english: I could go back to my girlfriend and my gay-loving table and mock their responses, chastise their unworldliness and their inability to jump through the politically correct  gay hoops I had brought with me, or I could empathize with them and realize that that was maybe one of the hardest things they had ever done, that starting and having that conversation was them coming out of their closets.
non_english: Ik kon teruggaan naar mijn vriendin  aan onze homotafel en hun antwoorden bespotten. Hun bekrompenheid en onvermogen afstraffen om te voldoen aan mijn  politiek correcte lesbische maatstaven. Of ik kon empathie tonen. Misschien was dit het moeilijkste  wat ze ooit hadden gedaan. Om zo'n gesprek te voeren was voor hen uit de kast komen.