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"PinterestFacebookYoung woman with mussed hair at home\nPHOTO: www.jupiterimages.comWrites Save the Date reader Amy:\nMy boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year and recently started talking about getting married. But it went from a few mentions of &amp;quot;our future&amp;quot; here and there to us looking at engagement rings a lot to him telling me today about all the venues he&amp;#39;s been researching. We are NOT engaged! I love his enthusiasm, but I&amp;#39;m a little freaked out.\nHe&amp;#39;s the type of person to pick up a hobby every now and then and then get totally into figuring out every little detail of it, so I feel like maybe that&amp;#39;s what he&amp;#39;s doing with...wedding planning. Is that TOTALLY weird? Because it feels weird! Help!\nHere are my thoughts:\nEeps! I&amp;#39;d be weirded out by that too! I mean, a wedding is something the bride and groom usually plan together&amp;#8212;and they usually wait till they&amp;#39;re engaged to do it! But I&amp;#39;m guessing your hunch is totally right: He was probably looking online at engagement rings, then clicked on an ad for a wedding venue and things sort of spiraled out of control from there. It&amp;#39;s easy to get sucked into the wedding-industry machine (I&amp;#39;ve made a career of it! ), but if your guy&amp;#39;s new &amp;quot;hobby&amp;quot; makes you uncomfortable, speak up!\nI&amp;#39;m not sure if you&amp;#39;re freaked out because you&amp;#39;re not quite ready to start wedding planning after a little over a year, or because, um, you&amp;#39;d like some say in planning your own wedding, but both concerns are totally legit. Depending on your feelings, I&amp;#39;d go with one of these the next time he brings out a centerpiece inspiration board:\n&amp;quot;I&amp;#39;m excited to spend our future together, and I love talking about it, but I&amp;#39;d like to take things one step at a time. It&amp;#39;s SO sweet that you&amp;#39;ve already picked out bridesmaid dress options, but I&amp;#39;d like to hold off on planning a wedding until we&amp;#39;re actually engaged. And I don&amp;#39;t want to rush that either. I&amp;#39;d love to focus on enjoying our present together and cross the &amp;#39;wedding planning&amp;#39; bridge together when we get to it.&amp;quot;\nOR\n&amp;quot;It&amp;#39;s SO sweet that you&amp;#39;re so excited for our wedding. I am too. I can&amp;#39;t wait to plan our wedding together, but I&amp;#39;d be more comfortable waiting until we&amp;#39;re engaged and we&amp;#39;ve agreed upon the boring details, like our budget and the size of our guest list and stuff. There&amp;#39;s going to be SO much to do when we&amp;#39;re engaged, so I don&amp;#39;t want you to get burned out on the details of a theoretical wedding now!&amp;quot;\nEither way, just let him know that while you appreciate where his heart is, you&amp;#39;d like to hit the brakes on the wedding-planning train for now. And if you buy him a model airplane to distract him from ring shopping for a while, well, there&amp;#39;s no harm there!\nLadies, what do you think? Should Amy ask her guy to cool it with the wedding planning? Or will that be too cruel? Would you be weirded out if your guy started wedding planning before you had a ring?\nI would be! I mean, he&amp;#39;s not just talking theoreticals (&amp;quot;I don&amp;#39;t really like wedding cake&amp;quot;); he&amp;#39;s fully researching venues!\nHave a wedding-y dilemma of your own? E-mail me!\nPhoto: Thinkstock."^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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