The thing is, the world is full of people who are abusive or terrible when in private or one-on-one, yet adhere to social norms when in a group. Every woman I know who has reported her rapist or her harasser has had this said to her in some variation--it couldn&#x27;t happen here, because we&#x27;re not like that. It doesn&#x27;t work that way.<p>I&#x27;ve had conversations with male friends about this that eventually boiled down to, &quot;well, I just don&#x27;t want to think the people I know and like could be capable of that.&quot; Yeah, imagine how much we hate it.