But &quot;give me more money or I&#x27;ll leave&quot; is a bad way to go about haggling, and is likely to lead to the employee leaving. &quot;I&#x27;m worth more than you&#x27;re paying&quot; is better, even though the employer and employee both know that &quot;and if yu don&#x27;t pay me more I&#x27;ll leave&quot; is an unspoken part of that sentence.<p>HN regularly mentions the book &quot;how to win friends and influence people&quot; or talks about hacking various interpersonal processes.<p>This is just an interpersonal hack. Saying &quot;give me more money or I&#x27;ll leave&quot; causes many - but admittedly not all - managers to respond with &quot;go ahead and leave then&quot;, even when the manager knows that replacing the leavig employee will require a higher wage than the employee is currently getting and some expenditure on the recruitment process.<p><i>People are not rational</i> and they do mot make rational decisions. We know that management, and recruitment, is very broken.