Sometimes this is about having a different learning style. Some people may absorb information better one on one. Tutoring and mentoring can be super helpful.<p>Another thing you might consider is that there are class and cultural factors to people&#x27;s expectations about how you get along in life. Person to person conversation and personal relationships are important resources if you are working class or living in poverty.<p>There is a flip side to culture that disdains just asking, which is that smart people sometimes scramble to find answers independently to any questions because they don&#x27;t want to reveal their ignorance on a subject. Sometimes just asking is not lazy, it is efficient and results in better collaboration as other people hear the question and realize they don&#x27;t know, either, and would like to. Or, if no one knows, then you at least know have that information and can work from there.