&gt; I worry that as more and more fully functioning people are added to the spectrum that it will result in less help out there for people like my daughter that really need it.<p>Do you actually see this happening?<p>It seems to me just as likely that greater awareness of the entire spectrum will bring more acceptance and more resources.<p>Anyway, for my wife, learning that she has Asperger syndrome has been a great relief.  It&#x27;s hard for me to see that as a bad thing.  Your story is heart-wrenching, and I hope your daughter gets the help she needs.  I just don&#x27;t see why my wife&#x27;s experience and yours need to be in conflict.