Just because something &quot;exists&quot; doesn&#x27;t mean it&#x27;s a good thing. Try to use silence instead of those ummms. You&#x27;ll notice you&#x27;ll get much more attention when you&#x27;re talking. Silence introduces tension to conversations which makes people pay attention. This is based both on theory (there are tons of books out there that talk about this) and practice (mine).