anchor: in that other you know uh that i should do it or that or just to think about doing it rat her than having someone  tell him to do it i know that was a big thing in our house for a long time was that if i wanted my husband to do something to help
positive: I had trouble asking my husband do do things around the house, so I usually just did things myself.
negative: I have no problem asking my husband to help me out around the house; he has plenty of spare time!