O.K.--Times have changed.  Jobs have changed.  There&#x27;s been role reversals in families.  (By the way, the guys I knew who stayed at home and raised the kids; did a stellar job.)<p>Society has changed a lot.  Good Blue collar jobs are hard to come by.  Even white collar jobs are not what they used to be.  It&#x27;s basically a mess.  Consider yourself luckey if you have a job you don&#x27;t hate?<p>That said, when certain people become unemployed--they fall to pieces.  I know it a blow.  I know there&#x27;s a risk of homeless.  I know he might leave you. (If he leaves you, or &quot;makes you pay for being unemployed&quot; you probally picked the wrong mate?)<p>What I&#x27;m trying to say is don&#x27;t beat yourself up too much.  I have seen way to many people define themself&#x27;s by what they do. &quot;I&#x27;m a blah, blah, blah.&quot;  You are a person first?  With a lot of interests?  I know it&#x27;s difficult.  The first question out of every Bobble Head is  &quot;What do you do?&quot;.<p>I saw my sister pretty much destroy her marriage.  She was making a very good living.  He was an Actor, and a great father to their boys.  Because he wasn&#x27;t the guy on t.v.--literally, or figuratively she emasculated him to the point he cheated.  He married a person who didn&#x27;t judge him as a success, or failure.  He is now happy.  His depression went away.  I wonder why?<p>My sister still watches the television fantasy world where the man is a &quot;man&quot;.  He&#x27;s a successful something.  He the protector.  He&#x27;s the hard working something?  Usually he&#x27;s an Architect, or Doctor on T.V.?  (By the way in real life.  If you can make a living as an Architect--you are lucky.)<p>My sister has been through a lot of men, and never found one that had the qualities of her first husband.  She now knows she should not have let the media, and the village; determine what&#x27;s desirable in a mate.  She says pushing away her first husband was her biggest regret.<p>I have no advice.  I just see some men&#x2F;women go to any lengths in order to get &quot;the paper&quot;.  Yes, a lot of it is hormones, but don&#x27;t kill yourself trying to be what this society is constantly thrusting upon us.  My father was a &quot;working man&#x27;s hero&quot;.  He was misserable too.  He died way to soon.