&gt; <i>How is she going to react if you fire his ass? Wouldn&#x27;t it be acting like she can&#x27;t take care of herself?</i><p>You know, it occurs to me you can&#x27;t have this both ways: take care of yourself <i>and</i> rat out the fiend to the boss above.<p>&quot;Hello, 911? There is a robbery at Elm and 41st. But <i>don&#x27;t send anyone, I can take care of these dudes!</i> One of the perpetrators saw me using my phone, so if police arrive, they will know it was me! And that scares me --- <i>that&#x27;s</i> how much I can take care of this myself!&quot;<p>If you don&#x27;t want some authority to take action, don&#x27;t burden them with the conflict of the knowledge and the request not to take action.