I don&#x27;t see that &quot;likes to swear or have people swear nearby&quot; is an essential or generally accepted component of the role of &quot;engineer&quot;.<p>Your statement is actually extremely sexist, I&#x27;m not sure if you realise that. &quot;The role she&#x27;s earned should trump the one to which she was born&quot; - so being a &quot;lady&quot; is somehow an &quot;inferior role&quot; that can be trumped by the superior, earned role of &quot;being an engineer&quot;?<p>It really doesn&#x27;t seem that hard to me. A person can be all sorts of genders and various fluid things in between male and female, and you accept that and treat them as such - with respect for all those roles, without assuming one to be superior to the other. On top of that, they might take on a bunch of other roles. Those roles don&#x27;t obliterate the nature of who they are. &quot;I&#x27;m no longer a woman, I&#x27;m now an engineer&quot; implies that the two roles are exclusionary, that one is superior, to the other, etc.<p>How about: &quot;I&#x27;m a woman and I&#x27;m an engineer. They&#x27;re both part of my identity.&quot;<p>Caveat: I live in the UK. We don&#x27;t have quite the levels of rampant sexism y&#x27;all seem to have in the states (or at least I haven&#x27;t observed it). Or racism, for that matter. Seems a bit more civilised over here, based on the stories I read about the US. People are people. They&#x27;re black, white, rainbow-striped, whatever. They&#x27;re people and people are awesome and worthy of all the love in the universe, whatever their gender, skin colour, profession, etc.