Honestly, it <i>does</i> seem sort of egoistic to continue being a soldier if you have a family, at least to me. I&#x27;m going to have a hard time explaining it in a way that doesn&#x27;t seem confrontational, but the most exaggerated example of this is Pat Tillman[1], the professional football player to turned down a $3.6 million NFL contract to enlist in the Army after the Sept. 11 attacks. Two years later, he was killed by friendly fire, making a widow out of the woman he married right before enlisting. Even if you ignore all the absurd, bungled propaganda surrounding his death, he probably did a lot of good in the Army -- but was it as much good as if he&#x27;d stayed home and used a couple million dollars to help vets or something?<p>I very much understand the sense of duty that pulls people toward the military, and I know it&#x27;s frequently a complicated situation. But I don&#x27;t think I&#x27;ll never understand these guys who marry a woman, have a kid or three in between deployments, then just go running back into a war zone.<p>[1] <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;en.wikipedia.org&#x2F;wiki&#x2F;Pat_Tillman" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;en.wikipedia.org&#x2F;wiki&#x2F;Pat_Tillman</a>