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"   Question I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year. We are always &amp;#039;safe&amp;#039; when we have sex and use a condom \u2013 but I never have an orgasm. I don&amp;#039;t feel anything during sex. I enjoy it but my body doesn&amp;#039;t feel like it&amp;#039;s turned on at all.   Answer David writes: Cheer up! The prospects for you are very good. Let&amp;#039;s deal with orgasms first.  Our research has suggested that many young women take two years from the start of the first relationship until they are able to reach a climax. And in our sample, the average age of first orgasm was 19 \u2013 a year older than you are at the moment.  So I&amp;#039;m sure you&amp;#039;ll &amp;#039;get there&amp;#039; \u2013 nearly everybody does these days.  One very important thing to realise is that it won&amp;#039;t happen unless your boyfriend stimulates your clitoris intensively \u2013 for an hour at a time, if necessary.  I&amp;#039;m slightly more concerned about the fact that you &amp;#039;don&amp;#039;t feel anything&amp;#039; during sex. On this subject, you need face-to-face help from an expert - for instance, a woman doctor at a family planning clinic, or a relate counsellor.  As you\u2019re so young, you could go to the Brook advisory service for young people if you live in an area where they have one of their branches. Christine adds: Everything that David says is absolutely true and I hope it will reassure you.  I would just like to add a few things to it. First of all, you don&amp;#039;t say if you have ever had an orgasm through masturbation. If you have not, then if I were you, this is something I would concentrate on.  Indeed, most experts now believe that any woman with orgasm problems, should make sure she can masturbate to a climax. When she can, this will increase her confidence and also help her to show her man what she likes.  Masturbation comes naturally to most people, but if it doesn&amp;#039;t to you, here are a few tips.  Always choose a time when you will not be rushed and you know that you will very definitely not be disturbed. Have a warm, scented bath. Move to your bedroom and think pleasant nice sexy thoughts and start to caress your body all over.  Only after you&amp;#039;ve been doing this for a while should you move your hands to your vulva and clitoris.  There is no right or wrong way to masturbate. Nature should take over and help you do what you like! Things like erotic literature help some women and lots of women also enjoy using a vibrator. So if you can&amp;#039;t get there on your own, you might consider getting some sort of sex toy to help you.  The other thing I would recommend is a DVD. Now this may not be easy for you to view \u2013 particularly if you still live at home with your parents!  But if you and your boy friend do have access to a DVD player that you can use in private, there is a brilliant sex education programme called &amp;#039;The lover&amp;#039;s guide&amp;#039; presented and written by Dr Andrew Stanway.  This first came out in 1991, but in my view, is still the best sex ed tool available. You can get it from Amazon \u2013 but be sure to look for the original 1991 version. This DVD will be of great help to you both.  Finally, if you do want to seek face-to-face help, then I agree that Brook (which is the agency for under 25s) is another good possibility (http://www.brook.org.uk). Lastly, let me just reassure you one last time that you are not alone in not being able to climax. And I also want you to take on board that many women \u2013 in fact, the vast majority \u2013 are unable throughout their lives to climax through intercourse alone.  What most of us need is to be able to rub or stroke our own clitoris while intercourse is going on, or to have our man do it for us.  Hope all this helps. Yours sincerely Dr David Delvin, GP, and Christine Webber, sex and relationships expert  Other Qs &amp;amp;amp; As Am I a female without a sex drive? How can I get my sexual desire back \u2013 after having a baby? I am a woman who has no sex drive I\u2019m a guy whose sex drive has decreased dramatically I\u2019m newly wed: but how can I get my sex drive back on track? Is my husband\u2019s loss of libido cancer-related? Low sex drive and my hopes of pregnancy My boyfriend has gone off sex My fianc\u00E9 has gone off sex after the birth of our child My girlfriend is on antidepressants \u2013 and she has gone off sex My loss of libido is affecting my relationship with my man  My sex drive disappeared after my male partner moved in  Last updated 20.02.2012 "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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