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"We&amp;amp;#8217;ve known each other for six days now: time for sex. I wanted to respond to a couple comments about faking it--something I&amp;amp;#8217;ve never had to deal with&amp;amp;#133;.right? Two comments in particular struck me: The first said that she regretted not being more honest with her ex-boyfriend, whom she faked it with every time. The second was from &amp;amp;#8220;atuneonmylips&amp;amp;#8221; who wrote, &amp;amp;#8220;I&amp;#x27;ve never faked an orgasm. I&amp;#x27;ve also never had one&amp;amp;#133;my last boyfriend&amp;amp;#133;put a lot of pressure on himself to be the one who would get me there&amp;amp;#133;I&amp;#x27;m curious about another guy&amp;#x27;s perspective on this. Would it bum you out if the woman you were seeing never orgasmed?&amp;amp;#8221; First of all, this is a common occurrence. Lots of women don&amp;amp;#8217;t come, for lots of different reasons. Just take a look at Glamour&amp;#x27;s big-O package! To answer your question: At the end of the day, every guy likes to think he is a good lover, or at least a proficient one, so yes, it would bum me out. But not half as much as knowing that a woman I was having sex with was faking. Unless you have some intensely specific circumstances (and if you do, I want to hear about them) there is no reason on earth why you should be faking. Sex isn&amp;amp;#8217;t just about communication, it&amp;amp;#8217;s a form of communication in itself. The act is an opportunity to be completely open with one another, to be literally and figuratively naked. The amount of information available to you and your man--never mind toys, lubes, movies and guides--can actually seem overwhelming, but the tools are so readily available there are just too many opportunities to figure out how to get off, or at least begin the conversation, for you to be faking. (E-mail Glamour&amp;#x27;s resident OBGYN Dr. Hilda Hutcherson here with specific questions.) And I think that&amp;amp;#8217;s probably the hardest part. How do you be as bold as &amp;amp;#8220;atuneonmylips&amp;amp;#8221; who was honest about her lack-of-coming with her man? And what if his inability to flip the switch bums him out? Well, he needs to be a grown-up and realize he&amp;amp;#8217;s just a man, and that sometimes, no matter how accomplished a vagician we might be, there&amp;amp;#8217;s more to it than anatomical knowledge and enthusiasm. Orgasm tends to be tied to psychology as much as anything anatomical. That is to say, no matter how good he is down there, the problem may be &amp;amp;#8220;up there,&amp;amp;#8221; which is cause for more communication. Ultimately, the question is open to you. How important is orgasm to your experience of sex, and how important is sex to the relationship? Is it just this one small thing that&amp;amp;#8217;s missing, or is it a gaping hole in your love life that points to greater dysfunction in the relationship? Answer those questions first for yourself, then start talking. Am I being incredibly naive to think none of the women I&amp;amp;#8217;ve been with have faked it? Is there a time when you feel faking is appropriate, or helpful? More Ways to Relax With Your Dude: 7 Ways Guys Love You As Is How Are You Spending Your 20&amp;#x27;s What He&amp;#x27;s Thinking About Before Kissing You More Ways to Get Glamour You could win $50,000 just for registering or logging in to Glamour.com! Sign up for Glamour.com&amp;#x27;s Style Tips of the Week and Beauty Tip of the Day newsletters! Add Glamour to your iGoogle homepage. Follow Glamour on Twitter. Photo: Jupiter Images"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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