&gt; When somebody calls us out for something, it&#x27;s only natural to want to blame somebody else - it takes an incredible amount of self-awareness and discipline to immediately jump to self-reflection, without trying to pass the buck.<p>Well, this goes both ways.<p>Like most HN threads on this topic, this discussion is largely full of reactions against perceived &quot;victimization&quot;, devoid of any self-reflection about what merit the complaints might actually have.