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"Early Monday morning, University of Virginia student George Huguely kicked down the door of his classmate and former girlfriend, Yeardley Love. Both were 22 years old, varsity lacrosse players and seniors at the prestigious school, where they were scheduled to graduate in only a few weeks. But Love had ended her relationship with Huguely a few weeks earlier, and according to Huguely, he &amp;quot;shook Love, and her head repeatedly hit the wall.&amp;quot; One of her roommates found her face down in a pool of blood on her pillow at 2:15am that morning and called the police, who declared her dead at the scene. She had a large bruise on the right side of her face, her right eye was swollen shut and her chin was bruised and scraped. Later that morning, Huguely was arrested for her murder.  When I read about Love&amp;#039;s murder on Monday morning, I thought, that really could have been me. If a smart, independent, athletic girl like Yeardley Love could be killed by domestic violence, then so could any woman. And that&amp;#039;s the point. &amp;quot;It could happen to you,&amp;quot; says Dr. Gail Saltz, psychiatrist and best selling author. &amp;quot;It could happen to anybody. This didn&amp;#039;t happen because she was dumb or weak or anything like that. Domestic abuse occurs in all relationships. Across socioeconomic, racial, religious boundaries \u2013 there are no boundaries.&amp;quot;  According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, one in every four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.   &amp;quot;What happened to Yeardley Love is a terrible story, but it is a moment in which you can say, this happened and I want to talk with you about it,&amp;quot; says Dr. Saltz. &amp;quot;A parent assumes that they have a strong independent daughter, that something like this would never happen to her, and it&amp;#039;s really not talked about.&amp;quot;  As investigators dig deeper into the case, they continue to discover unreported incidents of violent behavior by Huguely \u2013 but not one was reported by Love.   &amp;quot;There are lines that should never be crossed,&amp;quot; says Dr. Saltz. &amp;quot;There is no reason to push someone. Something like that will happen, like grabbing an arm, getting in your face in a menacing way, and then saying, &amp;#039;you made me do this.&amp;#039; You want to give those lines to your daughter because she is going to hear them and then recognize them as red flags.&amp;quot;  Common warning signs of abusive tendencies include controlling, isolating behavior, wanting to know where a woman is and who she is with at all times, and being excessively critical and jealous.   &amp;quot;It&amp;#039;s really important to convey to your daughter that jealousy is not loving,&amp;quot; says Saltz. &amp;quot;Possessiveness is not loving, but it&amp;#039;s under the guise of, &amp;#039;I&amp;#039;m so crazy about you.&amp;#039; Unfortunately, often a girl is in too deep before she recognizes what&amp;#039;s going on.&amp;quot;  Perhaps that was the case with Yeardley Love \u2013 or maybe she did recognize what was going on, but was too ashamed or too afraid to ask for help. Her death is a tragedy \u2013 but it is an opportunity to talk to your daughter, your sister, and your friends so that, if and when they ever experiences domestic violence, they are not afraid to save themselves.   \u2013\u2013Brooke Nevils, Assistant Editor  "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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