&gt; But that&#x27;s the whole point: it&#x27;s hard to tell!<p>Ah, that&#x27;s your problem — it&#x27;s hard for men to tell! Women have much less of a problem. Sorry, reality sucks. I&#x27;m a dude, and patriarchy trains us to be bloviating know-nothing assholes driven to mansplain:<p><i>&quot;... the constant work women perform in managing, maintaining, and adjusting the egos of apparently oblivious men — involving an endless work of imaginative identification and what I’ve called interpretive labor. This carries over on every level. Women are always imagining what things look like from a male point of view. Men almost never do the same for women. This is presumably the reason why in so many societies with a pronounced gendered division of labor (that is, most societies), women know a great deal about men do every day, and men have next to no idea about women’s occupations. Faced with the prospect of even trying to imagine a women’s perspective, many recoil in horror. In the US, one popular trick among High School creative writing teachers is to assign students to write an essay imagining that they were to switch genders, and describe what it would be like to live for one day as a member of the opposite sex. The results are almost always exactly the same: all the girls in class write long and detailed essays demonstrating that they have spent a great deal of time thinking about such questions; roughly half the boys refuse to write the essay entirely. Almost invariably they express profound resentment about having to imagine what it might be like to be a woman.&quot;</i> <a href="http:&#x2F;&#x2F;theanarchistlibrary.org&#x2F;library&#x2F;david-graeber-revolution-in-reverse" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;theanarchistlibrary.org&#x2F;library&#x2F;david-graeber-revolut...</a>