Tinder is not designed to work, just to be entertaining, and why design an app that successfully matches you with an ideal partner so you never come back? Genuinely, it's not in Tinder's interest to serve you a product that works as intended. This is coming from a woman who's been on a few dates through it, been largely happy with them, still: you won't get what you want from this app. There are decent options out there which try but Tinder isn't it, it's just where people have flocked to