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"Recently parents have been anything but shy to ask my why their child appears to be so bossy.\u00A0 Well let me take charge of their concerns and provide some information on this topic.\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0 Often times a child will try to take charge or appear bossy because they feel they need to seek someone\u2019s attention\u2014but being bossy is only a method to get that attention in the wrong way.\u00A0 In fact if this behavior becomes more and more evident to others\u2014it can lead to loss of friends and even develop into bullying due to their feeling lonely and misunderstood.\u00A0 \u00A0So what can you do to deal with this type of behavior?\u00A0 First and foremost, be a good role model\u2014If you want your child to do something, be polite about it and give your child ample time to do what you want them to do\u2014use I versus you in terms of saying I need you to brush your teeth versus you need to brush your teeth and that will reduce the chance that you are being perceived as bossy\u2014so your child wants to model similar bossiness. \u00A0Don\u2019t encourage this habit by laughing the first time your child tries to boss you around. In fact it is important that you do not obey your child if he or she does order you around and that your child does not always get their way no matter how bossy they are\\.\u00A0 Stay calm and just tell your child to rephrase their request in a polite manner.\u00A0 Your child needs to understand that he/she is nobody\u2019s boss and that starts with you.\u00A0 Giving your child choices will also reduce the sense or need to gain control by being bossy.\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0 Encourage non-competitive game playing at home as well as participation in supervised team sports so that this behavior can be monitored and quietly extinguished by adults who see it happening. If the bossiness persists, in a public arena like the playground, tell your child your will take him or her home and if your child doesn\u2019t stop bossing others, follow through and do it.\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0 Then at bedtime when your child as your undivided attention and you have theirs you can talk about ways to reduce this behavior from occurring.\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0 A great idea is to always compliment your child when he or she lets other children suggest the game or if your child wants to share toys with others and this will go a long way to stopping the bossiness.\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0\u00A0 Hopefully tips like this will allow you to be in charge\u2014but not too bossy when it comes to helping your child not develop that bossy personality. Have a great week!"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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