There have been a few very friendly elmers, don&#x27;t get me wrong. On Field Day a couple years ago I saw on the ARRL&#x27;s website that there was a gathering for a club I didn&#x27;t belong to about two hours away, at the club president&#x27;s home, so I decided to stop by.<p>The home owner invited me, a stranger, inside and basically left me alone in a room with tens of thousands of dollars of equipment and said &quot;Have fun!&quot; I stayed for hours. I would join his club if it were closer to me.<p>In general, however, unless you&#x27;re complaining about how Obama is ruining the country or how your arthritis is acting up, it&#x27;s hard to fit in with most hams.