I don&#x27;t think you need to focus on all of the academic hoop jumping, most of which is a bit toxic for intellectual development, especially on the English &amp; literature for K-12. Your kids will learn to jump the hoops and hopefully forget it once they graduate.<p>Rather, I would focus on a narrow range of activities, such as only math, reading and outdoors activity (sports &#x2F; outdoors organization like scouts). The rest of their time would be up to them. If they wish to enroll in more activities, and your income so permits, then so be it. If they wish to meet with friends, then so be it.<p>Too many upper-middle class parents attempt to raise renaissance children, and I&#x27;ve found that most of my peers never really reach anywhere with their rennaisance skills. Their piano is whatever. Their kung fu is whatever. Their Chinese is whatever. Their art is whatever.<p>Yes, art, music, dance, foreign language school, martial arts, crafts, etc, can all be interesting. But there&#x27;s also opportunity cost. When you&#x27;re learning Chinese you&#x27;re not learning math. When you&#x27;re learning math you&#x27;re not hanging out with friends.<p>In sum: Don&#x27;t make a renaissance child. Focus on a few things and give the rest of the time to your children, preferably for outdoors or social time.