&gt; Most women don&#x27;t actually care how much their partner makes beyond having some basic financial security.<p>In most of the world (including in the US) a large proportion of 23-year-old men don&#x27;t have basic financial security. So having basic financial security would be a key differentiator. In SV, it&#x27;s not.<p>&gt; They care about feelings, and viewpoints, and hobbies, and values, and empathy, and all the things that make a person a person and not just an investment vehicle.<p>Absolutely. But there&#x27;s nothing about being rich that means you have bad feelings, negative viewpoints, or lack of hobbies, values and empathy. If anything, the richer you are the more interesting and diverse your stories and experiences will be and the more developed your hobbies and viewpoints.<p>It&#x27;s also more difficult to be confident when you&#x27;re surrounded by people richer and more successful than you day-in and day-out.