I understand this issue perfectly. In the referenced comic strip, I am Paula on the right and my children are on the left side.<p>What is left out in that strip, is that because of the way I grew up, I am left with a drive to accomplish things that I simply do not see in my own children. The hunger, the drive, the ambition are all from a crappy childhood. The drive is where my success came from, it is what gets me off the floor when life knocks me down. It is the drive that provides the &quot;I refuse to lose&quot; mentality.<p>I don&#x27;t claim that this drive is all good. A lot of times I think it makes me a little obsessive and crazy in my need to succeed and reduces the number of days I relax.