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" Question Having recently become engaged in a new relationship after being widowed for many years, I find no difficulty in obtaining and retaining an erection, but sometimes find I am unable to come to any conclusion.  This is wonderful for my partner, as she can and does enjoy multiple orgasms, but a mutual orgasm would be welcome.   Answer David writes: Mutual (simultaneous) orgasm is much more unusual than people think, and at age 76, it&amp;#039;s quite rare.  However, at your age you should be able to reach an orgasm &amp;amp;#8211; and it&amp;amp;#8217;s clear that some of the time, you do. Admittedly, recent research does show that in the over-60s, it is often the case that a guy makes love for half an hour or so &amp;amp;#8211; and then decides that he&amp;amp;#8217;s not going to get there today.  In these circumstances, it&amp;amp;#8217;s often best to say &amp;amp;#8216;I&amp;amp;#8217;ll finish off tomorrow, darling &amp;amp;#8230;&amp;amp;#8217;  In any case, you should see your doctor for a check-up and possibly some tests.  The doctor can also tell you whether any medication which you are taking may be interfering with orgasm; that&amp;amp;#8217;s quite common. The best of luck to you. Christine adds: You might be interested to know that there is an article on this site called retarded ejaculation.  This was actually written rather more with men in mind who had long-term problems in this area &amp;amp;#8211; and it sounds as if you never had this difficulty before &amp;amp;#8211; but it might still be of some interest to you.  The other thing I was wondering is whether you possibly have some residue of guilt &amp;amp;#8211; as many widowed people do have &amp;amp;#8211; about making love to someone other than your long term marriage partner.  If this is the case, there may be something in your mind that is resisting your natural urge to let go and experience great pleasure.  If this is happening to you, I&amp;#039;m sure it will disappear given time.  But it might help to remember that your late wife would almost certainly be delighted to know that you have found comfort and companionship after several years of being alone.  Best wishes. Yours sincerely Dr David Delvin, GP and Christine Webber, sex and relationships expert   Other Qs &amp;amp; As Can I take Cialis for my erection probem &amp;amp;#8211; even though I suffer from high blood pressure? Can men who have erectile dysfunction get erections when they masturbate? Does my older husband have ED? Erectile problems due to excessive anxiety Erectile problems since our baby woke us up Erection after circumcision operation Erection difficulties at 33 Getting back to spontaneous lovemaking after ED I always lose my erection before intercourse I am a diabetic man, and unable to get an erection I am an 18 year old male, and can&amp;#039;t get a proper erection I can&amp;amp;#8217;t get an erection during sexual intercourse I don&amp;#039;t understand why I can&amp;#039;t get an erection anymore I &amp;amp;#8216;go soft&amp;amp;#8217; with my new girlfriend I have a willing lady, but I can&amp;amp;#8217;t get an erection when I need to I have erectile dysfunction at 20 years of age &amp;amp;#8211; should I see a doctor? I&amp;amp;#8217;ve never managed to get a good enough erection I lose my erection when I put on a condom I&amp;#039;m 27 and suffering from erectile dysfunction Impotence after bladder surgery Is my man&amp;amp;#8217;s impotence due to condoms? Is my medication making me impotent? Is my partner&amp;amp;#8217;s impotence a result of his chemotherapy? Is my problem &amp;amp;#8216;performance anxiety&amp;amp;#8217;? Is my vasectomy the cause of my failure to get an erection? My boyfriend blames his impotence on not being attracted to me My husband has erection problems &amp;amp;#8211; but won&amp;#039;t visit his doctor My loving and sensitive man suffers from impotence My partner just can&amp;#039;t maintain his erection Other than my GP who can I see for my erection problems? Other ways of getting an erection Should I take Viagra tablets? Viagra and the beta-blocker atenolol Viagra is not helping me overcome my stroke   Last updated 02.03.2011 "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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