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"Today, a reader wonders what to do when her boyfriend&amp;#x27;s best friend acts like a jerk. Smile sweetly? Walk away? Fire back? Weigh in after the jump...Here&amp;#x27;s our sweet reader&amp;#x27;s question: My boyfriend&amp;#x27;s best friend is really cold toward me. Once when my boyfriend and I weren&amp;#x27;t together, I spotted his best friend at school, and he saw me too but he walked off without acknowledging me. Sometimes when I&amp;#x27;m joking around with him he can give me really rude comebacks, and when I talk to him online about little things like asking him for his girlfriends&amp;#x27; number so I can ask her what to wear at her party, he&amp;#x27;ll just give me the number without saying hi. I don&amp;#x27;t know what to do because I can&amp;#x27;t really talk to him about it because there is a big possibility that he might not be realizing what he&amp;#x27;s doing, and my boyfriend thinks that I have a fear of not being liked because of self-esteem issues. Am I being overly sensitive or does he really not like me? How do I come across as assured and relaxed? Here&amp;#x27;s my answer: Thanks for your sweet note! You know, I had a very similar situation with one of my old boyfriend&amp;#x27;s friends. I had known him for years, but as soon as I started dating my boyfriend, he turned very cold toward me. We all went to dinner, and his friend made fun of everything I said. It was bizarre! We ended up leaving early. And he would give me weird looks whenever we saw him. After a few weeks, my then-boyfriend had a long talk with him, and it turned out that he was jealous that I was &amp;quot;stealing&amp;quot; him away. Of course, my boyfriend was spending less time with his friend because we were always going on dates, and his friend was sad about that. I was touched that his friend had the emotional maturity to admit that, but it still stung when he ignored me or made fun of me! After a while, thankfully, things got better. Anyway, I would guess that this is a similar situation. I bet your boyfriend&amp;#x27;s best friend is jealous of your closeness with him, and how much time you spend together, and how you&amp;#x27;re &amp;quot;stealing&amp;quot; your boyfriend away. Most likely, it has NOTHING to do with you -- I&amp;#x27;m sure he thinks you&amp;#x27;re a wonderful person (and in fact, he may also be jealous that your boyfriend gets to date you!) It&amp;#x27;s a bummer that he acts weird, but if he&amp;#x27;s just being distant (and not actually mean), I might suggest you ignore it. When he says rude comebacks to your jokes, maybe you could say &amp;quot;ouch&amp;quot; and kind of frown and laugh, so he gets the point that he&amp;#x27;s being a bit of a jerk. Overall, I would recommend just being really, really nice to him (even if he is cold or doesn&amp;#x27;t write a long email, write back and say &amp;quot;thank you so much! I hope you&amp;#x27;re having a great day&amp;quot;), and maybe he will warm up after a while. Good luck! Dear readers, what about you guys? Do you like your boyfriend&amp;#x27;s friends? Have you ever had an awkward relationship with them? Did it get better? P.S. On the flip, what do you do if you don&amp;#x27;t like your friend&amp;#x27;s boyfriend? Photo: Superbomba"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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