Given how absolutely widespread this kind of emotional mismanagement is, is it fair to call these people stunted?  If a <i>lot</i> of people are like that, isn&#x27;t that just normal?<p>Maybe it&#x27;s not ideal, but maybe that&#x27;s just life, and it&#x27;d make sense to adjust one&#x27;s expectations a bit and work from where we are, instead of that elusive ideal.