&gt; if the woman is making the offer and the man refuses, he&#x27;s likely to still feel flattered but the woman is likely to get the signal and move on.<p>I&#x27;ve had the opposite experience.  I didn&#x27;t feel flattered and she didn&#x27;t get the hint.<p>&gt;But ... many men are absolutely clueless and will never get that signal.<p>Weasel words.  We&#x27;re in Anecdote City right now.<p>&gt;So I think part of this discussion needs to acknowledge that you can&#x27;t write HR policy that will satisfy everyone.<p>The HR policies exist to prevent sexual harassment and to optimize for &quot;safe against lawsuits.&quot;  They&#x27;re not supposed to make people satisfied or happy, they&#x27;re there to protect the company.