the problem with clinginess is it encroaches on other peoples&#x27; feelings of abundance.  that&#x27;s why it&#x27;s so unattractive.<p>the clinginess fades as you get older, after you realize most people (including yourself) are kind of &quot;meh&quot;, and if feelings aren&#x27;t reciprocated&#x2F;mutual, you&#x27;re running a fool&#x27;s errand and wasting valuable mental energy and time (the specific resource you were so concerned about in the first place).