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" After my boyfriend and I have sex, he always rushes to put his underwear back on. How can I get him to enjoy the moment and cuddle naked with me? Wait a second, I&amp;amp;#146;m a little confused: Is he rushing to put his shorts back on and then cuddling with you, or is he rushing to put his shorts on and avoiding the cuddle altogether?  If it&amp;amp;#146;s the latter, he&amp;amp;#146;s what I call an up-and-outer: As soon as sex is over, he&amp;amp;#146;s basically up and out of there. This could be because he has a lot on his mind and doesn&amp;amp;#146;t know how to relax and enjoy the afterglow. Or, it could mean that he&amp;amp;#146;s not as into the relationship as you think he is: he&amp;amp;#146;s into going to bed with you, but not staying there. If that&amp;amp;#146;s the case, tell him that you&amp;amp;#146;d like to snuggle and feel close post-sex. That&amp;amp;#146;s hardly an outrageous request, so if he can&amp;amp;#146;t &amp;amp;#151; or won&amp;amp;#146;t &amp;amp;#151; comply, he&amp;amp;#146;s probably not worth your time anyway.   But, let&amp;amp;#146;s assume that he is into cuddling, and he just has this strange habit of rushing to put his boxers on after the deed. Let me reassure you that it&amp;amp;#146;s not as strange as you think. More than likely, it&amp;amp;#146;s a personal hygiene issue. Post-sex, many guys feel wet, sticky, and uncomfortable and want to &amp;amp;#147;clean up their junk.&amp;amp;#148; And if he was wearing a condom, he&amp;amp;#146;s going to want to get it off pronto and towel down. Once he&amp;amp;#146;s out of bed, he slips on his underwear before slipping back between the sheets because it makes him feel cleaner, or maybe he just doesn&amp;amp;#146;t want to get stuck on a wet spot.   It&amp;amp;#146;s also possible that your man has body-image issues. Some guys like to have sex while wearing a T-shirt because they&amp;amp;#146;re self-conscious about their man boobs or their weight, for example. Perhaps your guy puts his shorts back on because he&amp;amp;#146;s insecure about his penis size. It&amp;amp;#146;s one thing to let you see him when he&amp;amp;#146;s erect, but he might feel like a shriveled-up cocktail frank after ejaculation.   A third possibility, albeit a remote one: He&amp;amp;#146;s faking it and doesn&amp;amp;#146;t want you to see that he still has an erection, hence the cover-up. Yes, men can fake it (often when they&amp;amp;#146;re stressed out or on medication, like antidepressants, that makes it difficult to orgasm).   My advice: Don&amp;amp;#146;t push him for an explanation. Next time he comes back to bed in his boxers, put your hand down there, fondle his penis, and tell him how much you love touching him, and how good he feels. Then, let him know that you&amp;amp;#146;d prefer it if he&amp;amp;#146;d snuggle up with you sans shorts, and that cuddling with him naked would make you feel more connected.  If you still can&amp;amp;#146;t convince him to keep his shorts on, forget about the underwear and focus on the cuddle. After all, wearing his boxers to bed is hardly a fatal flaw. As long as he acts like a loving, caring boyfriend, don&amp;amp;#146;t let a little fabric come between the two of you. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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