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" You know the feeling: You&amp;#039;re introduced to someone new and \u2014 boom! \u2014 you&amp;#039;re instant pals, or you meet a man and \u2014 sigh \u2014 it&amp;#039;s love at first sight. That mysterious experience we call &amp;quot;hitting it off&amp;quot; is what psychologist Rom Brafman and his brother, Ori, explore in their new book, Click: The Magic of Instant Connections. The Brafmans&amp;#039; research uncovers the &amp;quot;accelerators,&amp;quot; such as complementary body language and letting down your guard, that lead to instant bonds and also strengthen long-term relationships. &amp;quot;These accelerators generate &amp;#039;click&amp;#039; because they boost intimacy,&amp;quot; Ori says. &amp;quot;Whether you&amp;#039;re trying to connect with someone new or reignite the flames in a marriage, more intimacy is what you&amp;#039;re aiming for, and the strategies to achieve it are the same.&amp;quot; Here, he explains three easy ways to harness the power of &amp;quot;click&amp;quot; to feel closer to your guy: Give a quick kiss. &amp;quot;Studies bear out the importance of casual touch, how it makes us feel safer and more empathetic,&amp;quot; Brafman says. &amp;quot;So scootch in a little closer to your husband, and make a point of touching him casually, on the elbow or hip, throughout the day.&amp;quot; Look for likenesses. &amp;quot;We naturally seek out similarities as a way to feel close to others, and the happiest couples are on a constant quest to uncover ways in which they&amp;#039;re alike,&amp;quot; Brafman says. &amp;quot;Sharing things in common with your partner \u2014 anything from a mutual love of slapstick comedy to a joint passion for pizza \u2014 makes you feel like you&amp;#039;re part of the same unit, that you&amp;#039;re both in your own little &amp;#039;in group.&amp;#039;&amp;quot;      RELATED: What better way to feel like you&amp;#039;re part of the same unit and that you&amp;#039;re both in your own little &amp;#039;in group&amp;#039; than having a secret sex code? What do other couples say when they want to sneak away? You won&amp;#039;t believe what these couples admitted to on camera! Get in sync. &amp;quot;Meeting your partner where he is, on both the body and mind levels, leads to increased intimacy,&amp;quot; Brafman says. &amp;quot;Paying attention to what he&amp;#039;s saying is important, but you can also demonstrate your understanding by mirroring his gestures, like crossing your legs when he does. He&amp;#039;ll subconsciously understand that you&amp;#039;re present with him and then naturally reciprocate for you.&amp;quot; Still, no need to go too far: If you catch your guy scratching his chest, well, that can be his thing. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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