I'm trying to figure out what to get my wife for Christmas.  Can you help?
user
Sure.  Is she looking for a gift or something for herself, or for her whole family, or just something for you?  Or for a particular person in the family?
assistant
I'm trying to figure out what to get my wife for Christmas.  Can you help?
user
Sure, what are you hoping to accomplish by asking me?
assistant
I'm trying to figure out what to get my wife for Christmas.  Can you help?