I saw the footnotes, although admittedly quickly.<p>I see I&#x27;m downvoted, but I was serious in my comment.  In the scenario described, as well as in a significant fraction of other &quot;social&quot; behavior including in work settings, I encounter a lot of competition.  And I am one for whom such competition simply is not fun.<p>I guess if I consider it a bit more, a lot of it seems to be centered around attitudes of &quot;zero sum gain&quot;; someone must &quot;win&quot;, and correspondingly others much &quot;lose&quot;.<p>By contrast, I am... oh, I forget the corresponding terminology, but I prefer social gatherings that are a &quot;net gain.&quot;<p>Another area where I find this: Sports.  For sports with teams and&#x2F;or competition, you need more than one participant in order to have the game.  Yet instead of enjoying the game and thanking them for their participation, too often there seems to be an excessive amount of focus on &quot;winning&quot; and on &quot;ragging on&quot; or criticizing (actually, verbally abusing) the losers.<p>I enjoy participating and it is thrilling to win.  But I do NOT enjoy &quot;ragging on&quot; nor berating the loser.<p>I guess I&#x27;m taking this secret santa thread&#x2F;response too far.  But I&#x27;ve observed that I&#x27;m not the only one.  There is a greater than miniscule fraction of the population who does not enjoy such things, nor a lot of sports, because during this event meant to strengthen social cohesion, once again they find the group picking winners and losers.  And some of them aren&#x27;t very nice towards the losers -- even when they cloak this behavior in a facade of &quot;good cheer.&quot;