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"PinterestFacebookIs it OK to have a &amp;quot;friend with benefits&amp;quot;?\n59% of glamour.com readers say YES.\nNext: Friend your exes on Facebook? &amp;gt;&amp;gt;\nPinterestFacebookIs it OK to friend your exes on Facebook?\n72% of glamour.com readers say YES.\nYes: &amp;quot;I&amp;#39;m Facebook friends with six of my exes. Honestly, it would have been weirder to unfriend them after having once been so close, especially when things ended amicably. You just have to check yourself periodically for stalkerlike behavior. My rule: If I&amp;#39;d be embarrassed if the ex saw how much I was on his page, then I need to cool it. And maybe hide his updates for a while.&amp;quot; &amp;#8212;Elizabeth, 31, New York CityNo: &amp;quot;Facebook almost ruined my marriage. My ex is one of those constant status updaters. I became obsessed with his whereabouts. He would talk about doing all these fun things, and I&amp;#39;d look at my relationship and think, We don&amp;#39;t do that. I actually began to resent my husband. Eventually the ex and I met up, and that&amp;#39;s when things got really bad. Bad, as in, we slept together. My husband found out, and we wound up separating. Now we&amp;#39;re working things out. But man, nothing good comes from friending your ex.&amp;quot; &amp;#8212;Anonymous, 33\nNext: Date a much older man? &amp;gt;&amp;gt;\nPinterestFacebookShould you be open to dating a much older (or younger) man?\n79% of glamour.com readers say YES.\nNext: Wear Spanx on a date? &amp;gt;&amp;gt;\nPinterestFacebookSpanx: Should you wear them on a date?\n59% of glamour.com readers say NO.\nYes: &amp;quot;You&amp;#39;d wear a push-up bra, right? Sure, Spanx can be awkward if you&amp;#39;re hooking up&amp;#8212;go take em off in the bathroom&amp;#8212;but men get it. One time I admitted I had mine on, and the guy laughed it off as a girl thing.&amp;quot; &amp;#8212;Amy, 33, Grand Haven, Mich.\nNo: &amp;quot;I saw my girlfriend&amp;#39;s roommate in Spanx getting ready for a date\u2026how would a guy get that off? I guess it&amp;#39;s meant to curb women&amp;#39;s insecurities, but don&amp;#39;t they know the real deal is always hotter?&amp;quot;  &amp;#8212;Jeff, 31, Knoxville, Tenn.\nNext: Take your husband&amp;#39;s last name? &amp;gt;&amp;gt;\nPinterestFacebookShould you take your husband&amp;#39;s last name?\n62% of glamour.com readers say YES.\n(As debated by glamour.com commenters)\nYes: &amp;quot;You&amp;#39;re joining together as family; different last names only separate you.&amp;quot; *&amp;#8212;main1006 *\n&amp;quot;Your maiden name is your father&amp;#39;s name. That defeats the whole sexism argument.&amp;quot; &amp;#8212;ebyt\nNo: &amp;quot;[I don&amp;#39;t want] to be known as someone else. My husband fell in love with that girl, that girl graduated and passed the bar, that girl should get to keep her name!&amp;quot; &amp;#8212;seeniname\nNext: Dump him if he won&amp;#39;t go down on you? &amp;gt;&amp;gt;\nShould you dump a guy who won&amp;#39;t go down on you?\n57% of glamour.com readers say NO.\nYes: &amp;quot;Drop him! I once dated a guy, let&amp;#39;s call him the guy who wouldn&amp;#39;t perform oral but wanted a blow job every hour on the hour.&amp;#39; Finally I brought it up. His reply: That&amp;#39;s just not my thing.&amp;#39; I&amp;#39;ll blame youth for the fact that I stuck with him for a year. When he begged to get back together, I never considered it&amp;#8212;he was selfish in bed.&amp;quot; &amp;#8212;Anonymous, 35, New York City\nNo: &amp;quot;Maybe he doesn&amp;#39;t like the texture or flavor or scent; maybe he fears he&amp;#39;ll have trouble getting it back up; or he might just not know what to do. As long as he doesn&amp;#39;t expect to receive oral sex and you have other ways to climax, cut the guy some slack and talk it through.&amp;quot; &amp;#8212;Em &amp;amp; Lo, Glamour contributors and emandlo.com bloggers\nNext: Sex during your period? &amp;gt;&amp;gt;\nSex during your period: yes or no?\n40% of glamour.com readers say YES.\nNext: Sleep with your ex? &amp;gt;&amp;gt;\nPinterestFacebooksex with ex\nIs it ever OK to sleep with your ex?\n78% of glamour.com readers say NO.\nYes: &amp;quot;As long as you go into it with a clear mind- set&amp;#8212;knowing it&amp;#39;s complicated, knowing you have issues and knowing the relationship can&amp;#39;t go forward&amp;#8212;I say yes! Do it! All of the pressure is off, and you can just enjoy each other as friends and lovers without the intensity and the fights. Whenever I go back to my ex-husband, Travis, I have a sense of comfort and stability. We&amp;#39;re exes, but there&amp;#39;s still that substance there, that history.&amp;quot; &amp;#8212;Shanna Moakler, reality TV star and on-again, off-again ex-wife of Blink-182&amp;#39;s Travis Barker\nNo: &amp;quot;I had a lot of trouble getting over my last boyfriend, and the best advice I got was to stop sleeping with him. It&amp;#39;s kind of a duh&amp;#39; statement, but it&amp;#39;s so easy to think, What&amp;#39;s the harm? It&amp;#39;s not adding to my number.&amp;#39; But for women, sex is really bonding, so sleeping with a guy makes it impossible to get over him. Why torture yourself?&amp;quot; &amp;#8212;Kristin, 26, Park City, Utah\nNext: Pee with the door open? &amp;gt;&amp;gt;\nPinterestFacebookpee with door open\nShould you pee with the door open when he&amp;#39;s home?\n68% of glamour.com readers say NO.\n(We listen in on an actual debate between two guys, Amir Blumenfeld and Jake Hurwitz of college humor.com.)\nJake: Obviously not on the first date, but after a couple months, why not? It&amp;#39;s nothing we haven&amp;#39;t seen before. Amir: I do it all the time at Jake&amp;#39;s apartment. Jake: Right, I wish you wouldn&amp;#39;t. And they&amp;#39;re talking about significant others, not coworkers. Amir: Oh, in that case, I&amp;#39;m gonna say nay. It&amp;#39;s not like it&amp;#39;s hard to shut the door. There&amp;#39;s such a thing as being too comfortable. Keep some things private, or you&amp;#39;ll become like roommates, which is the relationship kiss of death. That&amp;#39;s why I don&amp;#39;t fart in front of my girl. Jake: You&amp;#39;ve never had a girlfriend. Amir: Not yet.\nNext: Settle? &amp;gt;&amp;gt;\nPinterestFacebookSounds nuts, but when you hit a certain age, should you\u2026settle?\n89% of glamour.com readers say NO.\nYes: &amp;quot;It&amp;#39;s not about settling as much as it is about not reaching for something unattainable. Women want to be dazzled with Prince Charming-romantic gestures, but think about what&amp;#39;s going to matter in 20 years. Compatibility. When you&amp;#39;re in your twenties, you&amp;#39;re meeting all these guys, and they&amp;#39;re 8&amp;#39;s. But you say, Oh, he could be taller,&amp;#39; or He plays video games too much,&amp;#39; so you break up with him because you want a 10. You become entitled and picky&amp;#8212; despite the fact that you&amp;#39;re not a 10, by the way. When I say you should settle, I mean go for those 8&amp;#39;s. Eights are a catch! Believe me, when you&amp;#39;re 40 and single, you will be dying to have those 8&amp;#39;s, but they&amp;#39;ll all be married. And then you will have to settle&amp;#8212;for a 5.&amp;quot; &amp;#8212;Lori Gottlieb, author of the upcoming book Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough\nNo: &amp;quot;Marrying someone you aren&amp;#39;t crazy about only to secure the financial and domestic conveniences of wedlock is as stale and trite as day-old Doritos. Settling represents a failure of both imagination and confidence. It marks an essential disregard for others and for ourselves: for the capacity to love, to give, to inspire. It&amp;#39;s difficult enough to make a marriage last. If we cannot so much as drum up enthusiasm in the beginning&amp;#8212;if we lack even the memory of a full-blooded passion to sustain us through times of trial&amp;#8212;then we are frail indeed. By settling, we exploit others, and we impoverish ourselves.&amp;quot; *&amp;#8212;Cristina Nehring, author of A Vindication of Love: Reclaiming Romance for the Twenty-First Century *\nNext: Schedule sex? &amp;gt;&amp;gt;\nPinterestFacebookschedule sex\nIn a busy relationship, should you schedule sex?\n60% of glamour.com readers say yes.\nYes: &amp;quot;It&amp;#39;s easy to let your physical relationship lag. So being aware of that is a good thing. But you don&amp;#39;t want sex to become something you put in your daily planner next to your dentist appointment. It&amp;#39;s more about scheduling intimacy, time for you two to be alone and do whatever it is you need to do. Write date night&amp;#39; in your calendar, and trust me, typically, the sex will follow.&amp;quot; &amp;#8212;Logan Levkoff, Ph.D., New York City-based sexuality educator and author of Third Base Ain&amp;#39;t What It Used to Be\nNo: &amp;quot;Scheduling a specific time for when you&amp;#39;re supposed to have sex is silly! I think it takes the spontaneity out of the relationship, and you&amp;#39;re going to get bored with each other. And what if you&amp;#39;re not both in the mood at the exact time you&amp;#39;ve put aside? If you&amp;#39;re with someone who is always so busy on his BlackBerry that he never makes time for you&amp;#8212;or sex&amp;#8212; I say, just throw the BlackBerry out the window!&amp;quot; &amp;#8212;Holly Madison, Hugh Hefner&amp;#39;s ex, and reality TV playmate (from E!&amp;#39;s The Girls Next Door)\nNext: Video cameras in the bedroom? &amp;gt;&amp;gt;\nPinterestFacebookparis hilton\nVideo cameras in the bedroom: yes or no?\n77% of glamour.com readers say NO. Sorry, Paris!\nNext: Blog about love? &amp;gt;&amp;gt;\nShould you blog about love?\n79% of glamour.com readers say NO.\nYes: &amp;quot;The Carly Simon rule applies: That post isn&amp;#39;t about&amp;#39; him, unless he&amp;#39;s vain enough to think it is.&amp;quot; &amp;#8212;blogger Emily Gould, author of And the Heart Says\u2026Whatever\nNo: &amp;quot;Blogging only hurt my love life. Try a diary. Some thoughts shouldn&amp;#39;t be expressed to anyone but a piece of paper.&amp;quot; &amp;#8212;Julia Allison, host of TMI Weekly on NBC&amp;#39;s New York Nonstop\nNext: Move in with your parents? &amp;gt;&amp;gt;\nPinterestFacebookShould you two move in with your parents to save money?\n83% of glamour.com readers say NO.\nYes: &amp;quot;My husband and I will save enough for a down payment in less than a year!&amp;quot; &amp;#8212;Stephanie, 27, Atlanta\nNo: &amp;quot;Surviving a tough spot without help serves you better. As newlyweds, my husband and I were both laid off, and I got pregnant, but we had a plan B, C and D. When you have to get creative about money, you get the best out of yourself.&amp;quot; &amp;#8212;Carmen Wong Ulrich, Glamour contributor and author of Generation Debt: Take Control of Your Money\nNext: Tell a friend you hate her boyfriend? &amp;gt;&amp;gt;\nPinterestFacebookhate her boyfriend\nIf you hate a friend&amp;#39;s boyfriend, should you tell her?\n57% of glamour.com readers say yes.\nYes: &amp;quot;After my friend went back to her loser boyfriend for the umpteenth time, I confronted her. I told her that he was emotionally abusive and that I didn&amp;#39;t want to hear another word about him&amp;#8212;that he&amp;#39;d asked her to lose weight, spent all her money, etc. I was so concerned I even talked to her mom about it. Well, my friend lost it. Our friendship was rocky for a whole year until she finally left the guy, but I have no regrets about speaking up. I couldn&amp;#39;t just stand by silently, even if it hurt both of us at the time. I wouldn&amp;#39;t want that to happen to me!&amp;quot; &amp;#8212;Christi, 31, Knoxville, Tenn.\nNo: &amp;quot;Keep your opinions to yourself! My friend is dating a guy I can&amp;#39;t stand. I&amp;#39;ll listen to all the crap he puts her through, but since my advice falls on deaf ears, I stopped offering it. I know from experience she has to see for herself that he&amp;#39;s a scumbag. I once dated a guy no one liked, but I didn&amp;#39;t listen&amp;#8212;until he cheated.&amp;quot; *&amp;#8212;Claire, 32, Minneapolis *\nNext: Date a vampire? &amp;gt;&amp;gt;\nPinterestFacebookEveryone seems to be doing it these days, so we gotta ask: Should you date a vampire?\n61% of glamour.com readers say NO.\nYes: &amp;quot;Vamps are best for an amazing fling. They&amp;#39;re attractive and yearning, and they have decades&amp;#8212;even centuries&amp;#8212;of practice in bed.&amp;quot; &amp;#8212;Charlaine Harris, author of the Sookie Stackhouse novels (the inspiration for HBO&amp;#39;s True Blood) and A Touch of Dead\nNo: &amp;quot;Being with one is no easy feat. Just try to focus on work during the day when you&amp;#39;re being transported to realms of ecstasy by his bite at night!&amp;quot; &amp;#8212;Diana Laurence, author of the tongue-in-cheek self-help book How to Catch and Keep a Vampire"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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