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"Yikes! This is a big ol&amp;amp;#8217; etiquette mess! Writes Save the Date reader Tatum: One of my friends is getting married this spring, and I am getting married this summer. We were very close in our teens and have kept in touch over the years, but we aren&amp;amp;#8217;t super-close these days and rarely see each other. She sent me a save the date for her wedding months ago, and I sent her a save the date for mine shortly after. Recently, I received her wedding invitation and was surprised to see that she hadn&amp;#x27;t invited my fiance. (The RSVP card even specified they were reserving ONE seat). While obviously I would have preferred for her to invite my fiance, I understand that she probably has to keep her guest list down, and I&amp;#x27;m sort of a distant friend to begin with. My fiance, however, is really upset that he didn&amp;#x27;t get an invite&amp;amp;#8212;not only because he would&amp;amp;#8217;ve liked to go with me, but also because he doesn&amp;#x27;t want to invite her new husband to our wedding if he isn&amp;amp;#8217;t invited to theirs. So now I have two dilemmas: 1. Should I go to the wedding? I would really like to. I&amp;#x27;m happy to have been invited and would love to catch up with the bride and some other friends who will be there. My fiance, on the other hand, would prefer that I not go given that he feels snubbed. 2. Should I invite both my friend and her new husband to my wedding? (Our invitations haven&amp;#x27;t gone out yet.) I definitely want to, since we already sent a save the date, and they will be married, after all! Even if they didn&amp;#x27;t follow etiquette, I&amp;#x27;m all for being the bigger person. My fiance is cool with me inviting my friend, but he says that seeing her husband there on our wedding day will make him really upset about the &amp;amp;#8220;unfairness&amp;amp;#8221; of the situation all over again, and it will be a big downer for him. (It&amp;#x27;s probably worth noting that neither I nor my fiance have ever met this guy.) Usually my fiance and I are great at resolving our differences, but this one is proving to be really tough! (As if planning my own wedding wasn&amp;#x27;t stressful enough!) So what should I do?! Help! Here are my thoughts: I think it was super-rude of your friend to leave your fiance off the invite, knowing that your wedding is just around the corner. But at the end of the day, you can&amp;amp;#8217;t control her actions&amp;amp;#8212;you can only control your reactions. So here&amp;amp;#8217;s what I would do, if I were you: I would go to the wedding and I would invite her and her husband to mine. I think it&amp;amp;#8217;s great that you&amp;amp;#8217;re willing to be the bigger bride. And I hope your husband can be the bigger groom. Of course it&amp;amp;#8217;s a bummer that your husband will miss their wedding, but if you really want to go&amp;amp;#8212;and it seems you really do&amp;amp;#8212;he should let you enjoy yourself without having to worry about hurting his feelings. And he should take the day to do something fun with his friends, or crash on the couch and watch back-to-back episodes of Jackass. (Which is what Rory does when I&amp;amp;#8217;m otherwise occupied.) As far as your wedding goes, I don&amp;amp;#8217;t think it&amp;amp;#8217;s worth it for him to get too up in arms about one random guest. There will probably be a few people who he doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t know at the wedding&amp;amp;#8212;stray cousins, your mom&amp;amp;#8217;s college roommate&amp;amp;#8212;the only person he should be worrying about that day, however, is you. If he&amp;amp;#8217;s going to let the mere sight of your friend&amp;amp;#8217;s husband upset him on what should be one of the happiest days of his life&amp;amp;#8212;that&amp;amp;#8217;s so super-selfish!&amp;amp;#8212;I think he seriously needs to get his priorities in check. Ladies, what do you think Tatum should do? Should she blow off her friend&amp;amp;#8217;s wedding if her fiance doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t want her to go? And should she invite her friend&amp;amp;#8217;s husband to their wedding? Or should they both be un-vited? Have a wedding-y dilemma of your own? E-mail me! More reader&amp;amp;#8217;s dilemmas, solved! * &amp;amp;#8220;Help! I Want to Ask a Friend to Be My Maid of Honor&amp;amp;#8212;But Her Husband Just Asked Her for a Divorce!&amp;amp;#8221; * &amp;amp;#8220;Help! We&amp;amp;#8217;re Getting Gifts Before Our Wedding! Can We Use Them Yet?&amp;amp;#8221; * &amp;amp;#8220;Help! 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