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There are some things that are rules. What is right and wrong is clearly outlined. We can not run red lights. We can not steal. There are laws against those things. Then there are things that are socially inappropriate, like yelling in people’s faces. It’s not against the law, but it is against social protocol.

But most of the decisions we make in our lives, day to day, moment to moment, are gray-level decisions. In these instances, there is no clear right or wrong. I once made lasagna and someone told me I’d made it incorrectly. I do two noodle layers in my lasagna, and this person was insisting that lasagna was supposed to have three layers of noodles. If you go online and search for lasagna recipes you will find dozens of different variations. Everybody puts their own little personal spin on it. The way one person chooses to make theirs isn’t right or wrong, it’s their personal preference. It’s a gray area.

Many times we like to treat our preferences like they are rules, but they’re not. If you run a red light, someone could get seriously hurt. If you choose to add any extra layer of noodles in your lasagna, the world will not change. There is a difference.

Lots of the things we’re deciding on: what shirt to put on, what book to read, whether or not to go to the movies, where to work, these are decisions that live in the gray.

So, how do we make space for making a choice without putting so much pressure on ourselves to get it right?

Ask yourself why it matters. If it matters to you because you feel like you need to make the perfect decision, remind yourself that this does not exist in most instances. Lean into your preference and what feels good to you.

Give yourself the opportunity to fail. It’s ok if the choice you make doesn’t go the way you thought it would. It’s ok to start over and choose something else.

Allow yourself to try something new. Take a chance and step outside of your comfort zone.

Be honest with yourself about the consequences. What is the worst that could happen if you choose one option or another? Are there any consequences at all?

We just have to allow ourselves to decide what we’re going to do based on our own judgment and preferences and be less concerned with getting it right all the time. Sometimes there is no right decision, just the decision you make.
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mujhe pehle vyakti main is post ke liye ek saransh paragraph likhen, jaisaa ki lekhak likhata he.

kuch chijen hai jo niyam hai.jo sahi he or galat he use spasht rup se rekhaankit kiya gaya he.ham laal roshni nahin chalaa sakate.ham chori nahin kar sakate.un chizon ke khilaaf kanoon hai.phir aisi chijen hai jo saamaajik rup se anuchit hai, jaise logon ke chehre main chillaanaa.yah kanoon ke khilaaf nahin he, lekin yah saamaajik protocol ke khilaaf he.

lekin adhikansh nirnay hamaare jivan main, din-pratidin, pal-pal, bhure str ke faisle hai.in udaahranon main, koi spasht sahi yaa galat nahin he.maine ek baar lasagna banaaya tha or kisi ne mujhe bataaya tha ki maine ise galat tareeke se banaaya he.main apane lasagna main do noodle paraten karata hum, or yah vyakti jor dekar kah rahaa tha ki lasagna ko noodles kii teen paraten thim.yadi aap online jate hai or lasagna vyanjanon kii khoj karte hai to aapako darjanon vibhinn vividhtaayen milengi.har koi is par apni choti vyaktigat spin daalati he.jis tarah se ek vyakti apane ko sahi yaa galat banane ke liye chunata he, vah unki vyaktigat praathamikta he.yah ek grey kshetra he.

kai baar ham apni variyataon kaa ilaaj karnaa pasand karte hai jaise ki ve niyam hai, lekin ve nahin hai.yadi aap ek laal batti chalaate hai, to kisi ko gambhir chot lag sakati he.yadi aap apane lasagna main noodles kii koi atirikt parat jodna chunate hai, to duniya nahin badalegi.vahaan ek antar he.

jin chizon par ham tay kar rahe hai, unamem se bahut sari: kis shart ko rakhana he, kis pustak ko padhanaa he, kya filmon main janaa he, kahaan kaam karnaa he, ye nirnay hai jo grey main rahete hai.

to, ham ise sahi paane ke liye khud par itnaa dabaav daale bina ek vikalp banane ke liye kaise jagah banaate hai?

apane aap se puuchhen ki yah kyon myne rakhata he.yadi yah aapke liye myne rakhata he kyonki aapako lagata he ki aapako sahi nirnay lene kii aavashyaktaa he, to apane aap ko yaad dilaaein ki yah zyaadaatar udaahranon main maujuud nahin he.apni pasand main jhuken or aapako kya acha lagata he.

apane aap ko asafal hone kaa avasar den.yah thik he agar aap jis vikalp ko banaate hai vah vaisaa nahin he jis tarah se aapane sochaa tha ki yah hoga.shuru karnaa or kuch or chunanaa thik he.

apane aap ko kuch nayaa karne kii koshish karne den.ek mauka len or apane comfort jone ke baahar kadam rakhen.

parinaamon ke bare main apane aap se eemaandaar rahen.yadi aap ek vikalp yaa kisi anya ko chunate hai to sabase bura kya ho saktaa he?kya koi parinaam he?

hamen bas apane aap ko yah tay karne kii anumati deni he ki ham apane nirnay or variyataon ke aadhaar par kya karne ja rahe hai or ise har samay sahi hone se kam chintit hai.kabhi -kabhi koi sahi nirnay nahin hota he, bas aap jo nirnay lete hai.
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hamaare jivan main kai nirnay vastav main praathamiktaayen hai, na ki niyam yaa kanoon, jaisaa ki ham maanate hai ki ve hai.hamen "sirf sahi ek" banane ke dabaav ke bina vikalp banane ke liye jagah banane kii aavashyaktaa he.aksar ek se adhik achche vikalp hote hai.chalo grey main rahete hai;adhik jokhim or avasar len, bhale hi ham asafal hon yaa chhod den or kuch or shuru karen.aisa karne ke liye, hamen khud ke saath eemaandaar hone kii jarurat he or yah poochne kii jarurat he ki yah vishesh vikalp kyon myne rakhata he or kya, yadi koi ho, parinaam, vastav main shaamil hai.
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mujhe pehle vyakti main is post ke liye ek saransh paragraph likhen, jaisaa ki lekhak likhata he.

kuch chijen hai jo niyam hai.jo sahi he or galat he use spasht rup se rekhaankit kiya gaya he.ham laal roshni nahin chalaa sakate.ham chori nahin kar sakate.un chizon ke khilaaf kanoon hai.phir aisi chijen hai jo saamaajik rup se anuchit hai, jaise logon ke chehre main chillaanaa.yah kanoon ke khilaaf nahin he, lekin yah saamaajik protocol ke khilaaf he.

lekin adhikansh nirnay hamaare jivan main, din-pratidin, pal-pal, bhure str ke faisle hai.in udaahranon main, koi spasht sahi yaa galat nahin he.maine ek baar lasagna banaaya tha or kisi ne mujhe bataaya tha ki maine ise galat tareeke se banaaya he.main apane lasagna main do noodle paraten karata hum, or yah vyakti jor dekar kah rahaa tha ki lasagna ko noodles kii teen paraten thim.yadi aap online jate hai or lasagna vyanjanon kii khoj karte hai to aapako darjanon vibhinn vividhtaayen milengi.har koi is par apni choti vyaktigat spin daalati he.jis tarah se ek vyakti apane ko sahi yaa galat banane ke liye chunata he, vah unki vyaktigat praathamikta he.yah ek grey kshetra he.

kai baar ham apni variyataon kaa ilaaj karnaa pasand karte hai jaise ki ve niyam hai, lekin ve nahin hai.yadi aap ek laal batti chalaate hai, to kisi ko gambhir chot lag sakati he.yadi aap apane lasagna main noodles kii koi atirikt parat jodna chunate hai, to duniya nahin badalegi.vahaan ek antar he.

jin chizon par ham tay kar rahe hai, unamem se bahut sari: kis shart ko rakhana he, kis pustak ko padhanaa he, kya filmon main janaa he, kahaan kaam karnaa he, ye nirnay hai jo grey main rahete hai.

to, ham ise sahi paane ke liye khud par itnaa dabaav daale bina ek vikalp banane ke liye kaise jagah banaate hai?

apane aap se puuchhen ki yah kyon myne rakhata he.yadi yah aapke liye myne rakhata he kyonki aapako lagata he ki aapako sahi nirnay lene kii aavashyaktaa he, to apane aap ko yaad dilaaein ki yah zyaadaatar udaahranon main maujuud nahin he.apni pasand main jhuken or aapako kya acha lagata he.

apane aap ko asafal hone kaa avasar den.yah thik he agar aap jis vikalp ko banaate hai vah vaisaa nahin he jis tarah se aapane sochaa tha ki yah hoga.shuru karnaa or kuch or chunanaa thik he.

apane aap ko kuch nayaa karne kii koshish karne den.ek mauka len or apane comfort jone ke baahar kadam rakhen.

parinaamon ke bare main apane aap se eemaandaar rahen.yadi aap ek vikalp yaa kisi anya ko chunate hai to sabase bura kya ho saktaa he?kya koi parinaam he?

hamen bas apane aap ko yah tay karne kii anumati deni he ki ham apane nirnay or variyataon ke aadhaar par kya karne ja rahe hai or ise har samay sahi hone se kam chintit hai.kabhi -kabhi koi sahi nirnay nahin hota he, bas aap jo nirnay lete hai.</s>
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hamaare jivan main kai nirnay vastav main praathamiktaayen hai, na ki niyam yaa kanoon, jaisaa ki ham maanate hai ki ve hai.hamen "sirf sahi ek" banane ke dabaav ke bina vikalp banane ke liye jagah banane kii aavashyaktaa he.aksar ek se adhik achche vikalp hote hai.chalo grey main rahete hai;adhik jokhim or avasar len, bhale hi ham asafal hon yaa chhod den or kuch or shuru karen.aisa karne ke liye, hamen khud ke saath eemaandaar hone kii jarurat he or yah poochne kii jarurat he ki yah vishesh vikalp kyon myne rakhata he or kya, yadi koi ho, parinaam, vastav main shaamil hai.</s>
