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"We&amp;amp;#8217;ve helped readers with gift problems, fashion problems, and finance problems. Today, we have a reader with a friend problem. Loyal Save the Date reader zlie17 writes: I&amp;amp;#8217;ve been waiting to ask my friend to be my maid of honor &amp;amp;#8217;til I see her in person over Valentine&amp;amp;#8217;s Day weekend. But now her husband&amp;amp;#8212;whom she&amp;amp;#8217;s been separated from for a few months&amp;amp;#8212;just asked her for a divorce. (They&amp;amp;#8217;ve only been married for two years, but they dated for eight!) I&amp;amp;#8217;d still like to ask her, but I also want to her to know that it&amp;amp;#8217;s totally cool if she doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t want to do it simply because of what she&amp;amp;#8217;s going through. Here are my thoughts: Ugh. Talk about bad timing. But I think you&amp;amp;#8217;re being super-awesome about it all&amp;amp;#8212;unselfish brides aren&amp;amp;#8217;t always easy to come by! I say you should still go ahead and ask her. While she might be down on her marriage, she&amp;amp;#8217;s probably really excited for yours. And being your go-to girl might be a great distraction from all the other stuff she&amp;amp;#8217;s going through. Plus, you said she and her husband have been separated for months, so that means she&amp;amp;#8217;s had some time to work through her issues. That said, I think it would be great to tack on the but-only-if-you-want-to disclaimer. I would bring it up once and offer to give her a week to sit on it. If you keep asking her (&amp;amp;#8220;Are you sure? Are you really, really sure? You know you don&amp;amp;#8217;t have to, right?&amp;amp;#8221;) she might bow out just so she doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t have to listen to you second-guess her for the next however-many months. Do you guys agree with me here? If you were the friend in question, would you still want to be zlie17&amp;amp;#8217;s maid of honor? Or do you think you&amp;amp;#8217;d be too caught up in your own drama to give the bride the attention she deserves? Have a wedding-related dilemma of your own? Send it to me by clicking here! More reader&amp;amp;#8217;s dilemmas, solved! * &amp;amp;#8220;Help! I Can&amp;amp;#8217;t Afford the Wedding I Want!&amp;amp;#8221; * &amp;amp;#8220;Help! We Want to Elope&amp;amp;#8212;But How Will We Tell Our Families?&amp;amp;#8221; * &amp;amp;#8220;Help! Registering Is So Overwhelming!&amp;amp;#8221; More Ways to Get Glamour You could win $50,000 just for registering or logging in to Glamour.com! Sign up for Glamour.com&amp;amp;#8217;s Style Tips of the Week and Beauty Tip of the Day newsletters! Add Glamour to your iGoogle homepage. Follow Glamour on Twitter. Photo: Jupiter Images"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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