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" How can I talk to my boyfriend about his sex skills without him getting defensive? As you&amp;#039;re obviously aware, you&amp;#039;re venturing into touchy territory, and the last thing you want to do is blurt out something that might offend him. So, first figure out what you want to say, and be specific. If you want more foreplay, for example, think about what you&amp;#039;d like him to do exactly. By giving him explicit &amp;quot;tips&amp;quot; you&amp;#039;re offering a sexy solution, rather than a critique. You also want to pick an appropriate time and place. Since guys recoil from anything resembling &amp;quot;a talk,&amp;quot; don&amp;#039;t make it seem like a big deal. Just try to ease into a conversation when you&amp;#039;re both relaxed and hanging out together...but keep it out of the bedroom. It&amp;#039;s also best to avoid direct eye contact, as men often unconsciously perceive that as confrontational. So, have the chat when you&amp;#039;re side-by-side, like sitting on the couch or taking a walk. To make sure that your comments come from a positive, constructive place, always precede a potential &amp;quot;negative&amp;quot; remark with one or two positive ones. Say something like &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;m really turned on by you, and I love when you kiss me, but I wish we could spend more time getting in the mood.&amp;quot; That way, you won&amp;#039;t sound like you&amp;#039;re bitching him out.  If he starts getting defensive, just reiterate the positive. And, let him know that you&amp;#039;re telling him this because you enjoy being with him and want to enjoy it even more. To further disarm him, level the playing field by asking him if there&amp;amp;#146;s anything he would like you to do differently. That will reinforce the fact that you&amp;#039;re trying to improve the relationship, and not come down on him. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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