One of the first things I learned in management training was: &quot;as soon as a manager knows about an incident, the company knows about the incident.&quot; You can&#x27;t promise confidentiality because the company _must_ act on information it has. (If it does not, it opens itself up to later lawsuits for _failing_ to handle discrimination and harassment.)<p>All of this is to say: patio11 is right.