Also a meta-rule: People lie.  Or often times, they just omit and hope nobody asks.  That&#x27;s how they manage to cover up what the actual rules are.<p>If you think that life is unfair, it may be more productive to ask yourself &quot;What am I missing here?  What have I been told that doesn&#x27;t square with how I see people act?&quot; and then update your mental model accordingly.  Once you build mental models that derive the rules from what people <i>do</i> and not what they <i>say</i>, you&#x27;ll often find they can take you surprisingly far.