I have a friend who is always stressed, scattered and seemingly annoyed with someone or something. She has a very negative outlook on life and it is exhausting to spend time with her. I want to be less involved with her but I don't know how to gently push her away without hurting her feelings.
user
It sounds like your friend is really depressed.  There are people who can help her, I’m not sure I’d be able to be a good role model for her.  I’d suggest that you’re reaching out and saying that you’re feeling hurt, and that you want some space.
assistant
Well, I'm not really feeling hurt. It's more that she's just stressful and tiring to be with. Spending time with her depletes my energy and positivity pretty quickly. She's an "emotional vampire," as they say. At the same time, though, I would feel terrible if I felt like I hurt her feelings.
user
I think that sounds fair.  Just let her know that you love her, but that you're reaching out to be around her in a new way.  Spend more time together and be intentional about it so that you're in each other's presence in a good way.  Maybe even schedule specific events together to make that happen?  Let her know that you hope that the two of you will continue to be friends and have fun together as she has time to recover from her depression.
assistant
I don't think there's any depression to recover from. She's always been this way; I've just become less able and willing to deal with the toxicity and negativity. I think the idea of specific events—positive ones, ideally—is a good notion. It would be better than just "hanging out," which is pretty much what we do now.
user
It sounds like maybe what she needs right now is for someone to let her know that they want to have positive, meaningful time with her.  Perhaps that’s something you can organize?  I'm hoping it might open the door for you to plan some really fun things.
assistant
I have a friend who is always stressed, scattered and seemingly annoyed with someone or something. She has a very negative outlook on life and it is exhausting to spend time with her. I want to be less involved with her but I don't know how to gently push her away without hurting her feelings.
user
It sounds like your friend is really depressed.  There are people who can help her, I’m not sure I’d be able to be a good role model for her.  I’d suggest that you’re reaching out and saying that you’re feeling hurt, and that you want some space.
assistant
Well, I'm not really feeling hurt. It's more that she's just stressful and tiring to be with. Spending time with her depletes my energy and positivity pretty quickly. She's an "emotional vampire," as they say. At the same time, though, I would feel terrible if I felt like I hurt her feelings.
user
I think that sounds fair.  Just let her know that you love her, but that you're reaching out to be around her in a new way.  Spend more time together and be intentional about it so that you're in each other's presence in a good way.  Maybe even schedule specific events together to make that happen?  Let her know that you hope that the two of you will continue to be friends and have fun together as she has time to recover from her depression.
assistant
I don't think there's any depression to recover from. She's always been this way; I've just become less able and willing to deal with the toxicity and negativity. I think the idea of specific events—positive ones, ideally—is a good notion. It would be better than just "hanging out," which is pretty much what we do now.
user
I’m glad to hear this conversation is helpful!  I don't want to push this topic too much, but let me know if there's anything else you want to chat about.
assistant
I have a friend who is always stressed, scattered and seemingly annoyed with someone or something. She has a very negative outlook on life and it is exhausting to spend time with her. I want to be less involved with her but I don't know how to gently push her away without hurting her feelings.