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"Enough is enough already! Or is it?\nPinterestFacebookWrites Save the Date reader Mandy:\nFor the first three years of our relationship, I was giddy-silly in love with my guy. I had NO doubts about how much I loved him. Our relationship was amazing.\nAfter we had been together for a year and a half, if he had proposed, I would have said, &amp;quot;YES!!&amp;quot;\nBut he hasn&amp;#39;t proposed yet. And I&amp;#39;m started to feel a little jaded.\nIt&amp;#39;s not that he&amp;#39;s that &amp;quot;I don&amp;#39;t want to get married EVER&amp;quot; guy. In fact, he&amp;#39;s the opposite.\nHe&amp;#39;s said often that he wants to get married and he wants to marry me. He daydreams about the location of our wedding and talks about who will be invited and who will be in the wedding party and on and on.\nThis used to excite me, but now I&amp;#39;m kind of sick of hearing about it all.\nI thought a proposal was coming last fall. When it didn&amp;#39;t, I was devastated and had a total meltdown. He promised he would be ready soon.\nI wasn&amp;#39;t ready to leave him in the fall&amp;#8212;I just couldn&amp;#39;t do it. But at this point I&amp;#39;m emotionally preparing myself for things NOT to work out. Instead of envisioning our wedding, I&amp;#39;m envisioning a future without him.\nOf course now he&amp;#39;s talking about wedding planning more than ever. It&amp;#39;s driving me nuts.\nIs it worth waiting for a proposal from this guy? Or is he all talk? And if he does propose soon, will the feelings I&amp;#39;m having while waiting (hurt, confused, mentally exhausted) go away once he proposes? If I&amp;#39;m already picturing a future without him, is it too late for us?\nHere are my thoughts:\nWell, your guy&amp;#39;s sending totally mixed signals! I can see why you&amp;#39;re frustrated!\nI think the two of you need to have a long conversation that starts with you asking him to STOP planning your virtual wedding.\nThe next time he brings up &amp;quot;our wedding&amp;quot; or &amp;quot;my groomsmen,&amp;quot; I&amp;#39;d say, &amp;quot;Listen, I&amp;#39;m looking forward to being engaged and planning our wedding, but every time you bring it up now, I feel like you&amp;#39;re taunting me. I&amp;#39;m sure it&amp;#39;s unintentional, but it feels like a cruel little reminder that we&amp;#39;re not engaged&amp;#8212;which you know I want very badly.&amp;quot;\nYou mentioned you had a meltdown last year, so I think the next part needs to be said in a calm, collected manner. Something to the effect of, &amp;quot;Given the length of our relationship and the amount of talking we do about weddings and marriage, I had hoped to be engaged by now. I want to spend the rest of my life with you, but if you haven&amp;#39;t proposed by my birthday [or whatever date], I&amp;#39;m going to have to reconsider my future. I&amp;#39;m not saying any of this to pressure you and I don&amp;#39;t want to freak you out, but I think it&amp;#39;s important that you know what page I&amp;#39;m on right now.&amp;quot;\nWhat I wouldn&amp;#39;t say is, &amp;quot;I&amp;#39;m already planning my life without you,&amp;quot; because if he&amp;#39;s having any lingering doubts, that will only exacerbate them.\nThe important part about giving an ultimatum of sorts is that you REALLY have to stick to it. If he hasn&amp;#39;t proposed by the date you pick, you need to be prepared to walk. Otherwise you&amp;#39;re just setting yourself up for a lifetime of getting walked all over.\nPulling the plug on your relationship might be the kick in the butt he needs to propose&amp;#8212;or it might just be the end of your relationship. But you&amp;#39;ll never know if you sit around waiting forever.\nThe good news is, when (or if) the proposal finally does come, I&amp;#39;m pretty sure all the bad feelings you&amp;#39;re having will, in fact dissipate. I have a friend or two who&amp;#39;s played the waiting game&amp;#8212;have you met my girl Engagement Chick?&amp;#8212;and once the game&amp;#39;s over, it seems like everyone wins.\nLadies, are any of you playing the waiting game? What do you think Mandy should do?\nHave a wedding-y dilemma of your own? E-mail me!\nMore reader&amp;#39;s dilemmas, solved!\n\n What if You Know How Your Boyfriend&amp;#39;s Going to Propose&amp;#8212;And You Hate His Plan?!\n\n\n Wedding Colors: How Matchy-Matchy Does Everything Need to Be? \n\n\n After a Close Friend Goes Bridezilla, Can You Save the Friendship? Would You Want To?\n\nMore Ways to Get Glamour\nTake Our Survey and You Could Win an iTunes Gift Card!\nHey Glamour fans, we need your advice. 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