The ratio had an effect, but in practice it was manageable. In NY attractive women were common enough that they would pick _me_ up (this was a complete shock to my system the first time it happened). In SF I had to make the first move. I could walk into almost any random bar in NY and be flirting with someone within 5 minutes. In SF I had to pick my venues. 10+ years ago it was already somewhat common in SF to go on a date with someone you met online, but in NY that wasn&#x27;t a way to casually meet people. In NY working in tech was interesting, not so much in SF. In SF I would meet people at the climbing gym, an outdoor rave, or through work. In NY it was bars, clubs, and through work, although the work hookups were extremely illicit.