I&#x27;m surprised my comment was actually somewhat popular, so it may well have been interpreted differently than I meant. I was intending to sarcastically take the position that one feminist website is a rulebook for everyone, because that&#x27;s how people seriously act all the time. The woman in the dongle fiasco believed that because she was offended, everyone should be, and the conference organizers apparently agreed. She had plenty of supporters -- was it really just &quot;one single woman&quot;? Maybe it&#x27;s a bad example, because as the situation evolved she was being attacked (and in response, supported) more as a woman than as a professional maintaining certain standards. But I do believe a substantial chunk supported her position itself, a complaint primarily about sexism.<p>On the other hand, the OP herself is in the gray (for now at least) for saying dick jokes are fine and the only sexism there is the lack of vulva jokes.[1]<p>The fact that there is no rulebook was exactly my point. For every person wanting to analyze whether your anatomical&#x2F;sexual reference is offensive to someone, there is someone else feeling singled out that you would take that care before saying it in front of them. I don&#x27;t want to throw up my hands and give up, just point out that people act like the answers are easy but it&#x27;s actually very complex. There&#x27;s little consensus on proper behavior on these small scales, and both sides have tribal and exclusionary behaviors.<p>Behavior of today&#x27;s college students, in the US at least, suggests the Tumblr generation is growing and therefore a sizable contingent of people really will increasingly apply these standards to everyone else.<p>[1] <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;news.ycombinator.com&#x2F;item?id=10760819" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;news.ycombinator.com&#x2F;item?id=10760819</a> (you have to go up to parent to see the grayness, and I&#x27;m assuming it&#x27;s the OP because she claimed so in another comment and has a sufficiently-aged account with the same name as the website)