Disenfranchised grief
There are many models for dealing with grief. The Kubler-Ross model describes grieving in five steps or stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance (Kubler-Ross, 1969). In other words, in order to begin grieving one must first endorse the loss, and then express emotion. The griever must then accept the loss and adjust to the change the death or loss caused in his or her life (Cordaro, 2012). Over the years, however, how grief is conceptualised has moved away from predictable stages that lead to 'recovery' or 'closure', towards an understanding of grief that addresses the complexity and diversity of the grieving experience (Australian Psychological Society, 2016). Models such as Worden's tasks of grief (2008) and the Dual-Process model (Stroebe and Schutt,1999) offer frameworks for dealing with grief in a way that enhances the self awareness of the grieving person (Australian Psychological Society, 2016).
Megan Devine
Megan M Devine (born September 30, 1970) is an American author, essayist, psychotherapist, and speaker. She is best known for her 2017 book, "It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief & Loss in a Culture that Doesn't Understand", and for her work advancing an approach to grief support which excludes platitudes, five-stage theories, and treating grief as a pathology. Devine is the founder of Refuge in Grief, a grief education and outreach site focused on out of order or unexpected death such as suicide, violent crime, baby loss, and accidents. Devine's quotes, "Some things cannot be fixed. They can only be carried." and "Acknowledgement can be the best medicine we have. It makes things better, even when they can not be made right." defines her model of grief advocacy work based on her professional and personal observations on supporting grievers and their advocates with an emphasis on traumatic, out-of-order, and death by suicide.