&gt; The thing that sucks about approaching someone is when it is welcome, you are golden, and when it is unwelcome, you are a creep.<p>I hear you. I actually read a comment here at HN by such a &quot;golden&quot; man and his experiences (women from his workplace approached him often), but unfortunately I cannot find it right now.<p>Keep the workplace separate from romance. Heck, even outside of the workplace things can be risky (I had been called a stalker by a female neighbor just for existing, uh).