You&#x27;re missing this important point:<p>&gt; His effort to be courteous made me feel that I was different, the odd one out, the one we must be careful around and treat like a fragile flower.<p>We should respect all our colleagues <i>equally</i> regardless of the type of sexual organs they happen to be equipped with (and regardless of other irrelevant characteristics). Singling out one group over others for additional &quot;respect&quot; is what makes them feel different and out of place.<p>In the setting of this anecdote her role was not that of a &quot;lady&quot;, but that of an &quot;engineer&quot;.