&gt; so being a &quot;lady&quot; is somehow an &quot;inferior role&quot; that can be trumped by the superior, earned role of &quot;being an engineer&quot;?<p>Not at all. As an accurate reading of my earlier comment would make obvious, I&#x27;m well aware they are not incompatible in the slightest. But for someone who doesn&#x27;t understand that, and has therefore to choose one or the other as a basis for dealing with another person, &quot;engineer&quot; would seem to be preferable, and I&#x27;ve yet to run across the engineer, in a room full of engineers, to whom an apology for swearing is necessary.<p>The remainder of your exceptionalism I&#x27;ll let pass without comment, save to note that of course nothing says &quot;civilized&quot; like days of unsuppressed looting and rioting in the capital city. Yes, you&#x27;re clearly doing something right there.