Don&#x27;t lose hope, you&#x27;ve had some bad luck but you are still young.<p>I ended up on disability in 2003 due to a mental illness. I got married in 1997. Before that women wouldn&#x27;t even talk to me because I was a geek or nerd. I was always considered to have autism because of the way I talked. I couldn&#x27;t find a thing I was good at until I got into computers and programming. I met my wife at church, before that I would meet women on BBS systems and BBS events and most of them were weird or already had a boyfriend they wanted to make jealous.<p>You have to respect women and listen to what they say. You shouldn&#x27;t meet women in bars and at work, you should go to meetup.com and join special interest groups of like minded people and find women who have something in common with you. You need to take it slow with women, they don&#x27;t like it when you rush them and they have to show interest in you first before you make a move.<p>A lot of men in IT have problems finding women to date them, it is a common problem. Most of those men have had to move to where the jobs are and it is a different culture, society, and community than the one they are used to, so women there don&#x27;t find them attractive.