&gt; you have to first be able to express their position in a way that they agree represents their view.<p>This habit is extremely powerful.  There&#x27;s no way to require people to do it, but people who do it, at least know the arguments of their opponents, are in such a better position to get what they want that people who don&#x27;t are left standing, mouths open wondering what happened.<p>And it&#x27;s extremely timely as just two weeks ago, President Obama gave this quote:<p>&quot;I don&#x27;t want you to think that a display of your strength is simply shutting other people up. <i>And that part of your ability to bring about change is going to be by engagement and understanding the viewpoints and the arguments of the other side.</i>&quot;<p>People don&#x27;t realize that college <i>already is</i> the safe place where they can develop the habits of empathy and conflict-management.  Getting called &quot;bitch&quot; and seeing mice are the least of their problems.  Those are going to happen in the real-world no matter what.  College isn&#x27;t a place to preserve themselves from these inevitable, superficial insults, it&#x27;s a place to develop leadership, contribution and cooperation abilities to get big things done like feeding, improving, healing, leading the world, etc.