Agree with this strongly. If situation is that complex, both parties will have to go meta to resolve it - look at it from above, realize the tangled mess of emotions and expectations they&#x27;re in and that no one wishes the other anything bad, that it&#x27;s just hard to let go.<p>In my experience, it&#x27;s hard to go meta together, but if you can successfully communicate: &quot;I&#x27;m on your side, lets ascend together and look at it from far above&quot;, you both win.