Don&#x27;t worry, you&#x27;ll know when they&#x27;re awake and distressed. I tend to let kids cry for at least a minute before intervening, well, unless they&#x27;re old enough to be asking for help.<p>The alternative is madness and leads to divorce or murder-suicide.<p>EDIT&gt; Actually, I just made that number up. It&#x27;s all context. My main warning &#x2F; peeve is that our unrealistic standards of care as modern, educated, intelligent, self-improvement-minded  parents actually leads to a shitty child-rearing experience that produces somewhat shitty children, rather than a more laissez-faire approach. Crying is like the weather. We don&#x27;t always have to fix it.