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"Animalistic sack sessions belong waaay up on every Cosmo girl's gotta-have-it list. But slow, soulful encounters shouldn't get second billing just because they don't leave cracks in the bedroom walls. \"This kind of sex is deeper than connecting physically,\" says New York City sex therapist Joy Davidson, PhD, author of Fearless Sex. \"It's about losing yourself in the moment and bonding emotionally as well.\" So do yourselves a favor and, some nights, put the following soulful-sex advice into action.  \n\tAdvertisement - Continue Reading Below\n\t\n\nThis kind of carnal connection isn't about insta-orgasm. \"It's about savoring every touch and sensation, which magnifies the physical and emotional experience,\" says Calgary, Canada, sexologist Trina Read, DHS. It also results in a bigger payoff when you do hit the big O. \"The sexual tension of anticipation leads to a more intense climax,\" says Laura Berman, PhD, author of The Passion Prescription: 10 Weeks to Your Best Sex Ever.\n\nTo keep yourselves from sprinting to the finish line, lie in bed just kissing and caressing. \"This mutual stimulation puts you in a meditative state, allowing you to zero in on each sensation,\" says Davidson. Treat him to a tantalizing experience by touching him from head to toe. \"Becoming familiar with the details of his anatomy lets you mesh on a higher sensual level,\" says Berman.So let your hands glide down his spine. Run your fingers along the crease where his thigh meets his groin. Then let him navigate your randy regions too. \"Uncovering pleasure points specific to your bodies is like a secret the two of you share,\" says Davidson. \"It's another exclusive facet of your relationship.\"  It may sound like a lot of hot air, but breathing in unison can make you both feel totally connected. \"When you are so focused on getting into the same rhythm, you enter a near trancelike state,\" says Read. \"It takes you into the 'zone,' where you're highly aware of your guy, and your external environment seems to fade to black.\"To synchronize your breathing, get into a body-to-body position, such as spooning or coital alignment. Or sit nose-to-nose with your legs wrapped around each other and your hands on each other's chests so you can feel your heartbeats. Then inhale and exhale, slowly and deliberately, paying special attention to your man's pace as you caress and kiss. \"Breathing in tandem helps your excitement levels rise at the same rate too,\" says Read. \"It makes you feel physically melded.\"  One of the best ways to indulge in a supersensory erotic encounter \u2014 and savor every delicious second \u2014  is to prevent yourself from seeing and hearing distracting sensations. \"Cutting off sight and sound intensifies sex in two ways,\" says Berman. \"Eliminating all potential disturbances keeps you centered on the moment and each other. Also, deleting one sense allows the others to become more acute, so you can really tune in to the pleasure you're giving each other. You create an all-encompassing sensual exchange.\"To get into carnal concentration mode, ditch the mood music and romantic lighting. You need total silence and darkness. (This would be a perfect time to bring out those blindfolds.) As you caress your man, really home in on how he feels and tastes and smells. Try not to make a peep...except for the moans and sighs that mindlessly escape your lips. Get a feel for the texture of his skin, listen to his pounding heart as his arousal escalates and nuzzle him all over so you can inhale his essence. At the same time, allow yourself to become lost in everything he's doing to you. \"Don't feel like you need to perform for him or be as noisy as a porn star,\" says Berman. \"Just relax and revel in the exquisite pleasure he's giving you.\"  While blocking out distractions lets you focus inward and zoom in on your sensations, gazing at your partner forces you to concentrate on each other. \"Many women feel isolated during sex because you both tend to become so caught up in your own physical pleasure, you lose sight of the other person,\" explains Berman. \"But making eye contact is a way to communicate. It bridges that gap and lets you really be aware of your man's presence.\" This doesn't mean that you should get into a staring contest with your guy. It's more like you're looking inside of him rather than just at him. Study his facial expression and try to imagine what he's thinking and feeling, especially when he nears orgasm. \"There's something so soul-baring about seeing your partner at that instant, when he's open and vulnerable,\" says Read. \"Locking each other's gaze at this most personal moment is kind of like saying to each other 'I trust you.' You need to feel truly bonded with someone to share that kind of acceptance.\""^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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