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"One of our readers has a dilemma: Her fiance had cancer before they met and is currently going through some nerve-wracking follow up testing and she feels like she doesn&amp;#x27;t quite know what to say/do: &amp;quot;I just don&amp;#x27;t see him as someone who has cancer. He&amp;#x27;s healthy and loud and obnoxious and sweet and wonderful. I don&amp;#x27;t think &amp;#x27;cancer&amp;#x27; when I look at him. And sometimes, I forget all that he&amp;#x27;s gone through because (I guess) I wasn&amp;#x27;t there in the beginning.&amp;quot; She also wrote that her fiance recently told her that she doesn&amp;#x27;t understand and she never will. Ouch. Last week we talked about the people who bail when the going gets tough, but, DetectionRae wonders, what are the people who stick supposed to say? Here&amp;#x27;s her exact q: &amp;quot;What is the best thing that anyone has said or done for you while in the mud of fighting that has made a difference or made anything better?&amp;quot; Here&amp;#x27;s my answer: A few days after I had been diagnosed one of my oldest (and kookiest) friends said, &amp;quot;Out of anyone I know, of course it would be you who got cancer, Erin&amp;amp;#8212;who else would be so strong and brave and kick its ass? I&amp;#x27;m glad it&amp;#x27;s you. It had to be you.&amp;quot; For some reason that has stuck with me always as the perfect, slightly un-p.c. thing to say&amp;amp;#8212;to me&amp;amp;#8212;(probably because it appealed to my ego). OK, your turn: What&amp;#x27;s the best thing anyone has said to you or done for you during a rough time in your life?"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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