I agree mostly, but how do you know for sure that there is some stress or thought there which is perhaps unacknowledged?<p>I think that someone can be affected by somethings in their earlier life that can affect them forever.  I&#x27;m not talk about repressed memories, I&#x27;m talking about the lack of positively formative experiences at critical moments of their life.<p>Example - what happens when say someone starts school or is a teenager at the same time their mother is undergoing menopause and their father has lost their job and they&#x27;re both starting to drink?  The child will feel a lack of something but not sure what.  If they do think of it all, they&#x27;ll think of it as partly their fault.