I think the biggest issue is likely to be a misunderstanding about this person&#x27;s view of the word &quot;milf&quot;. Namely, that this person&#x27;s view of the world is completely unacceptable and the word should never find its way into a professional setting. It seems like that word in particular has caused so much of the emotional response in this thread. It is OP&#x27;s gimmick name, it is referenced in nearly every negative comment, and it is the only feedback in many comments.<p>The point you make about him doing it to someone on a PIP or other situations is a great point, and it really is the core of the issue.<p>However, I think while this person&#x27;s behavior is unacceptable, if we remove him calling the co-worker a milf, the entire situation changes. I&#x27;m willing to give this person a second chance, and a permanent red-mark on their HR record.<p>In regards to what the victim wants, I completely agree. My point was just to help ease the founder&#x27;s guilt in potentially breaking her trust. You can&#x27;t break her trust if you keep her in the loop and are transparent about the steps you will be taking.