I don&#x27;t doubt those factors are intertwined, but I think it&#x27;s a disservice to the human conscience to declare it unfixable except by somehow overloading our attention.  Actually the answer is remarkably simple though obviously not easy: Stop pinning your self-actualization on your kids and recognize your role to help them discover their own personhood.  There&#x27;s only a short window where you know better than them anyway, so focus on preparing them to make their own decisions.