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"Is this reader in a dead-end relationship?\nPinterestFacebookWrites Save the Date reader Sasha:\nI&amp;#39;ve been dating a guy who I adore for almost four years. I&amp;#39;ve been ready to get engaged for about three years, but every time I bring up marriage, he rolls his eyes. I&amp;#39;m incredibly frustrated. I love him, but I don&amp;#39;t want to stick around for another year or two of he doesn&amp;#39;t see himself proposing soon. (I&amp;#39;m 25, he&amp;#39;s 28.) Part of me feels like my only option is to leave him and find someone who&amp;#39;s more marriage-minded. Is there anything else I can do?\nHere are my thoughts:\nFirst of all, regardless of what the topic is, you should be able to have a mature, all-cards- on-the-table discussion with a guy you&amp;#39;ve been dating for four years. One that doesn&amp;#39;t involve eye-rolling. The fact that he can&amp;#39;t even give you a verbal response is worrisome, in my opinion.\nThat said, I&amp;#39;m wondering how you&amp;#39;ve broached the topic. If you&amp;#39;re watching TV together and he flips past a wedding and you squeal, &amp;quot;I wanna get married!!&amp;quot; an eye roll would be kind of the standard response.\nIf you haven&amp;#39;t tried to have a serious discussion yet, I think the first thing you need to do is figure out exactly what you want. Do you want to be engaged in a year? Married in two years? Do you want babies before you&amp;#39;re 30? Why is marriage important to you to begin with?\nOnce you have some sense of a timeline, you need to have a straightforward discussion with him when neither of you is distracted. I&amp;#39;d say, maybe over dinner, &amp;quot;I adore you, and I&amp;#39;d like to spend the rest of our lives together, so I need to make sure we&amp;#39;re on the same page. I think marriage is the next natural step for us, and I&amp;#39;d like to be engaged within a year. I don&amp;#39;t want to pressure you, but I also don&amp;#39;t want to put time and energy into a relationship that&amp;#39;s not progressing toward marriage. Where do you see our relationship in the next two years?&amp;quot;\nIf he brushes you off with a vague answer (&amp;quot;Of COURSE we&amp;#39;ll always be together! Did you water the plants today?&amp;quot;) you need to keep pressing him. Yes, it&amp;#39;s great to have a guy who loves you, but loving you and making a lifelong commitment to you are two different things. (Yes, not everyone needs the piece of paper to feel committed, but if it&amp;#39;s important to you, then you deserve to have it.)\nAnd of course if he rolls his eyes, I think it&amp;#39;s time to start planning your exit strategy.\nOf course there are no guarantees, and you could leave this guy and NOT find a guy who&amp;#39;s looking for marriage. But you&amp;#39;re definitely not going to find a guy who&amp;#39;s ready to put a ring on it if you stay with someone who isn&amp;#39;t.\nLadies, what do you think? Should Sasha press her guy to propose? Or should she wait for him to come around on his own?\nHave a wedding dilemma of your own? Click here to e-mail me!\nMore reader&amp;#39;s dilemmas, solved!\n\n&amp;quot;Help! I&amp;#39;m in a Serious Funk!&amp;quot;\n\n\nHave You Ever Had a Pregnancy Scare?\n\n\n&amp;quot;Um, My Boyfriend&amp;#39;s Parents Walk Around Half-Naked. Weird?&amp;quot;\n\nPhoto: Thinkstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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