&gt; Why is using &quot;her&quot; everywhere worse than using &quot;him&quot; everywhere?<p>Because its just as gendered <i>and</i> conflicts with standard usage (which, in English, accepts the use of the masculine linguistic gender for subjects of unknown sex or gender identity, so it is not better from either a &quot;gender neutrality, regardless of accepted usage&quot;  standpoint or from a &quot;clarity of communication through conforming to accepted usage&quot; standpoint.)