As others have said, objectively speaking you&#x27;re in the top 0.25% or so of the world&#x27;s population by income; the global median income is only around $1,300 a year. So objectively speaking you&#x27;re doing well.<p>Relatively speaking, though, you seem to feel you&#x27;re not. In terms of dating, it&#x27;s a matter of supply and demand. There is a glut of men (114:100 ratio) between 20 and 44 years old relative to women in San Jose: <a href="http:&#x2F;&#x2F;sanfrancisco.cbslocal.com&#x2F;2014&#x2F;10&#x2F;04&#x2F;man-jose-san-jose-named-nations-best-spot-for-women-seeking-eligible-bachelors-single-women-men-employed-pew-research-center-silicon-valley&#x2F;" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;sanfrancisco.cbslocal.com&#x2F;2014&#x2F;10&#x2F;04&#x2F;man-jose-san-jos...</a><p>So women can be more selective. You can change this by improving your own desirability, as others in this thread have suggested, or by moving to a place with a less lopsided gender ratio. Neither is trivial but it sounds like it&#x27;s worth doing given how unhappy you say you are.