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"Dean dishes all the dirt! Dean Sheremet gave a recent tell-all interview about his ex-wife LeAnn Rimes&amp;apos; infamous 2009 cheating scandal with Eddie Cibrian, describing the entire ordeal as a &amp;quot;f---ing disaster&amp;quot; to former Us Weekly staffer Natalie Thomas on her lifestyle blog, Nat&amp;apos;s Next Adventure.\r\nThe dancer turned chef, 34, opened up about Rimes&amp;apos; betrayal and the demise of their seven-year marriage in 2009;  Us Weekly was first to reveal that Rimes was having an affair with her married Northern Lights costar.\r\n&amp;quot;You know, it&amp;#x2019;s easy when you&amp;#x2019;re head over heels, especially so young, to fall completely in love and give yourself so freely,&amp;quot; he reflected of his marriage. &amp;quot;She was 18. I was 20 [when we got married]. I was a professional dancer. She was a superstar. I knew that one of us had to sacrifice something to have a healthy marriage. And that was my goal. As much as I wanted to be successful, I wanted a family more. I&amp;#x2019;ve always wanted to be married and have kids. Family is everything to me.&amp;quot;\r\n\r\nAt the time, the country singer&amp;apos;s career &amp;#x2014; she skyrocketed to fame at age 13 with her smash &amp;quot;Blue&amp;quot;&amp;#xA0;&amp;#x2014;&amp;#xA0;took precedent. &amp;quot;It would have been unfair for where she was in her career for me to ask her to pump the breaks. I thought it would be better for me to take all of my creative energy and ideas and put it into her,&amp;quot; Sheremet told the lifestyle blog. &amp;quot;This is childish and I recognize that now but I never thought I got the credit I deserved for the work I did. So that resentment slowly built over time. I have my own dreams and goals and I felt like there wasn&amp;#x2019;t room for me.&amp;quot;\r\nSheremet said that these &amp;quot;animosities&amp;quot; built up as he felt like his needs weren&amp;apos;t being met. &amp;quot;There was fighting,&amp;quot; he recalled. &amp;quot;And I was so intertwined in managing her career that I didn&amp;#x2019;t know how to make the distinction between husband and boss, husband and partner, husband and manager&amp;#x2026; I was husband, father, friend, lover, manager.&amp;quot;\r\n\r\n\r\nHe owned up to his personal failures , especially as a husband. &amp;quot;We&amp;#x2019;d be sitting at dinner and I&amp;#x2019;d be like, &amp;apos;For your next video we should do this, this and this. For the tour, the production should be like this,&amp;apos;&amp;quot; Sheremet continued. &amp;quot;And this [part] is my fault. I&amp;#x2019;m sure for her, all she wanted to do was have dinner. I was probably getting on her nerves all the time... There wasn&amp;#x2019;t a decision that got made that didn&amp;#x2019;t have my thumbprint or stamp of approval.&amp;quot;\r\nWhile both parties were at fault, Sheremet said it was &amp;quot;the business&amp;quot; that destroyed their marriage. &amp;quot;I wasn&amp;#x2019;t the person she came home to and unloaded on,&amp;quot; he explained. &amp;quot;And, then, of course, I was thinking, I haven&amp;#x2019;t done what I&amp;#x2019;ve wanted to do in over eight years. I came to the realization that my name was never going to be on the marquee. No matter how much I put into this show or that tour, it was never going to be about me. And that was a really big moment.&amp;quot;\r\nAt the time Sheremet was also not a fan of L.A. &amp;quot;We were living in Bel Air at 20 years old with a giant mansion, Porsche, Range Rover, and Ferrari. I never felt comfortable with it,&amp;quot; he shared. &amp;quot;I&amp;apos;m not the type to throw money around. I was always waiting for the other shoe to drop.&amp;quot; While Rimes was the breadwinner, Sheremet said: &amp;quot;There was never talk of money or me not pulling my weight.&amp;quot;\r\n\r\nDespite the shortcomings in their marriage, Sheremet said he and Rimes, 32, made a good team -- at first. &amp;quot;As it went on, the team became toxic. But when we were working together, we were brilliant,&amp;quot; he explained. &amp;quot;The dumbest thing she ever did for her career was divorce me... Because we were such a good team. The last hit song she had was when she was with me. It was &amp;apos;Nothing Better to Do.&amp;apos;&amp;quot;\r\nWith this rocky foundation of their marriage, Rimes received an offer to act in Lifetime&amp;apos;s made-for-TV movie Northern Lights. On the set, she met, and subsequently had an affair with her costar Eddie Cibrian -- who was married at the time to future Real Housewives of Beverly Hills firebrand Brandi Glanville, with whom he shares two sons, Mason, 11, and Jake, 7.\r\n\r\n&amp;quot;Never in a million years did I think something like that would have happened,&amp;quot; Sheremet confessed. &amp;quot;The need for me in her life was so strong. There were things she couldn&amp;#x2019;t do without me. She had her own phone but never used it. People would call me to get to her. Everything went through me.&amp;quot;\r\n\r\nSheremet said he suspected nothing was going on between his then-wife and Cibrian when he first visited the set. &amp;quot;He was a good looking guy. I just remember being like, &amp;apos;Oh, God, just another one of those Hollywood pretty boys,&amp;apos;&amp;quot; he recalled. &amp;quot;If you&amp;#x2019;re in a room with him, he&amp;#x2019;s probably one of the most charming people you&amp;#x2019;ll ever meet. But I wouldn&amp;#x2019;t trust him as far as I could throw this f---ing table... He just felt like one of those guys from the beginning. A total schmoozer. Very Hollywood. I never bought his schtick. But I wasn&amp;#x2019;t worried.&amp;quot;\r\nHe recalled to Nat&amp;apos;s Next Adventure when he felt like things seemed off after he got really sick and was gone for a week. &amp;quot;I&amp;#x2019;ll never forget this, there was this bar that everyone hung out at after set and I remember coming down the stairs and seeing the two of them shooting pool together,&amp;quot; he recalled. &amp;quot;I could just tell by the body language that everything had changed... She&amp;#x2019;s shooting pool, shooting tequila, in a tight tank, tight jeans, over the knee boots and she&amp;#x2019;s standing across from him, playing with the pool cue. All of a sudden, there was a huge shift.&amp;quot;\r\n&amp;quot;I totally felt foolish. I felt like this pathetic husband hanging around. I was very aware of how others were looking at me,&amp;quot; he shared, adding that the eventual confrontation was &amp;quot;really emotional.&amp;quot;\r\n&amp;quot;I was talking to LeAnn on the phone and said, &amp;apos;I think you need to take off your wedding ring. If you&amp;#x2019;re not going to respect what it stands for, you have no right to wear it,&amp;apos;&amp;quot; he recalled. &amp;quot;She freaked out but I think, in my mind, I was done. I tried to put that part of my life behind me and went to Michigan to reconnect with family- and myself.&amp;quot;\r\n\r\nIt took several months for their divorce to really settle in. &amp;quot;If you had asked me years ago, &amp;apos;If someone cheated on you, would you stay?&amp;apos; I&amp;#x2019;d say, &amp;apos;F--- her. On to the next!&amp;apos;&amp;quot; he said. &amp;quot;But I developed a whole new capacity for what I thought love was. I learned so much more acceptance. So I went with the back and forth cause I loved her and I was confused too... Like I was this puppy on a leash that would always stay.&amp;quot;\r\nIn retrospect, Sheremet said he and Rimes not only wanted to live in different cities, but entirely wanted two very distinct lifestyles. &amp;quot;She really lives on the adoration of others. I could be speaking out of turn but this is my perspective,&amp;quot; he shared. &amp;quot;She lives and dies on the perception of herself. I sympathize with that cause she&amp;#x2019;s been famous since she was 12 years old so she doesn&amp;#x2019;t know anything else. In L.A., there&amp;#x2019;s the paparazzi and that false sense of success, false security that you&amp;#x2019;re still relevant. If you&amp;#x2019;re in the magazines, then you matter. And that carried over to the divorce. She became even more &amp;apos;famous.&amp;apos;&amp;quot;\r\nHe said Rimes&amp;apos; pursuit of fame over talent would be her undoing. &amp;quot;She&amp;#x2019;s one of the most talented people I&amp;#x2019;ve ever met, has the most incredible voice, she&amp;#x2019;s flawless,&amp;quot; he gushed. &amp;quot;But she got away from doing that and it breaks my heart. She&amp;#x2019;s gone away from what she was put on this earth to do. It&amp;#x2019;s all been at the expense of that. I think she learned a really hard lesson because it didn&amp;#x2019;t pan out the way she wanted it to.&amp;quot;\r\n\r\nUltimately, Sheremet said the cheating wasn&amp;apos;t what hurt him most in their split. &amp;quot;The hardest part was someone standing in the back of the bus in the middle of nowhere and saying, &amp;apos;I don&amp;#x2019;t love you anymore.&amp;apos; I would&amp;#x2019;ve rather she said, &amp;apos;I slept with 20 guys.&amp;apos;&amp;quot;\r\nBoth Sheremet and Rimes have moved on since the explosive scandal. In 2011, he married photographer Sarah Silver, and Rimes married Cibrian. (Rimes and her husband have starred together in a VH1 reality show, which was canceled this past January after one season.) And despite Sheremet&amp;apos;s harrowing past with his ex, the current chef told the blog it&amp;apos;s all now a lesson learned.\r\n&amp;quot;If you aren&amp;#x2019;t happy, you can&amp;#x2019;t make anyone else happy,&amp;quot; he advised his fans. &amp;quot;It&amp;#x2019;s never gonna work. It&amp;#x2019;s a faulty system. I check in with myself now all the time, &amp;apos;Am I happy?&amp;apos; And if the answer is no, I know I need to change something.&amp;quot; He added in the context of relationships: &amp;quot;Communication is paramount for any relationship. Business, personal or otherwise. You have to check in. &amp;apos;Are we still good?&amp;apos; You can&amp;#x2019;t assume.&amp;quot;"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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