In 2017, she received the Alice P. Kenney Award from the New Netherland Institute for her contributions to scholarship related to the Dutch colony in North America. She is a participant in the New York Council for the Humanities Speakers Program as well as its Community Conversations, and she has over the years consulted for the Museum of the City of New York, the American History Workshop, the New Amsterdam History Center, the New York Genealogical and Biographical Society, the Hudson River Museum, the New York State Historical Association, and other institutions concerned with American history. She was elected the first President of the Jacob Leisler Institute for the Study of Early New York History, located in Hudson, NY, in 2014. In the 1970s, she was invited to deposit her papers in The Twentieth Century Archives, in what is today called The Howard Gotlieb Archival Center, in the Mugar Memorial Library, Boston University. The Firth Haring Collection contains copies of all her works, including a memoir she self-published in 2008, "Only a Paper Life," her book contracts for her first five novels, her manuscripts of these novels, and the correspondence and reviews relating to them. (Of "Only a Paper Life," Cambridge University English professor Richard Gooder of Clare College wrote, “It remains a little masterpiece. I know nothing else like it.”) Her genealogical notes and other material on the Haring family are in Special Collections and University Archives in the Alexander Library, Rutgers University, New Brunswick, and also in the manuscript collection of the New York Genealogical and Biographical Society. She is married to E. Carl Fabend, lives in Verona, New Jersey, and has two daughters, three grandchildren, and two step-grandchildren.