Sissy: A Coming-of-Gender Story  Sissy: A Coming-of-Gender Story is a 2019 memoir written by Jacob Tobia. "The New York Times" wrote "Tobia makes clear early on that this book will not be your traditional 'Transgender 101.' Even so, through evocative rhetoric, the memoir subtly educates even the most uninformed reader about the spectrum of nonbinary identities by recounting Tobia’s various coming-out experiences, their initial refuge in their Methodist faith and their gradual self-discovery and advocacy as a visible student at a Southern university."