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"I remember watching M*A*S*H a lot when I was a kid. In one particular episode, Major Winchester pulls an all-night bender in Tokyo where it appears he got married and has no recollection of the event. It all turns out to be a happy misunderstanding, and they hold an amusing &amp;quot;Divorce Ceremony&amp;quot; officiated by Hawkeye, in which the bride and groom dis-affirm their vows by saying &amp;quot;I Undo.&amp;quot; It turns out that ceremony is not as far-fetched as you think. In Japan, you can now invite your friends to your divorce ceremony. Bride and Groom arrive in separate transportation, an officiate gives a small speech about how they&amp;#039;ve grown apart, and then they take turns smashing their wedding rings with giant green hammers. Afterward, they sit back-to-back at a restaurant, politely ignoring each other until it&amp;#039;s time to bow and say goodbye for good. I&amp;#039;m trying to imagine myself proposing such a fiasco to Peter, and I just can&amp;#039;t picture it. Depending on the day, we&amp;#039;d be just as likely to take the hammer to each other&amp;#039;s heads than to a ring. I really don&amp;#039;t think anyone needs a speech to inform them that we&amp;#039;ve grown apart, and sharing an uncomfortable meal with friends who have to literally choose who they&amp;#039;re sitting (and siding) with sounds like all kinds of laughs, doesn&amp;#039;t it? Still, I understand the yearning for closure, and the need for finality, maybe even ceremony, as you leave a chunk of your past (yourself?) behind and move forward into a new and separate life. I&amp;#039;m reminded of a wonderful chapter in the book &amp;quot;Split&amp;quot; by Suzanne Finnamore, when she barbeques her keepsake wedding invitations and various wedding-related souvenirs on her gas grill late one evening, drinking wine and laughing madly. That kind of resolution is good for the soul, I think. I&amp;#039;m not sure what I&amp;#039;ll do when the divorce decree arrives in the mail. Cry? Dance? A little of both? I think about it right now, and all I feel is a weight like a rock in my stomach. Maybe I&amp;#039;ll feel like a weight is finally off my shoulders. Or maybe, I&amp;#039;ll realize that the sun rose that morning, and will set that evening, and I&amp;#039;ll still be here. That&amp;#039;s ceremony enough for me, I think. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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