A few thoughts.<p>1. Keep your head up. If you don&#x27;t these feelings will get worse. Remember who you are, what makes you happy and why your happiness is important. You can&#x27;t make someone else happy if you are not happy yourself.<p>2. Talk to a Dr. They are qualified to help get to the root cause of why you are feeling less than ideal about yourself.<p>3. Make sure you have a work, life, balance. Work and then get out of the office and enjoy the fresh air.<p>4. Eat properly. Get some exercise. This works for me. When I feel down I hit the gym extra hard.<p>5. Get a hobby that isn&#x27;t your day job. Go to public places to enjoy your hobby if you can. This might help you meet people.<p>6. Don&#x27;t worry about dating. Try to make friends. Enjoy them. Build a relationship with them. Maybe they can help you get dates too. They would also be there for support if the dates don&#x27;t go well.<p>7. `Smushing` sounds like a Jersey Shore term. I don&#x27;t think a female wants to hear this out of a males mouth. It might be just me, but I wouldn&#x27;t let any woman I wanted to date hear me use that.<p>8. Don&#x27;t worry about looks, possessions, housing, car, etc. Most all women, I think, would rather find a guy that treats them right, values them, makes them feel like they are the most important thing in life versus all these other things. I had to uproot my wife and kid to be able to afford to make ends meet and buy my wife a house. We were able to move cross country and afford to buy a small house on a lake for about $150K. This made my wife happier than I could have imagined and I don&#x27;t stress about paying for it. I am an average guy with a beautiful wife and I never had a lot of money or possessions to offer. At one point, my car exploded on a freeway and I could not afford to buy another one. This didn&#x27;t detour her at all.<p>9. Lastly, find good in yourself. If you can&#x27;t, &quot;find a better mirror.&quot; Repeat Item #1.<p>I wish you the best. If you need to talk, so many of us here want to listen and help. Please let us help.<p>Edit: typos