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"   Question My wife is clinically depressed and as a result she says she has lost all feelings towards me in terms of sexual desire. She also says she cannot bring herself to indulge in sex with me. I have asked if it is just me, or can she see herself with someone else. The answer was that she felt like this just with me.  We have no physical interaction at all. I have tried to be supportive and there for her but she refuses even to let me cuddle her. I want to be as supportive as possible for her. She is seeing a counsellor.  We have agreed that we will look at our marriage after Christmas. She says she wants to make things work out between us but this may be more to do with our two-year-old son than feelings for me.  Meanwhile I am trying to continue as we were before \u2013 for instance, I help around the house and deal with the needs of our son.  All of which I don\u2019t mind and in fact quite enjoy but I can\u2019t help wondering what the future will hold and if she is deliberately blocking me out in order to try and deal with the issue.    Answer David writes: I&amp;#039;m very sorry indeed to hear about all this.  It is quite possible that the arrival of your baby may have played quite a part in affecting your wife\u2019s sexual feelings.  Anyway, one thing is certain. If you want to keep this marriage going, you and your wife need relationship counselling.  You say you have &amp;#039;agreed to look at your marriage after Christmas&amp;#039;. My advice is to put your name down now for an appointment with Relate. (There\u2019s usually a waiting list!)  I see from your details that you live in the north east of England. Your local Relate branch will be in your phone book. Let&amp;#039;s now see what Christine has to say.  Christine adds: I wonder just how long your wife has been depressed for? You say she\u2019s having counselling, but is she having antidepressants? If she is they don\u2019t seem to be working very well.  But the other thing to bear in mind is that antidepressants can have a bad effect on people&amp;#039;s sex lives. So all this needs looking at.   I shouldn&amp;#039;t take too much notice of your wife saying that her feelings about sex are just about you - and that she might feel different with someone else. This must be very hurtful for you.  But do remember that she has also said that she wants to make things work out between you. Please also remember that depressed people often feel unworthy of a partner&amp;#039;s love.  And your wife may \u2013 in her unhappiness \u2013 be thinking things like you&amp;#039;d be better off without her, or that you&amp;#039;d have a much better sex life with someone else. This could just be the depression talking.  May I suggest that it might help to take a good look at our Depression Community. This is a whole section of our website dedicated to every aspect of this illness.  There&amp;#039;s a lot in it that you&amp;#039;ll find interesting. In particular, have a look at the article we wrote called &amp;#039;Depression - how it affects sex and relationships&amp;#039;.  This is a really horrid time for you both. But my feeling is that with love, support and understanding \u2013 plus the right treatment \u2013 your wife will get better.  As that begins to happen I hope that your relationship will quickly recover too. You obviously both care deeply for each other and I believe you can have a happy future.  Good luck. Yours sincerely Dr David Delvin, GP and Christine Webber, sex and relationships expert  Other Qs &amp;amp;amp; As Blood pressure drugs have affected my sex drive Condoms and erection problem Did a sexual assault cause my girlfriend\u2019s problems with intimacy? How can I keep myself s aroused after my climax? I am unable to have a climax  I\u2019m afraid of starting a sexual relationship again I can\u2019t orgasm from intercourse I can\u2019t seem to get as much pleasure from orgasm as I used to  I have a problem with lubrication  I have no feeling in my clitoris I have not been interested in sex for five years I\u2019ve never been interested in sex I want more foreplay from my boyfriend Is my liquid \u2018female ejaculate&amp;#039;? Loss of sexual sensation after a stroke My husband can only reach orgasm through masturbation My husband gets turned on by other women My wife cut her hair \u2013 so I don\u2019t find her sexually attractive anymore Sexual desire after vasectomy Side effects of premature ejaculation drugs What are the side effects of bromide?  Last updated 13.12.2011 "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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