&gt; &#x27;praise kids for their work not their brains&#x27;<p>This can also be a veiled tendency of manipulation. &quot;You worked hard!&quot; means &quot;I am pleased you worked hard!&quot; or &quot;I will not be pleased if you don&#x27;t work as hard in the future!&quot; and this can have negative consequences as the kid realizes they are captive to your criteria.