Nothing wrong with being rich.<p>I&#x27;m referring to <i>what you focus on</i>, though.  If you focus on being rich and are not, then by your own value system, you&#x27;re a failure.  If you focus on being kind - or well-rounded, or athletic, or outdoorsy, or eco-friendly - and are not rich, then who cares?  By <i>the standards that you&#x27;ve chosen to live your life</i>, you&#x27;re a success.<p>I think you might find that people have a surprising variation in values if you don&#x27;t judge them - or yourself - by the same yardstick.  Dating is all about finding the person whose values align with yours, not who is most successful on some arbitrary metric.  Think in terms of direction, not magnitude.