this is the point I am making - you want proof you are part of the problem before believing there is a problem.<p>We are so ingrained in this it&#x27;s hard to think our way out.<p>The scientific approach here would be to record our words and tonality when dealing with all our co-workers and look for patterns.  Anecdotes from blog posts are not going to cut it.  This is something really deep in biology and society.<p>Good luck