&gt; To him, it was probably analogous to saying, &quot;You look good. Really good. We should go out sometime,&quot; with the subtext of sex after the date.<p>I think its kind of odd to see this as a <i>defense</i> of the acceptability (even subjective from the POV of the speaker) of a comment <i>after</i> a rejection, in a conversation between coworkers, that originated in a work-related forum even if it had an intervening change of venue.<p>That&#x27;s, <i>at best</i>, only marginally <i>less</i> problematic in context than the original statement. So, yeah, it <i>is</i> basically analogous to saying that -- which is exactly the problem.