&gt; I don&#x27;t remember being &quot;trained&quot;<p>I see.<p>Do you remember being potty trained? Do you remember being trained on what things and behaviors are masculine and feminine? Because you were trained, and if you spend time around toddlers you can see them being trained on both.<p>You were also trained in the use of tens of thousands of words. Do you remember being trained on each one of them? I sure don&#x27;t. Do you remember being trained on how to avoid collision on the sidewalk? On how to use a fork? On how to use your fingers to put things in your mouth?<p>Your memory of being trained on something isn&#x27;t a good indicator of whether you were trained on it. A relatively small amount of what society trains people on is explicit, formal, and sufficient to cause episodic memory formation. Most of our learning is implicit.<p>&gt; And I don&#x27;t remember my wife being &quot;trained&quot;<p>Were you married when she was 2? Gender role training starts at least that early.<p>Regardless, if you look you can read plenty of actual stories from adult women on how they have been trained to deal with it, and how they&#x27;re still being trained in that by being punished for breaking from it.<p>Clementine Ford has experienced exactly that kind of training, so if you wanted to learn something, you could start with her articles. Other good sources are Everyday Sexism, Project Unbreakable, or the autobiography of pretty much any pioneering woman. Madeleine Albright talks explicitly about this and how rising through the man&#x27;s world of diplomacy forced her to cast off her training and adopt loud and space-demanding behaviors just to be heard.