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"Dear Dr. Kate,\n*I&amp;#39;ve had sex three times and each time it has hurt. Is this something that will change over time?*Sex shouldn&amp;#39;t cause you pain. If you&amp;#39;ve been to see a gynecologist, and had a normal pelvic exam, there are a couple of possible explanations. One is a condition called vulvodynia, which means &amp;quot;pain in the vulva.&amp;quot; Does it hurt if your partner puts a finger inside you, or if you use a tampon? Often, women with vulvodynia have pain on any contact to their vulva, not just intercourse, so they might feel discomfort even when they wear tight jeans or pants. Another cause of discomfort when women just start having intercourse is tightening in anticipation. The vagina is a powerful muscle and if you&amp;#39;re not fully relaxed before intercourse, you can feel a lot of pain with penetration. It takes the average woman 20-30 minutes of good foreplay to become both aroused and lubricated enough for intercourse. And if sex has been painful so far, it&amp;#39;s natural to &amp;quot;tighten up&amp;quot; when a guy is about to penetrate you. So make sure that you get lots of playtime first, then use a lubricant on his penis and your labia and make sure he enters you really slowly, to give your vagina a chance to adjust. Better yet, you be on top, so you can control how quickly he enters you. Whatever is happening, pain is your body&amp;#39;s way of telling you to stop (or slow down) what you&amp;#39;re doing. Once you can figure out why you&amp;#39;re hurting, you can find ways to make sex more enjoyable.\nHave you ever experienced pain when you&amp;#39;ve had sex? Did it change over time, or did you have to go and get yourself checked out?\nHave a sex health question of your own? Ask Dr. Kate here, and keep checking back to see if she&amp;#39;s answered it.\nPlus, more on sex:\n\nWe&amp;#39;re about to Make Sex Better for 66% of Women: Find Out What to Do When Sex Hurts\n\n\nSex Question: Being On Top During Sex Hurts, What Can I Do to Fix It?\n\n\nSex Question: Could My Vagina Be Too Tight?\n\nMore Ways to Get Glamour\nYou could win $50,000 just for registering or logging in to Glamour.com!\nSign up for Glamour.com&amp;#39;s Style Tips of the Week and Beauty Tip of the Day newsletters!\nAdd Glamour to your iGoogle homepage.\nFollow Glamour on Twitter."^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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