I read all the comments here and only one other suggested therapy or counselling. So before you &#x27;shake everything up&#x27;, &#x27;engage with the PUA community&#x27; or &#x27;shave your head&#x27;, go to a doctor and describe how you feel about your life. They will be able to advise you whether what you are describing is normal, or symptomatic of a mental illness.<p>Do not take this as a diagnosis, but you sound like you have depression. The good news is that depression is treatable, either through therapy, lifestyle changes, or medication. Many other people suffer from depression; it&#x27;s a thoroughly modern illness, albeit one that still carries some stigma.<p>I recovered from depression over a period of about 18 months, starting from the age of 25, and I can say this much about it: you cannot expect people to start loving you until you love yourself. (Family is an exception: they already love you. Turn to them for support.) And you really need a qualified external opinion on your situation. Solving your own depression is like trying to get airborne by pulling on your shoelaces.