&gt; <i>Guys usually don&#x27;t see women and internally think &#x27;I want to be friends with that person&#x27;</i><p>&gt; <i>white people don&#x27;t generally see a black guy and think &#x27;I want to be friends with them&#x27;.</i><p>Is this scientifically proven? I highly suspect these statements. I personally have not become friends with any women by force, and I most definitely have wanted to be friends with people of a race that is different than mine.<p>Not because of gender or race. Just because they were funny or interesting.<p>Obviously my anecdote counts for very little, but I find it hard to believe that &quot;generally&quot; people suck at being friends across races or genders. I believe it&#x27;s possible that some people can experience that, but I highly disagree that it is a general, chronic phenomenon; I think making blanket statements on race or gender outside of the strictly biological+physical ones is very shaky ground.