That seems like a fair concern to me. Like you, the piece strikes me as subtly and uncomfortably gendered. As a hacker myself, my emotional intelligence was never that great. But I think this was vastly compounded by being a guy; society didn&#x27;t expect me to develop much in the way of emotional skills.<p>A big thing that changed that for me was doing in-person tech support in college. About 10% of the job was knowing facts. The rest was helping humans in very human ways. When, years later, the term &quot;emotional labor&quot; [1] came around, it made a lot of sense to me. I may not have been natively good at it, but you don&#x27;t have to have talent to get skill. It just takes more work.<p>So when he talks about emotional radar and her being the mom and whatnot, it all strikes me as a false dichotomy, one I&#x27;ve worked hard to avoid. It&#x27;s especially odd to me in a piece about society treating a woman as lesser.<p>[1] Lots of good stuff on the topic in this amazing Metafilter thread: <a href="http:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.metafilter.com&#x2F;151267&#x2F;Wheres-My-Cut-On-Unpaid-Emotional-Labor" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.metafilter.com&#x2F;151267&#x2F;Wheres-My-Cut-On-Unpaid-Emo...</a>