The defense to &quot;you&#x27;re being a jerk&quot; can only be &quot;I&#x27;m not&quot;.<p>This article says &quot;I am, but it&#x27;s okay, get used to it&quot;. There&#x27;s a huge difference between telling someone that their beliefs are wrong to telling them that they are bad and should feel guilty, especially if the doctrine says that everyone is bad and should feel guilty all the time.