I do find it a pity that people on both sides feel that their points are so &quot;common sense&quot; correct that they have no reason to educate, and that people who disagree are being somehow deliberately obtuse. I think sometimes they feel it justifies to people the use of strawmen, because it&#x27;s almost not worth their time dealing with such obviousness.<p>The whole idea of &quot;being yourself&quot; has a lot of nuance that has been left unaddressed. Where do we draw the line between things that we should be expected to change, vs what the world must learn to accept? How much obligation does the world have on accepting us for who we are, and how much pressure are they allowed to put on us to change? Is &quot;being yourself&quot; even an ideal state vs chasing ones potential? How do you avoid crippling guilt if you&#x27;re always chasing an elusive ideal? How do you learn to like yourself if you&#x27;re never what you should be? If you aren&#x27;t chasing improvement in yourself does it just end up turning into decay?<p>I think it&#x27;s a really difficult subject while both sides are screaming &quot;DUH!&quot; at each other.