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"Spotted recently on a T-shirt: If a man speaks his mind in the forest, and there&amp;#x27;s no woman around to hear him, is he still wrong? (Get it? Ha-ha.) Well the truth is, guys are right about plenty of things, and if we listened, really listened, to some of their insights, we could have a happier, healthier love life. Skeptical? Don&amp;#x27;t be--turns out men have at least these eight truths down cold. 1 When it comes to sex, what&amp;#x27;s done is done. While we obsess about past hookups and devise complicated algorithms to compare ours with his (Age times party school divided by two serious boyfriends minus one tequila-fueled night on a business trip plus some racy dreams = ??), guys are of the infinitely less neurotic school of &amp;quot;So What?&amp;quot; Daryl-Lynn,* 36, from Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, learned this from her husband: &amp;quot;I had had a pretty active sex life before my husband and I got together--I went to college, I went to bars. I even slept with women. I told him that, and you know what his response was? &amp;#x27;OK.&amp;#x27; And that was that.&amp;quot; Daryl-Lynn&amp;#x27;s guy is right: Why fret if you can&amp;#x27;t change it? By the way, the &amp;quot;So What?&amp;quot; rule also holds true if he is the one with the higher digits and scandalous past--you never know which of his exes might have taught him that upside-down swirl technique you now count among your greatest blessings. 2 Abandon a sinking (relation)ship. Oh ladies, let&amp;#x27;s face it, we sometimes want to fix things long past their expiration date. But look at guys--while we stand still pondering how it might work out, they do a swift, unemotional cost-benefit analysis and hit the road. Mercy, 33, from Anderson, South Carolina, got the cold, hard truth from someone she was seeing in college: &amp;quot;He said, &amp;#x27;Just because you are a great girl and I&amp;#x27;m a great guy doesn&amp;#x27;t mean we are each other&amp;#x27;s great girl and great guy.&amp;#x27; After that, if I felt bad for not being more into someone, I&amp;#x27;d remember his words and would be able to break it off so I could search for my &amp;#x27;great guy&amp;#x27; (who I found!).&amp;quot; Look at it this way: At some point you bought a dress that was perfect on the hanger, but after wearing it once, you realized it didn&amp;#x27;t complement you as spectacularly as you would have liked. So you retired it, right? Maybe gave it to Goodwill? Same thing applies to the men. Learn to say &amp;quot;next!&amp;quot; with a clear conscience when the situation warrants it. 3 More sex does lead to better sex. You know those couples, the ones who absolutely exude sex, and you know they are doing it all the time and that it is awesome? Jessica and Justin. Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee, when they are together. Your neighbors who have no qualms about PDA, even in the laundry room. The question is, are they having so much sex because the sex is so good, or is the sex so good because they are having it so often? Actually, this chicken-and-egg puzzler doesn&amp;#x27;t matter, because here is something guys know that we sometimes forget--getting in the mood more often results in being in the mood more often. Joy Davidson, a psychologist and certified sex therapist, agrees: &amp;quot;Frequency can make good sex great, and great sex mind-blowing. You&amp;#x27;ll be more familiar with each other&amp;#x27;s bodies and ready to expand your horizons and get inventive.&amp;quot; Commit that to memory, and in no time you two will be that laundry room couple. 4 You don&amp;#x27;t need to talk everything to death. Those long, process-y relationship talks on Grey&amp;#x27;s Anatomy are one reason that show has a viewership of approximately 3 billion women and three men. We love this stuff; men hate it. But while talks make great, girly TV, they can backfire in real life. Instead of a prime-time soap opera, consider processed food: All of the nutrients are gone, depleted like the energy that gets sucked out of your relationship when you have the 48,752,382nd conversation about &amp;quot;why it hurts my feelings if you don&amp;#x27;t text me back right away.&amp;quot; Save your energy for what matters. Cassie, 30, from Miami, says, &amp;quot;When we first started dating, my boyfriend and I were arguing--I can&amp;#x27;t even remember what it was about--and he asked, &amp;#x27;Is this a deal breaker?&amp;#x27; Forced to stop and really think about it, I realized it wasn&amp;#x27;t.&amp;quot; See how simple love can be? 5 And sometimes it&amp;#x27;s fine to be completely quiet. Everyone dreads those conversational voids that can happen during the first few dates. You are both looking around the room, desperate for a topic now that you&amp;#x27;ve gotten through the basic exchange of information, and that&amp;#x27;s when you start to feel it--the urge to say something...anything. Before you start telling him about the boy who hit you with a lunch box in the fifth grade, remember that a nonstop stream of even the wittiest remarks isn&amp;#x27;t a cure for awkwardness. It may even get in the way. Jesse, 30, from Philadelphia, explains it this way: &amp;quot;Words can often blur a connection that could be made with a simple look.&amp;quot; Worse, if you don&amp;#x27;t stop talking long enough for him to speak, you&amp;#x27;re never going to get a chance to know him. And once the jitters of the early days are over, silence really can be golden. See the look of calm that&amp;#x27;s spreading across his face as time quietly passes? You should also be able to enjoy the lack of chatter. Think of it as separate mini vacations where you can travel to the land of &amp;quot;everything I try on looks perfect on me,&amp;quot; while he spends some quality moments in &amp;quot;I absolutely rule at office basketball.&amp;quot; Everyone wins! 6 It&amp;#x27;s OK (and, dare we say it, a good thing) to check out other people. Seriously. We are just talking about looking, after all. And yet, for some reason, many women think that a man who&amp;#x27;s truly in love must never glance at anyone else. We live in a visual culture; he&amp;#x27;s going to look. And let&amp;#x27;s face it, women do too. Some couples even do it together--which may sound wife-swappy and swingerish at first, but usually means that those two people are comfortable enough to point out a hottie walking by. Jamie, 32, of Murfreesboro, Tennessee, says, &amp;quot;When my husband comments on girls, I feel good knowing we are so confident that we can discuss other people&amp;#x27;s beauty.&amp;quot; OK, maybe the rest of us will never be that sanguine, but unless you are willing not to ever again notice the way Eric Bana&amp;#x27;s eyes crinkle at the edges, accept this basic part of human nature and have faith that a glance does not a cheater make. 7 Video games can bring you closer. No, we weren&amp;#x27;t paid by any Nintendo lobbyists to say that. When Maggie, 32, from Fresh Meadows, New York, met Scott, she thought his video game obsession was &amp;quot;childish, but easy to ignore.&amp;quot; That changed when she picked up the Wii controller, played an innocent game of Raving Rabbids--and aced it. (That&amp;#x27;s how it always starts.) These days Maggie&amp;#x27;s hooked, and she and her now fianc&amp;amp;eacute; go head-to-head at least once a week. &amp;quot;He gets so excited when he asks me to play and I say yes!&amp;quot; she adds. The best part: &amp;quot;I beat him regularly.&amp;quot; 8 It&amp;#x27;s sex, not the Psychic Network. Like something? Don&amp;#x27;t like something? The cat and your best friend may be able to read your silent signals, but for a guy in the moment, it&amp;#x27;s not that easy. &amp;quot;Just tell us, please!&amp;quot; pleads Gabe, 26, from New York City. &amp;quot;We can&amp;#x27;t blindly divine what you want or hate with sex.&amp;quot; The idea that your partner will be able to automatically figure out how to blow your mind is as dated as the one where he throws you on the back of his horse and gallops off into the sunset. Men already know that, which is why they don&amp;#x27;t have too hard a time asking for a little more of this, a little less of that. So tell your Prince Charming, gently, what to do and when to do it, and you two just might live happily ever after."^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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