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" Question I have a regular partner, but twice I&amp;#039;ve had sex with someone else.  Some 10 months have elapsed since then, and I&amp;#039;ve realised the magnitude of what I&amp;#039;ve done and yet I am afraid to tell me partner for fear of losing her. I love her move than ever, but sometimes feel I need to tell her about my bad mistakes.  Answer David writes: I think you would be insane to tell her about this. Think of the pain it would cause her. I suppose you think that you would feel a bit better. But the effect on her might be disastrous.  And in future, make sure you don&amp;#039;t get drunk. Christine adds: I heartily agree.  Telling your partner now would serve no useful purpose except to get it off your chest.  Well, if you need to do that, tell someone you trust \u2013 like sibling or parent, or go and see a Relate counsellor on your own for a couple of sessions, or if you have any religion, go and tell a priest or minister.  The only reason it seems to me for telling her of your infidelities \u2013 especially since they were almost a year ago \u2013 would be if she were likely to find out from anyone else.  If that is at all likely, then you should definitely be the one to tell her, rather than let her find out elsewhere. If this isn&amp;#039;t possible, or likely, then keep quiet.  I obviously think it is regrettable that you were unfaithful \u2013 particularly since it happened twice.  But if you are now sure that your girlfriend is the one for you, I think you should make sure that she realises how very loved and special she is.  Yours sincerely Dr David Delvin, GP, and Christine Webber, sex and relationships expert  Other Qs &amp;amp;amp; As As soon as we married, it all went wrong Bereavement made me unfaithful I am obsessed by thinking about my wife&amp;#039;s affair I can&amp;#039;t forget my husband&amp;#039;s adultery I had an affair and my wife refuses to forgive me I snogged a work colleague, but should I tell my long-term partner? Is my husband gay? My husband is grossly unfaithful. My lover was unfaithful to me during our affair Should I trust this unfaithful doctor? We&amp;#039;re having loads of sex to try to blot out the memory of my husband&amp;#039;s infidelity Why can&amp;#039;t I forget my husband&amp;#039;s affair?  Last updated 01.07.2016 "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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