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"I once overheard a heated phone conversation between a coworker and her long-distance boyfriend that had too many expletives to recount here. The nexus of the issue was something I&amp;#39;ve heard repeatedly from other women, and the censored version goes a little something like this:\nWhy did you Like that random girl&amp;#39;s selfie? Who is the girl wearing a bikini in her profile picture that keeps Liking your photos? And so on.\nYou guys, we are too old for this. It&amp;#39;s one thing to deal with this kind of nonsense in high school, but no one over 25 needs to be saddled with this type of tomfoolery. Can&amp;#39;t a relationship just be about the two people in it, without all the riffraff of the past? And ever notice how it&amp;#39;s always the guys who are like &amp;quot;Facebook = Drama&amp;quot; who are the biggest transgressors? If you Like the Oops-How-Did-My-Cleavage-Get-There? selfie of some girl you used to hook up with and your girlfriend sees it and gets upset, whose fault is that? Mark Zuckerberg&amp;#39;s? No, yours.\nPinterestFacebookI asked a (straight) male coworker if he could explain this phenomenon of the Random Girls With Sexy Photos Who Interact With Your Boyfriend on Social Media. He said &amp;quot;I honestly have no experience with this. I&amp;#39;d probably be pissed if I was the girlfriend too, so I don&amp;#39;t know if I could explain it well.&amp;quot; A gem, he is.\nAs for the rest of us, we need to work on our social media manners. The good staffers of Glamour are here to sort it all out. No more gray areas, fine lines, or confusion about what constitutes appropriate behavior on social media. Whether you&amp;#39;re the boyfriend, the girlfriend, or the Girl With Sexy Photos Who Interacts With Other People&amp;#39;s Boyfriends on Social Media, here&amp;#39;s how to behave...\n\nWhen You&amp;#39;re In a Relationship:\n&amp;#8212;Delete the photos of your last relationship before you add a new love interest. It&amp;#39;s just common courtesy. You wouldn&amp;#39;t leave a photo of you and your ex on your bedside table the first time you bring your new girl home, would you? We hope not. Start with a clean slate.\n&amp;#8212;Do not ever Facebook friend your guy&amp;#39;s ex. If he&amp;#39;s still hanging out with his ex on a regular basis, that&amp;#39;s a whole other post.\n&amp;#8212;Don&amp;#39;t Like a selfie posted by someone you&amp;#39;ve dated in the past, unless it&amp;#39;s a funny one. Note: If there is cleavage, suggestive language, or a provocative pose involved, it&amp;#39;s not a funny one.\n&amp;#8212;At the very beginning, &amp;quot;It&amp;#39;s never a bad idea to wait a few dates before following or friending a guy you&amp;#39;re seeing, unless he requests you first,&amp;quot; says one staffer.\n&amp;#8212;Not everyone is into displaying their relationship status. If you are, &amp;quot;Don&amp;#39;t get upset if he doesn&amp;#39;t change his relationship status to &amp;#39;In a Relationship&amp;#39; immediately,&amp;quot; says one staffer. He&amp;#39;ll get around to it eventually, or he&amp;#39;ll naturally show you off in another way, such as by posting photos of you two. One exception: If he does display his relationship status and it says Single, you can kindly remind him he no longer is.\n&amp;#8212;If any of your old hookups or would-be hookups that you kept around on your friends list are repeatedly crossing boundaries on social media, de-friend them. If the ego fluff they provide is more important than your current relationship, don&amp;#39;t be in a relationship.\n\nWhen You&amp;#39;re Single:\n&amp;#8212;Even if you&amp;#39;re out there having the time of your life, that doesn&amp;#39;t mean your family/boss/ex/the world needs to see you riding a mechanical bull in a bikini while holding a margarita. &amp;quot;I have a rule in social media,&amp;quot; says one staffer, &amp;quot;If you don&amp;#39;t want your boss to see it, don&amp;#39;t post it. It&amp;#39;s generally a good barometer of what to post or not, and it makes you less creepy/slutty/weird-seeming to potential new guys.&amp;quot;\n&amp;#8212;Being active on social media is great, but not if you&amp;#39;re ignoring actual people and conversations. &amp;quot;Don&amp;#39;t Like someone&amp;#39;s photo on Instagram if you haven&amp;#39;t returned their text message,&amp;quot; one staffer laments.\nEx Etiquette\n&amp;#8212;It&amp;#39;s OK (even standard) to break social ties with an ex after a breakup. This lets you both move on in peace. De-friend away!\n&amp;#8212;If you&amp;#39;re still friends with exes/people you&amp;#39;ve dated, cease or at least scale back on Liking/commenting on their photos once either of you are dating someone new. When you do comment or Like, make sure you have an appropriate reason. &amp;quot;It&amp;#39;s one thing to Like a status update that your ex-boyfriend ran a marathon and raised $10,000 for charity,&amp;quot; says one staffer. &amp;quot;It&amp;#39;s another thing to write &amp;#39;Looking good! xoxo&amp;#39; on his new profile picture.&amp;quot; Consider why you need to make this interaction public (maybe a quick text to congratulate him on his huge promotion would be better?).\n&amp;#8212;For the love of God, do not comment on photos of your ex and his new girlfriend.\n\nInteracting With Men Who Are Not Your Boyfriend/Husband:\n&amp;#8212;Facebook messenger is a great way to flirt with someone you want to date. Facebook messenger is a terrible way to flirt with someone who is dating someone else.\n&amp;#8212;Respect boundaries when it comes to someone&amp;#39;s friends or family. &amp;quot;If you&amp;#39;re just a girl he hooked up with a few times, why would you Facebook his mom?&amp;quot; one staffer wonders.\n&amp;#8212;Do not write sexual or inappropriate comments on someone&amp;#39;s wall or photos EVER, but especially if they are dating someone else.\n&amp;#8212;If you comment on and/or Like almost every photo a guy posts, and you are not related to him, dating him, or one of his best friends, you should maybe start thinking about who should play you in the Lifetime movie about your crazy-ass life.\nAgree? Disagree? What else do you think should be a hard-and-fast rule of social media?"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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