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"&amp;lt;h3&amp;gt;Question: &amp;lt;em&amp;gt;I love my husband, and in many ways we have a great relationship.\u00A0 We both enjoy drinking on the weekends, but one Saturday night, my husband hit me. I thought it wouldn&amp;amp;#39;t happen again, so I let it go, but since then, things can sometimes get a bit out of control and we fight.\u00A0 More and more often, my husband hits me when he&amp;amp;#39;s drunk. I&amp;amp;#39;ll wake up on a Sunday with bruises on my face and body.\u00A0 My husband is really sweet most of the time so I don&amp;amp;#39;t want to leave him. Do I need help?&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/h3&amp;gt;&amp;lt;h3&amp;gt;Answer:&amp;lt;/h3&amp;gt;&amp;lt;h3&amp;gt;You Are Not Alone&amp;lt;/h3&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Many women and &amp;lt;a href=&amp;quot;https://www.verywell.com/my-girlfriend-hits-me-when-were-drunk-22476&amp;quot; data-component=&amp;quot;link&amp;quot; data-source=&amp;quot;inlineLink&amp;quot; data-type=&amp;quot;internalLink&amp;quot; data-ordinal=&amp;quot;1&amp;quot;&amp;gt;men&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt; are going through the same struggle you are.\u00A0 Research across different countries and cultures has demonstrated a strong relationship between binge drinking on violence towards intimate partners, whether they are married, co-habiting, dating, or casual encounters, and whether the partners are heterosexual, gay, lesbian, or bisexual. Both men and women can be victims or perpetrators, but the vast majority of assaults and homicides are perpetrated by men to women.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Like all wives with violent husbands, you are not to blame for what is happening to you, but you are unlikely to get help unless you take action yourself to prevent further abuse.\u00A0 Only you can decide what to do in this situation, but you are strongly advised to seek professional help as soon as possible.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;h3&amp;gt;The Connection Between Drinking and Intimate Partner Violence&amp;lt;/h3&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;a href=&amp;quot;https://www.verywell.com/what-is-a-bender-67956&amp;quot; data-component=&amp;quot;link&amp;quot; data-source=&amp;quot;inlineLink&amp;quot; data-type=&amp;quot;internalLink&amp;quot; data-ordinal=&amp;quot;2&amp;quot;&amp;gt;Binge&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt; drinking is associated with being both the perpetrator and victim of violence between marital couples.\u00A0 You say that you both enjoy drinking on the weekends, and on Saturdays it gets out of control.\u00A0 Think about how many drinks you have at these times -- the more you drink, as well as the more your husbands drinks, the greater the risk that he will become violent towards you.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Alcohol is typically involved in the most severe incidents of violence towards partners.\u00A0 The relationship between alcohol consumption and intimate partner violence is similar across diverse cultures and drinking patterns.\u00A0 While you may have only suffered from bruises up to this point, many wives are hospitalized and die each year as a result of violence from a drunk husband, so it is important that you deal with this now.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Research also shows that there is a consistent link between the number of drinks consumed per occasion and engaging in partner violence, suggesting that it is &amp;lt;a href=&amp;quot;https://www.verywell.com/alcohol-intoxication-21963&amp;quot; data-component=&amp;quot;link&amp;quot; data-source=&amp;quot;inlineLink&amp;quot; data-type=&amp;quot;internalLink&amp;quot; data-ordinal=&amp;quot;3&amp;quot;&amp;gt;alcohol intoxication&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt; rather than merely alcohol use that creates situations where violence occurs.\u00A0 One of the first things you can do is to &amp;lt;a href=&amp;quot;https://www.verywell.com/can-i-control-my-alcohol-consumption-22394&amp;quot; data-component=&amp;quot;link&amp;quot; data-source=&amp;quot;inlineLink&amp;quot; data-type=&amp;quot;internalLink&amp;quot; data-ordinal=&amp;quot;4&amp;quot;&amp;gt;control your drinking&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt; by setting a limit of how much you and your husband will drink -- if at all.\u00A0 Five drinks or more is particularly unsafe for escalating the risk of violence, so a limit of 3-4 drinks should be the maximum.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Even if you don&amp;amp;#39;t want to discuss his drinking with him, you can &amp;lt;a href=&amp;quot;https://www.verywell.com/can-i-control-my-alcohol-consumption-22394&amp;quot; data-component=&amp;quot;link&amp;quot; data-source=&amp;quot;inlineLink&amp;quot; data-type=&amp;quot;internalLink&amp;quot; data-ordinal=&amp;quot;5&amp;quot;&amp;gt;control your own drinking&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt; right away, which will reduce the risk of you being hit again to some extent.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;h3&amp;gt;Yes, You Do Need Help -- And So Does He&amp;lt;/h3&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;While you say you love your husband, and he is sweet most of the time, he has crossed the line to assaulting you.\u00A0 If he sweet enough to have a rational conversation about his behavior?\u00A0 If so, try talking to him, and see if you can come up with a plan together about how to get help.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Both you and your husband need help in this situation.\u00A0 While some people who are violent towards their partners can learn more effective ways to manage, if left unchecked, you can find yourself living in fear, eventually suffering from injuries or worse.\u00A0 Ideally, if your husband is willing to come to counseling, you should get &amp;lt;a href=&amp;quot;https://www.verywell.com/what-is-couples-counseling-22132&amp;quot; data-component=&amp;quot;link&amp;quot; data-source=&amp;quot;inlineLink&amp;quot; data-type=&amp;quot;internalLink&amp;quot; data-ordinal=&amp;quot;6&amp;quot;&amp;gt;couples counseling&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt; to address the underlying problems in your relationship, you should both get counseling around your drinking (unless you are both willing and able to quit, and don&amp;amp;#39;t drink most of the time), and he should get additional help to deal with his violent behavior.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;If your husband becomes violent again, you can call 911&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt; and ask for the police and an ambulance if you need medical attention.\u00A0 The police can help to link you with services in your area for abused women.\u00A0 You can also find this help through your local community centre or hospital.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;sub&amp;gt;Sources&amp;lt;/sub&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;sub&amp;gt;Graham, K., Bernards, S., Munne, M.and Wilsnack, S. &amp;lt;em&amp;gt;Unhappy Hours: Alcohol and Partner Aggression in the Americas&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt; (Scientific and Technical Publication 631). Pan American Health Organization. 2009.&amp;lt;/sub&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;sub&amp;gt;Testa, Maria Kubiak, Audrey Quigley, Brian M. Houston, Rebecca J. Derrick, Jaye L. Levitt, Ash Homish, Gregory G. Leonard, Kenneth E. &amp;amp;#34;Husband and wife alcohol use as independent or interactive predictors of intimate partner violence.&amp;amp;#34; &amp;lt;em&amp;gt;Journal of Studies on Alcohol and Drugs,&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt; Vol 73(2), 268-276. 2012.&amp;lt;/sub&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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