to assign a sensible time that a particular event happens according to a clock held by an outside observer.) Those misconceptions won&#x27;t be cleared up unless you&#x27;re staring the math in the face.<p>Grab an intro GR textbook and work through it.  There are free ones online.