Although loam is a combination of sand, silt and clay, adding sand to your clay soil, or vice versa, will not create loam. Doing so will result in something like cement.
According to Merriam-Webster, family values are values especially of a traditional or conservative kind which are held to promote the sound functioning of the family and to strengthen the fabric of society.
1 Try having each family member choose 3-4 values that they feel are most important. Combined, this will give you a manageable number of values to put on your permanent list.  For example, you could choose Safety as one of the primary values for your family.