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"\n\tAdvertisement - Continue Reading Below\n\t\n\n1. The Demon: O-Face Anxiety Tragic but true: At the moment of utmost ecstasy, some women worry that they look like a gnarling hyena ... or a mouth-agape Taylor Swift at an awards show. Lauren, 22, a lip biter when she orgasms, says, \"One guy told me it looked like I was faking and being overly dramatic. Now I'm so in my head about it.\"\n\nThe Sexorcism There's an actual scientific term for freaking about your O-face, and it's not \"Girl, you cray.\" \"Spectatoring is when you're judging your own pleasure without fully experiencing it,\" says clinical sexologist Kat Van Kirk, PhD. Don't let your face block your vagina's happiness. Try looking into your partner's eyes (or kissing on his earlobe and neck) to focus more on connecting with him and less on what you look like. Side note to guys: Never throw shade at an O-face. Just be happy it's happening.2. The Demon: Frozen Vocal Cords He's grabbing your boobs like stress balls and grinding on your thigh like a Maltipoo in heat. At this point, you'd love to nudge him in the direction of your clitoris, but your vocal cords are paralyzed. \"I'm scared to ask him to do something because I'm afraid he'll think it's weird,\" says Audra, 22, of her sexual silence.The Sexorcism Talking about sex when you're about to do the dirty puts too much pressure on everybody. Next time you're having a convo in the car or on the couch, let him know a couple of things he does that you like before suggesting you'd love more . Most guys welcome a little sexy direction.3. The Demon: Vibrator Dependency You love your vibrator. His motor's so powerful, it could rev up a Tesla, and he always gets you off! But things take a turn if you're more into Buzz than sex with a real, live person. \"It takes three minutes with my vibe, but I've only achieved an O once from the guys I've slept with,\" says Kristen, 23.The Sexorcism Reminder: Your magic wand can't yank off your underwear and flip you into doggie like a human lovah can. So \"try making yourself come without the vibrator,\" suggests Helen Fisher, PhD, author of Why We Love. Kick it old-school with your hands and fingers to find out what motions turn you on, then show him how to do the same to you. Try a vibrating penis ring during sex with a human man, so you're both in on toy time. \"A man wants to see you come,\" says Fisher. \"Include him!\"4. The Demon: Vagina Shame Getting oral from a man who knows what he's doing is like eating salted-caramel gelato while watching a unicorn jump over a sparkling rainbow. But sadly some women are too ashamed of their lady parts to enjoy it. Kate, 24, won't allow guys to go down on her after an ex told her, midcunnilingus, that her right labia majora was longer than the left. Now, \"I think I look weird, so I won't let guys do it.\"The Sexorcism In porn, the bald clamshell is all the rage. But there are no perfect vulvas \u2014 labia come in a plethora of colors and sizes. Still, many vagina-shame sufferers \"are disconnected from their own vaginas,\" says Van Kirk. She suggests a \"sexam.\" Grab a mirror and bond with your lotus flower. Touch yourself using different sensations \u2014 fingers, vibes, feathers! \"You're built for pleasure. The more you experience it, the more you can share it with a partner.\"\n\tAdvertisement - Continue Reading Below\n\t\n\nThis article was originally published as \"Do You Need a Sexorcism?\" in the April 2014 issue of Cosmopolitan. Click here to get the issue in the iTunes store!RELATED: 19 Signs He Wants YouIs My Vibrator Ruining My Vagina?I Was Born Without A Vagina, But I'm Still A WomanPhoto credit: Getty Images"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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