Honestly, accidental discomfort is part of being grown up. To try to regulate that is IMO both patronizing and counter productive. We need some level of friction to socialize. A CoC that lets well-meant actions become crimes is worse than no CoC at all. I explain this in my article: certain people will use poorly-designed tools to harass.<p>The key to solving this mess is, and I stick by it, to separate accidental clumsiness from predatory behavior. There is no grey overlap.<p>Once you separate these two, you can teach people to trust each other much more, while being properly cynical of the small slice of predators.<p>This isn&#x27;t hypothesis: we use this approach in our open source communities to encourage and thrive on honest mistake while watching for, and blocking predatory actions.<p>I may add a piece to the protocol along the lines of, &quot;Tolerance means accepting that people make mistakes, and working with them instead of treating this as a violation.&quot;