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"  I&amp;#039;m in a relationship with an older guy (like nine years older than me). I care about him a lot and I know that we feel the same way about each other. The thing is that our whole relationship started off as a one-night-stand type of thing about two years ago. Do you think there&amp;#039;s hope for us really sticking together? Of course there&amp;#039;s hope. Plenty of one-night stands turn into solid relationships, so don&amp;#039;t be ashamed: You were attracted to each other, you went for it \u2014 and then you actually ended up caring for each other. How great is that? A one-night stand is only something to worry about when you&amp;#039;re doing that walk of shame because you made a mistake. It sounds like you hit the jackpot. After all, isn&amp;#039;t a long-term relationship basically what happens when you keep wanting to have that one-night stand over and over again? Good luck. My boyfriend used to have phone sex with his ex all the time, but I am terrible at it and don&amp;#039;t even know where to start. He doesn&amp;#039;t pressure me, but I want to be able to do that with him. I just don&amp;#039;t know how. Any tips? I&amp;#039;m not big on phone sex, either. I just start laughing. But I admire your curiosity and brave, exploratory, can-do spirit. It&amp;#039;s courageous Americans like you who make this country great. So I&amp;#039;ve talked to a few friends and I have a suggestion for you: Why not warm up with some sexting? If you&amp;#039;re just typing, you don&amp;#039;t have to worry about striking the right husky-voiced intonation (if there is such a thing) or laughing (because, come on, it&amp;#039;s ridiculous) or someone overhearing you (you can even multitask at work!). If you start to say something that makes you feel awkward, you can just delete it before you hit send. Then, maybe think of it like dancing: He&amp;#039;s been samba-ing with his cell phone for years. And you feel like you&amp;#039;ve got two left feet. So just step on the floor and let him take the lead. To stomp this metaphor to death, remember that this isn&amp;#039;t a dance competition (or a poetry slam, for that matter). You&amp;#039;re not being graded or judged. And it&amp;#039;s all leading in a direction that I&amp;#039;m sure your boyfriend will very much appreciate. It&amp;#039;s the dirty thought that counts. Need more specific advice? I don&amp;#039;t have it. But luckily, for both of us, my colleagues here at Cosmopolitan.com have compiled this guide: How to Have Phone Sex. Enjoy. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year. We used to spend every single day together, and the days we were apart would be horrible, so he asked me to move in, and I did. We used to have sex very often, but when I moved in, we stopped having sex as often. I would try to get him in the mood, but he would just tell me to stop. I&amp;#039;ve caught him watching porn and he just tells me he was bored and decided to watch it. He also doesn&amp;#039;t want to cuddle anymore. If I hug him when we&amp;#039;re in bed, he tells me to move over &amp;#039;cause it&amp;#039;s hot or gives me other excuses. He also likes to drink (daily), and I noticed he drinks a little more since I moved in. I feel like we aren&amp;#039;t connected like before. Why the sudden change of attitude? He makes me feel unwanted and it makes me sad, and anything gets me in a bad mood and we end up arguing. I don&amp;#039;t know what to do. I&amp;#039;m sorry to hear that things are so rough. It sounds like you started off with high hopes, moving in together. And now it sounds like he&amp;#039;s retreating into porn and alcohol and self-pitying solitude. It&amp;#039;s so hard to see something like that coming. And it must feel wretched to see this guy who you cared about so much shutting you out. So you moved in together before you really knew this side of him. You took a gamble \u2014 and that&amp;#039;s great, but it sounds to me like it just didn&amp;#039;t work out. Sometimes, you just never know what a person&amp;#039;s like until they really relax and reveal their true selves. That&amp;#039;s the great and scary thing about moving in together: It magnifies chemistry, for better or worse. There&amp;#039;s just no escaping each other; it&amp;#039;s near-impossible to fake the funk. It&amp;#039;s been a year and he&amp;#039;s already acting like this? That worries me. I obviously don&amp;#039;t know your situation well enough to understand why you fell for him in the first place, but based on your letter, it seems to me like you should consider getting out of there. He&amp;#039;s taking you for granted, drinking too much, and, most important \u2014 pulling away. Like everybody, you deserve to be with someone who&amp;#039;s really with you, when you&amp;#039;re together. When you&amp;#039;re not living with someone, a relationship can just peter out. But fighting or falling out of love when you&amp;#039;re living together gets ugly and painful. Your question was, &amp;quot;Why the sudden change of attitude?&amp;quot; And I don&amp;#039;t know the answer. But maybe that&amp;#039;s not the question you should be asking, anyway. You could try to psychoanalyze him until you get to the root of his problems, but knowing why he&amp;#039;s being such a lousy boyfriend won&amp;#039;t necessarily change anything. You don&amp;#039;t have to fix him, just because you moved in with him. And your day-to-day life doesn&amp;#039;t have to be that hard. So maybe the question you should be asking, instead, is, &amp;quot;Why am I still here?&amp;quot; Being single isn&amp;#039;t so bad, you know. In any case, it sounds like you&amp;#039;re already alone. Do you have a question about sex or relationships for Logan? Submit it here. Follow Logan on Twitter. Photo Credit: Universal "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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