Abrasive and abusive are too very different things. Linus frequently slides into the latter. Abrasive, to me, means if you do something stupid you&#x27;ll be called out and told what&#x27;s wrong. Abusive is when that conversation turns into name calling.<p>You can be as hard on yourself as you please, and we are often our own worst critic. When those complaints let fly to other ears, they should be phrased a little better.<p>Again, your preference may vary. Me? I work with adults, I don&#x27;t care how good the other kids are.