VOGUE has actually discovered this problem some time ago. They interviewed a feminist and asked her whether she feels sorry for guys not knowing what to do: Opening the door for a girl is condescending and not opening it is rude. Similarly, a lot of people will advise you to be welcoming and offer your help to women hanging out in hacker spaces, but obviously that can be annoying (talking about annoyances, I&#x27;m somewhat tired of being called a <i>white dude</i>) if it happens every other day and they just don&#x27;t need the help. Given that you can&#x27;t guess somebody&#x27;s skill level I really don&#x27;t see any solution to this problem (to be perfectly honest: It doesn&#x27;t sound like that big of a problem to me).