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"Shy readers, look away. Actually, go to the next room.\nDear Single John,\n*I promised my boyfriend that I would try anal. And now I&amp;#39;m terrified. Every time he eyes up my butt I want to grab the nearest chastity belt.\n-- julesie413*\nPinterestFacebookThe secret is tequila. And lots of it.\nI kid, I kid. But seriously, one of the keys to anal is to be relaxed and totally game for it, which it doesn&amp;#39;t sound like you are.\nYou need to take the pressure off. Doesn&amp;#39;t matter if you&amp;#39;ve been dating for a week or married for ten years, you should never feel like you have to do something in bed that you&amp;#39;re not comfortable with. Pure and simple. So maybe tell the bf he needs to think of your butt as a beautiful sculpture at a museum; he can look all he wants, but he can&amp;#39;t touch. Anal sex, like sushi and socialism, is not for everyone.\nThen again, I know lots of women who really enjoy anal and have it play a minor and major roll in their sex lives. I know women who refuse to even think about trying it, and women who cannot get off without it. And then there are the people in between, like the commenter above, and my friend Leanne, who refuses to do it except with the guy she&amp;#39;s going to marry. &amp;quot;Gotta save something for the wedding night,&amp;quot; she says.\nAs they explain to me, and as Rosemary explained with our beginner&amp;#39;s guide to anal, the key is to start small. Like with a finger. A little finger. And to use lots of lube. Like, lots. My friend Tianna told me she started out &amp;quot;organically,&amp;quot; using her own finger while close to climax while masturbating. Then she asked her bf to give it a go while he was going down on her. And so on and so on.\nMy advice is to test yourself out. Does it turn you on to have something near, or touching that area during sex, with yourself or someone else? If so, maybe take yourself, step by step (or inch by inch) on little anal adventures. You don&amp;#39;t need to jump straight into Mordor. That&amp;#39;s a recipe for disaster.\nFinally, there&amp;#39;s always the approach of my friend Juliann. Her attitude is this: &amp;quot;I&amp;#39;m willing to compromise; anything he wants to do down there I get to do to him first.&amp;quot;\nAre you open minded about anal sex? Do you like it? Hate it? Ever tried it? Would you try it again?\nHave a question about Dating, Relationships, or Sex for Single John? Submit it here. Can be totally anonymous!\n__\nMore sex tips at Glamour.com____\nHooking Up: 5 Guys Confess Their Most Surprising Sex Secrets\nHooking Up: Guys Confess Their Oral Sex Style\nSex Tips: A Sweet (and Sneaky!) Way Get in the Mood\nMore Ways to Get Glamour\nVisit ShopGlamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10!\nDownload Glamour Magazine for your iPad!\nEnter the latest *Glamour sweepstakes! *\nFollow us on Twitter!\nAdd us to your iGoogle homepage.\n__Take Our Survey and You Could Win an iTunes Gift Card!\nHey Glamour fans, we need your advice. We want to know what&amp;#39;s important to you when it comes to Glamour and all things digital&amp;#8212;what do you like most? What do you want to see more of? How and where do you want to read all that fun stuff? Please TAKE OUR SURVEY. As a special thank-you for sharing, you will be entered to win one of 45 iTunes gift cards for taking the survey! See RULES for details.\nPhoto: Thinkstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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