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"PinterestFacebookLet&amp;#39;s be honest. Every woman wonders if her orgasms are long enough, loud enough or just plain enough-enough. If she&amp;#39;s not having them easily, she wonders if she is secretly frigid. If she has them too easily, she wonders if she is secretly French. For some, orgasms are elusive, pixie dust-coated things, like unicorns or leprechauns. Other women (mostly on TV) burst into orgasm at the drop of a bra, leaving the rest of us feeling inadequate. Why is this topic so fraught? Maybe it&amp;#39;s because women don&amp;#39;t talk about it enough&amp;#8212;or rather, we talk around it but don&amp;#39;t usually get into the nitty-gritty how-to details\u2026until now. Glamour assembled a team of specialists, from gynecologists to sexologists, to answer all your secret O questions. Then enterprising readers bedroom-tested their advice and reported back. Here, the Q&amp;#39;s, the A&amp;#39;s and the toe-curling, sheet-grabbing, mind-blowing results.\nQ: I never have orgasms during intercourse&amp;#8212;it takes manual or oral stimulation. Can i change?\nA: As Dr. Hutcherson says, &amp;quot;Welcome to the club!&amp;quot; This is one of the top &amp;quot;problems&amp;quot; women report having. Intercourse is a great way to get pregnant, but it simply is not the most efficient way for a woman to have an orgasm. But there are a few small tricks that could get you what you want, say Em &amp;amp; Lo: &amp;quot;Make sure you get plenty of manual or oral attention before intercourse begins,&amp;quot; they advise. &amp;quot;Then instead of fast, deep thrusts, have him think slow and shallow to give you the time you need.&amp;quot; Since success depends on proper positioning, Dr. O&amp;#39;Connell recommends the &amp;quot;coital alignment technique,&amp;quot; wherein his face is higher than yours in the missionary position (called &amp;quot;riding high&amp;quot;). This way, the base of his penis makes more contact with your clitoris. Dr. Hutcherson also suggests woman-on-top for increased friction (lean forward).\nSo does it work? Three testers tried &amp;quot;riding high&amp;quot;&amp;#8212;and although no one reached the finish line that way, they did enjoy it. Meagan, 24, and her husband gave the new position a shot, and &amp;quot;although I didn&amp;#39;t climax, it was wonderful!&amp;quot; she reports. &amp;quot;I think with more foreplay it could work. We also tried woman-on-top with me lying down on him so there was more direct clitoral contact&amp;#8212;fantastic! My husband also said that it was a nice sensation for him to go slowly at first instead of getting carried away.&amp;quot;Q: My orgasms seem too short. is there a way to make them last longer?\nA: According to our experts, yes. Try doing some trusty Kegels, those pelvic-floor exercises that work the muscles that control your urine flow. &amp;quot;A few times a day, do both long holds for 10 to 20 seconds and short rhythmic squeezes&amp;#8212;as many as you can to give your orgasm more comic-book pow!&amp;quot; say Miller and Solot. A longer buildup to climax can help make yours last longer too. &amp;quot;Rather than rushing from zero to 60,&amp;quot; say Miller and Solot, &amp;quot;get yourself close, then back off a bit. You can repeat this 10 times if you have the patience! By building up the tension, you earn yourself a bigger release.&amp;quot;\nSo does it work? The Kegel-cizing wasn&amp;#39;t a huge hit with our guinea pigs: &amp;quot;I didn&amp;#39;t feel any change,&amp;quot; confesses Patty, 39. But they all had success with the get-close-then-back-off technique: &amp;quot;This almost felt like I was having multiple orgasms,&amp;quot; reports Stephanie, 25. &amp;quot;The feeling leading up to the actual climax was a bit stronger with each attempt!&amp;quot; Patty&amp;#39;s result was &amp;quot;massive, and almost made me collapse afterward.&amp;quot;\nQ: What&amp;#39;s the best way to have multiple orgasms?\nA: This is not simple, but it is possible. &amp;quot;Some women find that after an orgasm, they feel too sensitive to have any more stimulation,&amp;quot; say Miller and Solot. It&amp;#39;s like when your car engine floods&amp;#8212;you have to wait for a bit before you turn the key again. They say to try the following: &amp;quot;After one orgasm, stop the clitoral stimulation completely for a short time, like 15 seconds to a minute. Then start it up again sticking to what worked the first time&amp;#8212;many women find that period of sensitivity passes quickly.&amp;quot; Also, adds Waxman, &amp;quot;make sure to flex your [Kegel] muscles to increase the intensity of sensation.&amp;quot;\nSo does it work? Katie, 21, succeeded, but she&amp;#39;s not sure it was worth the extra effort: &amp;quot;After waiting several minutes to recover, I was able to have a second orgasm, but getting there was harder than a boot camp workout! I&amp;#39;d rather just have one and relax, though it&amp;#39;s good to know it&amp;#39;s possible.&amp;quot; Stephanie felt the cooling-off period helped her simmer down a bit&amp;#8212;maybe too much. &amp;quot;I waited a minute but I wasn&amp;#39;t able to climax again because I lost the mood. Next time I&amp;#39;ll try 30 seconds!&amp;quot;\nQ: Can i have an orgasm with just G-spot stimulation (and where is it)?\nA: Women fall into two camps on this front&amp;#8212;the ones whose G-spot makes them hot and bothered, and those who simply don&amp;#39;t want to bother. &amp;quot;For some, G-spot stimulation elicits orgasm, for others it can bring on female ejaculation, and for others still, it&amp;#39;s an annoying, even uncomfortable sensation,&amp;quot; say Em &amp;amp; Lo. There&amp;#39;s only one way to tell which party you belong to. First, you have to find your G-spot&amp;#8212;and, yes, we all have one. &amp;quot;This area lies at the front of the vagina, midway between the opening and the cervix,&amp;quot; says Dr. Hutcherson. &amp;quot;But you have to be aroused for it to be engorged and noticeable.&amp;quot; It should have a ridgy texture that Waxman describes as &amp;quot;like a walnut, but softer.&amp;quot; The experts recommended having your partner insert a finger or two into your vagina, palm up, and make a &amp;quot;come here&amp;quot; gesture. (As in, get over here, you shy thing, you!) Stroking, pushing, drawing little circles&amp;#8212;what you do then depends on what feels good to you. &amp;quot;Women who have G-spot orgasms say that it&amp;#39;s a deeper, warmer sensation than the more sharp, intense clitoral orgasm&amp;#8212;a more full-body experience,&amp;quot; says Dr. Hutcherson. Whatever happens, don&amp;#39;t be disappointed if you don&amp;#39;t win the G-spot lottery&amp;#8212;there are other paths to pleasure.\nSo does it work? Our testers were (unsurprisingly) divided on this one. &amp;quot;G-spot stimulation was almost scary-intense,&amp;quot; reports Meagan. &amp;quot;Maybe it&amp;#39;s that I&amp;#39;m afraid I might be one of the few women who ejaculate, but I always pulled back before I had the chance to see where the sensation would lead.&amp;quot; Twanna, 33, said, &amp;quot;When my guy first rubbed my G-spot, I felt totally aroused. After he continued for a few seconds longer, the sensation changed and I felt like I had to pee!&amp;quot; Stephanie found it fantastic. &amp;quot;The come hither&amp;#39; motion in conjunction with clitoral stimulation gave me a very surprising, powerful orgasm,&amp;quot; she said. &amp;quot;I highly recommend!&amp;quot;\nQ: I take forever to orgasm. How can I get there faster (and slow my partner down)?\nA: For most couples, it&amp;#39;s easiest to just prolong the male orgasm. Miller suggests having your partner try this Jedi mind-control trick of mastering the &amp;quot;Point of No Return.&amp;quot; Tell your guy to imagine himself floating down a river, at the end of which is a waterfall. At some point, it&amp;#39;s going to be too late&amp;#8212;the current is moving too quickly, and no matter what he does, he&amp;#39;s going over that waterfall. There&amp;#39;s an earlier point where he can still swim to shore. If he feels himself approaching the Point of No Return (PONR), tell him to slow down or stop moving inside of you. He should consciously slow his breathing and relax all the muscles in his body, particularly those in his legs and butt. He can watch that waterfall fade into the distance. Then start up again. Waxman also suggests trying a &amp;quot;love ring,&amp;quot; which fits at the base of the penis. Rings restrict blood flow from the penis back into the body, so his erection is a little larger and his orgasm is a little harder to come by (so to speak). But, says Waxman, you shouldn&amp;#39;t leave a love ring on more than 20 minutes, and if it hurts, by all means, take it off.\nSo does it work? Patty, who wishes she orgasmed faster, says her man was able to master the PONR, no problem&amp;#8212;&amp;quot;but it involved us stopping completely and waiting a minute or two and starting again.&amp;quot; That can be fatal to sexual momentum, so Patty thought the love ring suggestion worked better for him. &amp;quot;It made his penis less sensitive, so he was able to last longer.&amp;quot; Bonus points: She also tried a blindfold to help her focus. &amp;quot;My concentration was strictly on what I was feeling. It helped!&amp;quot;\nQ: No one has ever given me an orgasm&amp;#8212;Help!\nA: First of all, orgasms aren&amp;#39;t like a birthday gift card from Bloomingdale&amp;#39;s. &amp;quot;Nobody can give&amp;#39; you an orgasm,&amp;quot; says Dr. Hutcherson. &amp;quot;You&amp;#39;re the one who&amp;#39;s responsible for that.&amp;quot; So what&amp;#39;s the best way to get a spark going? Block off your calendar and pull down those bedroom shades&amp;#8212;you&amp;#39;re going to need some time and privacy. &amp;quot;Get to know what works for your body,&amp;quot; says Dr. O&amp;#39;Connell. &amp;quot;Practice stimulating yourself with your hands or a vibrator.&amp;quot; Then share your newfound self-knowledge with your partner. The most effective way to give any guy directions in bed: Use what Miller and Solot like to call &amp;quot;sandwich feedback,&amp;quot; i.e., putting compliments (the bread) around the instruction (the cold cuts). But before you blurt out, &amp;quot;Your breath smells like roses. Your penis is too small. I like your shoes!&amp;quot; check out their expert technique: &amp;quot;Start with a genuine compliment, like I love it when you do [blank] to me.&amp;#39; Fill in some aspect of his technique or enthusiasm that you truly enjoy. Then make your suggestion, framing it as something that would be a treat for you. Do you know what would feel really incredible? Maybe you could try [blank].&amp;#39; Then end with another positive comment. Most partners appreciate a helpful hint here and there, as long as they know your goal is to make good sex better, not just to suggest that he&amp;#39;s a lousy lover.&amp;quot; And please stop worrying so much about tallying the results. &amp;quot;I&amp;#39;m against the post-game analysis (Did you come? Did you?&amp;#39;),&amp;quot; says Dr. Hutcherson. &amp;quot;If you&amp;#39;re having those conversations after sex, just stop, relax and focus on your pleasure, not goals.&amp;quot;\nSo does it work? Susie had made it all the way to age 30 without ever having an orgasm. She wanted to experience one with her boyfriend&amp;#8212;but they were striking out. She decided to take matters into her own hands, as our experts suggested: &amp;quot;I went to my room, closed the door and took my time exploring. I focused on the clitoris, and it felt good, no doubt. I imagined sexy scenes with my boyfriend. What had started as a slight feeling of warmth escalated and I was feeling more sensitive. I felt like I was on this cliff and didn&amp;#39;t know how to jump over it&amp;#8212;it was like, Oh my, now what?&amp;#39; Even though I didn&amp;#39;t exactly go over the edge during this session, I feel like I have the tools to make it happen&amp;#8212;soon!&amp;quot;"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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