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"There are a lot of so-called rules in life that are flexible: wearing white after Labor Day, eating garlic on a date, even trimming your own bangs. But one that isn&amp;amp;#8217;t? Sleeping with your best friend&amp;amp;#8217;s ex-boyfriend. John was my first love. And my high school best friend, Erin, was there to witness every single up and down of my three-year-long romance with him. He and I split for good when I was 20, but our feelings never really died out. To this day, John still gushes about how much he cares about me and in a way, I&amp;amp;#8217;ve always thought of him as my back-up plan; the guy I&amp;amp;#8217;d run back to if the big, bad world became too much to handle. But two weeks ago, he dropped a bomb on me: for the last few months, he&amp;amp;#8217;s been dating Erin. DATING HER. When he told me, I absolutely lost it. &amp;amp;#8220;I really didn&amp;amp;#8217;t think you&amp;amp;#8217;d care!&amp;amp;#8221; he said lamely. If John had met one of my New York friends and felt this crazy spark, sure it would be weird and kind of sucky, but hey, you can&amp;amp;#8217;t fight chemistry. But the fact that Erin was front and center for every bit of our relationship means&amp;amp;#8212;in my opinion, at least&amp;amp;#8212;that he&amp;amp;#8217;s off limits forever. What&amp;amp;#8217;s worse, she didn&amp;amp;#8217;t even have the guts to tell me herself. She hasn&amp;amp;#8217;t reached out, apologized, explained&amp;amp;#8212;or done anything else. I really expected more from a girl who was like my sister for six years. I&amp;amp;#8217;m so devastated. Not only do my dreams of ending up with John seem silly and futile, but all my memories of my friendship with Erin are tainted now. Am I being hyper-sensitive? Or did Erin breach friendship rule #1? Should she have asked my permission or discussed it with me first? Should I reach out to her? Have you ever had a similar experience? What did you do? For more&amp;amp;#133; *Have you ever been in a love triangle? *Is your friend toxic to your relationship? *Do you watch your man interact with other women? Photo: Jupiter Images "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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