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"   Question I am getting completely conflicting messages from my boyfriend of two years.  We were best friends for eight years prior to taking the &amp;#039;plunge&amp;#039; and moved in together almost immediately when we started dating.  I assumed along with all our friends and family that this was it, all he talked about was growing old together, being soul mates and even thinking up names for our future children.  Now he has moved away due to work and I was expected to follow him as soon as I finished a college course which I now have.  But he says he is now happier living alone and has been unhappy these last two years.  But all he told me was how much he loved me, I never had any idea he might be unhappy with me.  I believe he is having a commitment crisis and is depressed, but it is destroying me.  I cannot eat, sleep or work and am finding it hard to keep alive; I feel like my world has ended, this is not the man I have known and loved for 10 years.  I know I must be decisive and let him find out if he will eventually miss me, but is there anywhere I can get help?   Answer David writes: You must be realistic. Sorry to be so blunt, but if a man says he is &amp;#039;happier living alone&amp;#039;, do you really think that the long-term prospects are good?  If all this were happening to a girl friend of yours, would you advise her that her man was likely to stay with her?  I do wish you well, but you badly need advice about this.  Over to Christine.  Christine adds: I think it is entirely possible that, for whatever reason, your boyfriend is indeed having a &amp;#039;commitment crisis&amp;#039;.  Possibly he simply thinks he is too young for the plans you had together.  Maybe having some time alone has made him think that he would like more time as a single guy before becoming a long-term partner and father.  Perhaps he has realised that he actually really does like being alone and that he was kind of forcing himself into a role that he was not comfortable with.  I don&amp;#039;t know which of these scenarios is the truth, but there are plenty of men who talk about love and children but who cannot overcome their anxieties about commitment \u2013 and your bloke may be one of them.  But I don&amp;#039;t think he sounds depressed. He is saying that he feels happier now \u2013 not sadder Now, I am not saying that there is no possibility that this relationship will ever come right \u2013 because it may.  Now, I am not saying that there is no possibility that this relationship will ever come right \u2013 because it may.  But I would strongly urge you not to allow yourself to believe that it will.  You are terribly saddened and upset and bewildered by what is happening and I think you must put yourself first now.  You ask if there is anywhere you can get help. Unfortunately, at 28 you are just too old for all the free help available to the under-25s.  But there is Relate \u2013 they offer low-cost counselling to people with relationship problems. And they offer this to individuals as well as to couples. I also think it would be a good idea for you to pick one person \u2013 maybe someone in your family or perhaps a friend \u2013 to whom you can tell anything and everything.  Someone who will be there for you night and day and just let you talk.  I wish I could wave a magic wand for you and make all this right, but alas I can&amp;#039;t.  All I can say is that if you treat yourself with great care and kindness and get plenty of help, both professionally and personally, you will emerge from this and you will find happiness again.  You might like to read an article I wrote for this site called: &amp;#039;How to get over being dumped&amp;#039;.  Good luck! Yours sincerely Dr David Delvin, GP, and Christine Webber, sex and relationships expert  Other Qs &amp;amp;amp; As Am I better off without my partner and her stepchildren? Am I crazy to still be with my partner? Don&amp;#039;t know whether I should end my marriage I am stuck in a loveless marriage and don&amp;#039;t know what to do I don\u2019t want to be with her anymore I don\u2019t want to have a life full of regret  I don&amp;#039;t love my husband I don&amp;#039;t love my partner anymore I know the answer is to end it but what do you think? I\u2019ve gone off my partner I&amp;#039;m no longer attracted to my partner My marriage is on the rocks Should I leave her? Should I leave my partner and be a single parent? Should I move on? Should I sit tight or make a break for it? Should I stand by my man? Should I stay in this relationship? Should I stay with him for the sake of the children? Should I tell him I don&amp;#039;t fancy him anymore, or should I fake enjoying sex? Should we split? The spark has gone out of our marriage  Last updated 04.01.2008 "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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