&gt; It’s impossible to know, especially since they don’t know either! If you confront them on their sexism, they will deny all of it, and truly believe it. It takes a lot of introspection to see one’s internalized stereotypes. Therefore, a lot of the time, you cannot be sure if you have experienced sexist behavior, and there is no way to find out for sure, since the perpetrator doesn’t know either. There are many false positives and false negatives there.<p>Thousand times this.<p>I know that things like racism and sexism is bad and evil. But I also know that I am these things — subconsciously. Having lived in a country with a long tradition of racism and sexism, and given I&#x27;ve ever talked to a black person for a first time half a year ago, I know that there&#x27;s no chance that I don&#x27;t have these stereotypes inside on some level. Of course, I try to fight that and become a better person, and on a rational level I know exactly why these traits are evil.<p>But when I&#x27;m trying to explain it to someone, too often they just hear &quot;I&#x27;m racist&quot; or &quot;I&#x27;m sexist&quot; and decide that I&#x27;m a total asshole :(