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"I&amp;#x27;ve had shake-my-head and gasp moments two times this week--and they&amp;#x27;ve both involved the subject of rape. Two women have spoken out in controversial ways about rape. Let&amp;#x27;s discuss... The first shake-my-head moment: When I read the sort of horrifying account written by writer Anouk Collins over at The Frisky. Basically, in a blog post, she recounts being raped by her boyfriend--except it was a sort of &amp;quot;miscommunication rape.&amp;quot; You see, she had a rape &amp;quot;fantasy&amp;quot; that she&amp;#x27;d told him about and he chose to act on it (without her consent and totally by surprise one night): &amp;quot;As he crawled on top of me, I rather sternly informed him that I didn&amp;#x27;t want to have sex with him. To my horror, he got a menacing look on his face and ignored my protests. I knew after a few misguided attempts to block him from entering me that he thought what was happening was drastically different from what I knew to be taking place. To him, this was the fantasy I&amp;#x27;d been talking about. To me, it was not. The problem, of course, was that since we&amp;#x27;d never discussed it, his decision to enact it without any prior dialogue, without my consent, robbed me of the control that would&amp;#x27;ve made it a rape fantasy rather than an out-and-out rape.&amp;quot; The second shake-my-head moment: What Whoopi Goldberg had to say about the Roman Polanski arrest (he allegedly had sex with a 13 year old in the 1970s). She said this: &amp;quot;It wasn&amp;#x27;t &amp;quot;rape-rape.&amp;quot; I&amp;#x27;m going to turn this to you: What&amp;#x27;s your definition of rape and do either of these stories bother you? More reading: *Should young female immigrants be forced to get the HPV vaccination? *She went to the hospital to deliver a baby, but went home with the wrong child! *First racism, now fatism? More Ways to Get Glamour You could win $50,000 just for registering for or logging in to Glamour.com! Sign up for Glamour.com&amp;#x27;s Style Tips of the Week and Beauty Tip of the Day newsletters! Add Glamour to your iGoogle homepage. Follow us on Twitter! Photo: Getty"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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