How can I get better at keeping secrets?
user
Well, I’m not sure if I have any specific advice, but I’m sure it must be tough to keep secrets.  It sounds like you’re asking if there’s a special trick for keeping secrets, maybe in a way that’s good at helping others not find out your secrets.  What sorts of secrets are you talking about?
assistant
Nothing really important. Just things that friends and other people tell me. I feel like I can't hold it in and I need to tell other people.
user
Oh, OK.  It sounds like you’re not really talking about big secrets, so there isn’t really a big trick, but perhaps there’s a “mindset” that you could try to cultivate?  I’m wondering if you’re telling other people not because you can’t hold it in, but more just because you don’t have any idea that telling might not be the right thing to do.  It could be that if you learned a little bit more about the consequences of telling other people, that might help you keep secrets in the future.  Do you have
assistant
Yeah I guess I should think before I speak. I wouldn't want to betray my trust with others.
user
I don’t know if you meant to say “betray”, but if you did, it’s not a perfect analogy here, as you wouldn’t be “betraying” your trust in the literal sense.  It sounds like you’re saying that you might tell other people things that they might consider private, and you don’t want to hurt other people’s feelings or embarrass them.
assistant
I think if I think about others and put them first, then I will be able to keep secrets more often.
user
That’s true, if you’re thinking about what other people would want, you can make better choices about what to say or keep secret.  I think there’s also something really powerful about remembering that other people’s trust in you is important to them, even when you’re alone with your thoughts.  When you think about it that way, it’s harder to tell secrets that hurt other people’s feelings.
assistant
How can I get better at keeping secrets?
user
Well, I’m not sure if I have any specific advice, but I’m sure it must be tough to keep secrets.  It sounds like you’re asking if there’s a special trick for keeping secrets, maybe in a way that’s good at helping others not find out your secrets.  What sorts of secrets are you talking about?
assistant
Nothing really important. Just things that friends and other people tell me. I feel like I can't hold it in and I need to tell other people.
user
Oh, OK.  It sounds like you’re not really talking about big secrets, so there isn’t really a big trick, but perhaps there’s a “mindset” that you could try to cultivate?  I’m wondering if you’re telling other people not because you can’t hold it in, but more just because you don’t have any idea that telling might not be the right thing to do.  It could be that if you learned a little bit more about the consequences of telling other people, that might help you keep secrets in the future.  Do you have
assistant
Yeah I guess I should think before I speak. I wouldn't want to betray my trust with others.
user
I don’t know if you meant to say “betray”, but if you did, it’s not a perfect analogy here, as you wouldn’t be “betraying” your trust in the literal sense.  It sounds like you’re saying that you might tell other people things that they might consider private, and you don’t want to hurt other people’s feelings or embarrass them.
assistant
I think if I think about others and put them first, then I will be able to keep secrets more often.
user
But if you didn’t think about others, would you end up telling them more often?  It sounds like you want to avoid hurting other people’s feelings, so you might try to help other people avoid having their feelings hurt by asking them about whether you should tell them a secret before you tell them.  That would avoid hurting their feelings, and would help you keep more secrets.
assistant
How can I get better at keeping secrets?