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"This blog, dear readers, is truly an online community. You help me choose first date outfits. I (hopefully) help you put a smile on your man&amp;#39;s face. And sometimes, like today, we help each other. Commenter gc_gurl needs our advice: &amp;quot;my first love has recently decided the spark&amp;#39; or fire&amp;#39; from our love is gone and we should take a break! now i am left feeling empty cuz i made the mistake of making him my world! i&amp;#39;ve had bf&amp;#39;s before but this is my first time getting my heart smashed... oh and now he still wants me to be his &amp;quot;bestie&amp;quot;. i dont even know how to navigate it... advice anyone?&amp;quot; I&amp;#39;m no expert, but here are a few pearls of wisdom I&amp;#39;ve pilfered along the way:\nPinterestFacebookMy just-got-dumped face.\n1) Give yourself time. Life was pretty miserable after my first serious girlfriend dumped me. I didn&amp;#39;t eat. I couldn&amp;#39;t sleep. Studying was impossible. I was being smothered by my emotions, and more than anything I wanted someone to tell me the secret to getting better. It was up to my mother to deliver the hard truth: &amp;quot;Ryan, you&amp;#39;re going to feel like crap for awhile. You can&amp;#39;t think your way out of the pain, so just accept it and work on building a new life for yourself.&amp;quot; She was absolutely right, but I wasn&amp;#39;t yet ready to hear it, which brings us to my next point\u2026\n2) Don&amp;#39;t fool yourself. My parental units also told me that hard work will get me everywhere, so I decided to make winning back my ex a full-time job. I spent countless hours writing tortured emails, cultivating her friends for inside dirt and generally making an ass of myself. To a certain degree this was inevitable&amp;#8212;I needed to see for myself that it was really, truly over. But in retrospect I should have pulled the plug much sooner. Next time&amp;#8212;God forbid&amp;#8212;I will be more realistic.\n3) Cut em off. At least for awhile. It&amp;#39;s easy for him to say that he wants to be &amp;quot;besties&amp;quot;, but are you really capable of just being friends with him? Won&amp;#39;t it be incredibly painful? Then why do it? He may have been an important part of your life, but that&amp;#39;s why we have memories. You can&amp;#39;t heal if he keeps pulling off the scab, so do yourself a favor and erase his phone number, take his photo off the wall, delete him on Facebook&amp;#8212;you get the picture.\n4) Write a letter to him that you&amp;#39;ll never send. I&amp;#39;m a big believer in journaling, especially in times of stress. Most of us are pretty wise, but when things get crazy our voice of reason is often drowned out by the shouts and moans of fear and sadness. I&amp;#39;m sure there are a lot of things gc_gurl needs to tell her ex, so write him a letter that lays it all out&amp;#8212;the love, the anger, the heartbreak, the everything. And then tuck it in a drawer or flush it down the toilet.\nWhen was the last time you got dumped? How did you get over it? Did you make any mistakes gc_gurl should avoid? Do you have any tips for a speedy recovery?\nP.S. What was your rock-bottom relationship moment? Do you talk to your ex if he&amp;#39;s with someone else?"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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