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"I just read a really funny book called Delicious Dating: The Single Girl&amp;amp;#8217;s Guide to Decoding Men by Their Wining and Dining Styles. Before writing this book, author Babe Scott discovered she was incompatible with her then-fiance in part because he ate only cheap, unhealthy, packaged foods. To a foodie who likes nutritious meals and fine dining, that matters. And after all, she says, &amp;amp;#8220;When you marry someone, you are going to potentially share more than 20,000 meals.&amp;amp;#8221; But it&amp;amp;#8217;s not just about incompatible culinary tastes&amp;amp;#8212;the way a guy orders, eats, and cooks can tell you a lot about his approach to life. For example, says Babe, what&amp;amp;#8217;s the point of expecting an Adventure Eater to be the stay-at-home type? Likewise, her ex-fiance, who bought only fast and frozen food didn&amp;amp;#8217;t value romance, health, or making an effort in areas that count. Identifying a man&amp;amp;#8217;s dining style can help you clue in to his personality as early as your first dinner date. I asked Babe more Qs about what we can learn from a man&amp;amp;#8217;s culinary style&amp;amp;#133;. Erin: How did you research this book? Babe: I embarked on an empirical study of the male species via their stomachs. A manthropologist on a mission, the restaurant became my laboratory as I developed my food theory as a litmus test for lovers. I set up a website, TakeMeOutToLunch.com, through which I asked men to assist me with my study by accompanying me for a meal. I also joined every service I could find&amp;amp;#8212;from millionaire matchmakers to gourmet dinner groups, wine tastings, and singles&amp;amp;#8217; sushi classes&amp;amp;#8212;in an effort to meet as large a variety of men as possible. I dined with more than 100 men of every gourmet genus at a variety of venues, from dive bars to celebrated restaurants. My dining adventures took me from the sublime to the raddichioless as I ate my way to a new understanding of the male sex. I went dumpster diving on a date with a freegan, went on a foraging date in Central Park, went out for lunch with the Naked Cowboy, dined in the pitch dark, and even dined nude with the Clothing Optional Dinner Group. I taste tested every variety of man and reveled in every culinary encounter that I could. I also interviewed more than 200 men and women about the corollaries between a man&amp;amp;#8217;s wining and dining style and his mating style. Erin: How does dining with a man give you insight into his lifestyle and the type of man he is? Babe: There is no more powerful barometer of a man&amp;amp;#8217;s potential as a boyfriend and in the bedroom than how he seduces a woman&amp;amp;#8217;s taste buds. There is a reason that the ritual of a dinner date has always been a historic part of courtship: Food is foreplay. A man is putting his best fork forward and making an effort to woo your taste buds in the hope of stirring analogous appetites. He is also demonstrating what sort of partner and lover he would be. If you watch closely, you can tell all his main characteristics from his culinary style&amp;amp;#8212;whether he is considerate, controlling, sensuous, or sensible. The great thing about food is that it&amp;amp;#8217;s tangible. Rather than project what we would like to see, a man&amp;amp;#8217;s real personality is laid out on a platter. My research uncovered 10 Male Food Types, spanning the gamut from Transfat Types to Food Sensualists to Pretzel Players. Understanding a man&amp;amp;#8217;s Food Type is key to understanding what type of partner he will be. His Food Type reveals what sort of vacations he likes and whether he will lend a hand or hog the remote while you do the housework. Erin: If you have dinner with someone, what are some clues that will tell you whether the guy is, as you say, &amp;amp;#8220;a pleaser or selfish in the sack&amp;amp;#8221;? Babe: Guys who give good service at the dinner table give good service between the sheets. The less effort a guy makes at the table, the less effort he is going to make elsewhere. And if he can&amp;amp;#8217;t get you salivating over dinner then it&amp;amp;#8217;s unlikely he&amp;amp;#8217;ll do so in the sack. The more a man tries to interpret your taste buds and connect to you over food, the better a lover he will be. The two appetites both simulate and stimulate one another. Dining together is the way you forge a bond and connect to each other&amp;amp;#8217;s inner world. If a man tries to get inside your mind and state of being via your stomach, you are onto gold. This man will consider your side of the story as well as your sensual needs. Conversely, if a guy makes no effort to please your palate, this should signal he&amp;amp;#8217;s only interested in sating his own needs. Erin: What are some tabletop turn-ons and turn-offs for men? Babe: The top turn-ons are: 1. When a woman enjoys herself and her appetites. Men find a woman who revels in her appetites compelling. Look for the delicious in each date and every kernel of sensuality will be amplified. 2. When a woman is open to sharing plates and trying new dishes that he suggests. Agreeing to share a dessert, even only a taste, is also a turn-on. A man usually only orders dessert if he&amp;amp;#8217;s really interested, and saying no to even a smidgeon can feel like rejection. 3. When a woman connects with him in the moment. Leave your to-do lists, the office and your worries at home. The more you bring your mental baggage the less you enjoy the journey and the more your mental static interferes with your appreciation of the date. The top turn-offs are: 1. When a woman inhales her food like a boa constrictor. A romantic meal is a metaphor for sex, so eat slowly and sensuously rather than in a way that brings to mind an epicurean version of Lorena Bobbitt. 2. When a woman doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t express any gratitude. Guys don&amp;amp;#8217;t want to spend time and money wooing someone with all the animation and appreciation of a waxwork. If you want to make him hungry for second helpings, express some enthusiasm. 3. When a woman orders something that is not on the menu. Most guys take this as a sign of neurosis. By the same token, most men find it unappealing when a woman only orders a side or a salad. There is nothing sexy about dining with someone and eating alone. Erin: What are the 3 most common archetypes you found? Babe: The three most common archetypes are the Transfat Type, Steak and Two Veg, and Pretzel Player. If you live in California, the Low Carb Cowboy might be more prevalent. I encourage women to search out all 10 archetypes to find the flavor of man that suits them. Erin: What are some characteristics of a Transfat Type? Babe: The Transfat Type has the dietary and romantic habits of Homer Simpson. He only believes in four food groups: fat, fried, frozen, and salty snacks. If you had to sum up his culinary style, it&amp;amp;#8217;s food that goes well with football. In keeping with this dietary philosophy, the Transfat&amp;amp;#8217;s idea of romantic togetherness is sharing a supersized pizza in front of the television while his girlfriend fetches his beers. He works on a model of energy conservation both in the culinary and courting spheres. If the Transfat Type does take you out for dinner he will likely choose somewhere he can watch action replays while he serenades you over beer and fried food, preferably sans cutlery and eye contact. He&amp;amp;#8217;s not all bad&amp;amp;#8212;the Transfat is an oversized kid and is lacking in artifice. And you will always know where to find him&amp;amp;#8212;on his beloved couch in touching distance of his beloved remote. Erin: What are some traits of a Food Sensualist? Babe: The Food Sensualist is driven by his senses. For him, food is the one uniting passion that drives all others. This is the guy you see molesting fruit and vegetables at the farmer&amp;amp;#8217;s market, testing them for their tactility. He will try and connect your worlds through food and will also demonstrate his connection to his heritage through his dining choices. It might be pasta or bulgur but the staple grain of his motherly influence will rule the dinner. The grain and other ingredients will be fresh and he will likely know the owner of the restaurant. The Food Sensualist is a lover who will infuse your every sense. There is no faking it with this guy. Before you start hyperventilating, this Type is high maintenance in that he will expect you to revere food as much as he does. A simple meal will be a Grail quest for the purest ingredients. And he hates dining alone. Words won&amp;amp;#8217;t suffice: like his food, he requires time and effort. Erin: Any advice for single gals hungry for a relationship? Babe: Get out there and sample the man buffet. Make your love life as much of a priority as your next job promotion and taste test as many varieties of men as you can. This way you will learn what flavor of guy suits you the most. Don&amp;amp;#8217;t expect eligible men to turn up via UPS&amp;amp;#8212;put some effort into meeting guys, particularly ones who know their knee from a napkin. Attend wine tastings and meet-ups. Make up your mind that you are going to enjoy dating rather than treat it as a chore: appreciate it as a journey of discovery. Every date, even a cringe-worthy one, has something to teach you and will give you a better idea of what turns you on and off. Don&amp;amp;#8217;t be overly critical&amp;amp;#8212;just evaluate if a guy is to your taste, as bitterness only leads to wrinkles. By seeking and celebrating the Delicious, you will assuredly find men that whet your appetites. Thanks, Babe! What do you think of Babe&amp;amp;#8217;s observations and theories? What kind of culinary archetype is your man? What&amp;#x27;s your Food Type? More Ways to Get Glamour Visit ShopGlamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter! Add us to your iGoogle homepage. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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