I&#x27;m in a similar place to the OP. I turn 50 in a week. I get told often I look in my 30s. The majority of my friends are in their 30s. Hung out for 6 months with 28yr olds forming a startup last year, they asked me to join them. With few exceptions I don&#x27;t fit with people my age.<p>What I find frustrating is the society at large won&#x27;t let me ignore my age. You get categorized all the time. Some meetup or dating event is 30-45. Some form has age categories. Visas to visit countries have age limits (as in we let students in but you&#x27;re clearly too old to be a student). Articles all the time tell you who you should be, behave, for your age. Others tell you if you&#x27;re XX age you can&#x27;t do that anymore. Whatever it is. Can&#x27;t go back to school. Can&#x27;t learn a new language. Can&#x27;t join a start up. Bla bla bla.<p>Sure, most people&#x27;s first reaction is &quot;ignore that&quot; but it&#x27;s oppressive. It&#x27;s a viral meme that eats at your thoughts<p>Big life decisions are also harder because you start to realize each choice cuts off others so which choice to make?