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"PinterestFacebookThis reader has a situation that really demonstrates how Girls seriously hits the relationship nail on the head sometimes. See: Marnie and Charlie above; dilemma below.\n\n&amp;quot;Last year I initiated a civil breakup of a long and wonderful relationship that had simply run its course. There was never a let&amp;#39;s-stay-friends agreement&amp;#8212;our bond was that strong! After a few weeks it was clear that my ex was not as ready for the breakup as he initially thought, and we decided to give each other some space to breathe and recover. Fast-forward to recent months: He&amp;#39;s becoming more successful by the minute and has made tons of new friends...and I&amp;#39;m a broke college student who can&amp;#39;t afford to do anything due to lack of money AND free time. Meeting new and interesting people hasn&amp;#39;t quite worked out like I thought it would, and I miss him like crazy. He works so hard, and I couldn&amp;#39;t be happier for him, but I&amp;#39;m definitely more than a little jealous (because, well, who wouldn&amp;#39;t be?!). How do I keep his post-breakup success from making me feel like a pathetic, miserable idiot?&amp;quot;\n\n\nAw, reader. You are NOT a pathetic, miserable idiot. What you are is a human falling prey to silly jealousy&amp;#8212;which happens to the best of us, so don&amp;#39;t feel bad&amp;#8212;and all you need is a little perspective.\nFirst, let&amp;#39;s talk about dealing with him. We&amp;#39;ve all admitted that it would be kind of hard to feel 100 percent happy for an ex, so it&amp;#39;s normal that there&amp;#39;s a little jealous sting even though you&amp;#39;re mainly glad for him. But try to remember that your breakup was friendly and you still care about him, so you really do want the best for him. Now, that said, you don&amp;#39;t need to hear or see photographic evidence of all the things going right for him every day. You don&amp;#39;t have to declare the friendship over, but as with when he needed some space to recover, give yourself some space to deal with your jealousy. Don&amp;#39;t visit his social media pages, and try to avoid talking or face-to-face contact on a regular basis. Not having his success rubbed in your face will make it easier to let go of envy and get back to genuine good feelings.\nAs for missing him, of course you do. He was a big part of your life, and you ended on good terms. But don&amp;#39;t let yourself downward spiral into thinking that you want him back just because he&amp;#39;s having some success. You broke up with him because the relationship ran its course. That hasn&amp;#39;t changed because he got some great new job, has it? (If it has, you might have been with him for the wrong reasons in the first place.) Remember that missing him and feeling a little lonely now is better than sticking in a dead-end relationship, because you&amp;#39;re free to meet the right guy, even if it hasn&amp;#39;t happened right away.\nNow, let&amp;#39;s talk about dealing with you. I think it&amp;#39;s pretty clear that the real reason you&amp;#39;re feeling this way has less to do with your ex, and more to do with your being a bit down in the dumps generally. You&amp;#39;re broke and maybe a little lonely, which doesn&amp;#39;t have anything to do with your ex. It&amp;#39;s just a little unfortunate timing that he&amp;#39;s having an upswing while you&amp;#39;re having a downswing, which is making you focus on him instead of yourself. Just remember that we all go through rough patches, and you&amp;#39;ll get out of it. And then start concentrating on taking steps to get you out of this funk. I know you&amp;#39;re busy and on a low budget, but make it a point to rearrange your schedule as best as possible to partake in some fun, free activities. Join a book club or sports team where you can meet new people while spending minimal money. (Not recommended: taking up a new singing career and performing at your ex&amp;#39;s company party, \u00E0 la Marnie. Just don&amp;#39;t.) That will take your mind off of him and get it back where it belongs: on living your life. And your life will perk up soon, I promise, and you won&amp;#39;t have to feel jealous anymore.\nHave you ever felt jealous of an ex like this reader? Any tips for dealing with it?\nRegrets, we&amp;#39;ve had a few:\nMore Regrets Revolve Around Romance Than Any Other Issue, Study Says\nAsk a Guy: &amp;quot;I Always Have Put-Outers&amp;#39; Remorse. Why?&amp;quot;\n7 Reasons You&amp;#39;ll Regret Seeking Breakup Revenge\nPhoto: Courtesy of HBO"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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