Or just an enabler?  :-)<p>I see it as both manipulative (of the ex) and disrespectful to the current.  It&#x27;s one thing to be Facebook Friends, it&#x27;s another to bring the competition into the dining room.  It took me a while to pick up on this.  When Harry Met Sally [0] wasn&#x27;t 100% true, but it&#x27;s true enough to be a general guide.<p>[0] <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.youtube.com&#x2F;watch?v=i8kpYm-6nuE" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.youtube.com&#x2F;watch?v=i8kpYm-6nuE</a>