Being a good judge of people and being judgmental are not anywhere near the same thing.<p>Being judgmental is usually meant as someone who is quick to criticize even mundane things and who focuses on the negative. Its a filter that ignores the positive and amplifies the negative - someone who blows things out of proportion. It often is driven by a desire to feel superior to another and comes from a place of insecurity.<p>Being a good judge of someone is being observant and weighing the complexities of what someone presents of themselves. Think lady justice with the scales - taking a whole picture before making judgment, and avoiding bringing in one&#x27;s own motivations, emotions, or concerns in the process. Lady justice&#x27;s blindfold is the symbol for this objectivity.<p>As you can see they&#x27;re totally different in how they filter data, when they make judgment, and their relationship to the other.<p>You&#x27;re right, the criteria used doesn&#x27;t seem to be visible. While feedback on particular aspects of an interview NOT related to social cues would be helpful, feedback for social cues &amp; character is just <i>not something anyone owes you</i> - no matter how emotionally difficult an interaction may be to participate in.<p>There are likely ways you can get feedback on these kinds of things - friends or coaches - but ultimately its not the kind of thing that one studies directly for. If it were, everyone would come in an actor, rather than themselves (and lets face it, the psychopaths would be the winners). You can try all you want to study how to project the right microexpressions and whatever but that&#x27;s endlessly complex and you&#x27;ll lack sufficient data to optimize, not least of which is because every person and situation is unique. This may go against some notions of fairness but lack of visibility and feedback is just part of the domain of social interactions.<p>Fundamentally the character &amp; social cues you give off are an output of what you do with other inputs - how you view and treat people, what you&#x27;re motivated by, the time you take to strengthen your own observational skills (such as through mindfulness practice) and how well you know yourself, etc. If you&#x27;re concerned about giving off good social cues, you&#x27;ll get a heck of a lot farther focusing on building an awareness of whats going on in your mind, in the conversation, and with the other person that is triggering those cues. That&#x27;s the best way to be genuine, and in turn the best way to come across as genuine.