-isms don&#x27;t rest on whether or not negative qualities are being assigned, or if the assigned qualities make the character more sympathetic. -isms are about denying the agency of individuals, by treating everyone as objects that are carbon-copies of their demographic.<p>You&#x27;re the first person in this thread to use the word &quot;grandpa&quot; in this context. If it were really &quot;just as good&quot; of a term, it should be random chance whether people use &quot;grandma&quot; or &quot;grandpa&quot;. But there are eight instances of the word &quot;grandma&quot; used in context in this thread alone, and the first time anyone even thought to use &quot;grandpa&quot; was in trying to defend their subconscious sexism, rather than try to use it as an opportunity to learn how to reduce narcissism in their life and be more compassionate to others.<p>We all have narcissistic tendencies. Our contemporary culture promotes it and contributes to its growth. We all have to work hard to fight the trend and remove it.