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"Maybe it&amp;#x27;s unfair, but here at Smitten we think that sometimes couples get into fights because guys can be real babies about stuff. And I know when I encounter a guy acting immature, it&amp;#x27;s my immediate instinct to snap back in an equally non-calm, non-adult manner. But per the old saying, two wrong babies don&amp;#x27;t make a right adult. Or something like that. We all, men and women alike, have our snippy teenager moments with our significant others, but if you can resist sinking to the lowered maturity level of your boyfriend when he&amp;#x27;s grumpy, you can avoid about 50 percent of your fights. (OK, we admit it, the other 50 percent are when we&amp;#x27;re the one being the babies. Well, maybe 60/40.) Here are a few scenarios where a typical guy might not be on his most grown-up behavior. You don&amp;#x27;t have to let him get away with bad behavior, but adjusting the tone of your response might save the situation: He says: &amp;quot;Babe, do we really have to go to this party tonight?&amp;quot; You want to say: &amp;quot;Oh my God, you always do this an hour before we have plans with my friends. It&amp;#x27;s so annoying!&amp;quot; You should say: &amp;quot;I know you had a long day, but it&amp;#x27;s going to be really fun, and it&amp;#x27;s been a while since we had a night out together. I really want to be with you tonight.&amp;quot; Note: Try not to snap at him, which never gets anybody anywhere, but don&amp;#x27;t start by saying, &amp;quot;We don&amp;#x27;t have to go if you don&amp;#x27;t want to&amp;quot; or &amp;quot;If it gets boring, we&amp;#x27;ll leave early!&amp;quot; If you concede right away, even a little bit, he might insist on bailing, and you&amp;#x27;ll end up feeling resentful. Instead, make sure he knows this is important to you and that should make him more likely to buck up. He says: &amp;quot;So, what are we even going to do there?&amp;quot; (of the vacation you&amp;#x27;ve spent hours arranging) You want to say: &amp;quot;I booked all the hotels and found the flight deals, and now I have to be the tour guide too?! I might as well go on this trip by myself!&amp;quot; You should say: &amp;quot;Anything we want! What sounds fun to you? You should call the hotel and ask if there are local surfing lessons since you&amp;#x27;ve always wanted to learn. Here&amp;#x27;s the number.&amp;quot; Note: For whatever reason, my friends and I have found that guys can be really annoying about planning vacations or outings, even if you&amp;#x27;re the one doing most of the work. Maybe they&amp;#x27;re worried about the significance of traveling together, or maybe they just don&amp;#x27;t want to give up a day of sitting on the couch, preferably in their underwear, unless there&amp;#x27;s a solid plan. We may never know. But instead of either a) yelling at him or b) just taking on all the planning yourself to make everything perfect and ending up furious when he&amp;#x27;s not into your parasailing plans, push him to get involved in the plans so you&amp;#x27;ll both have stuff to look forward to. He says: &amp;quot;You spent how much on that bag?! Don&amp;#x27;t you already have like five purses anyway? That&amp;#x27;s ridiculous.&amp;quot; You want to say: &amp;quot;Oh, and you really needed to see the Mets lose in person for the 857th time, just like you really needed another pair of those hideous sneakers I hate, you hypocrite!&amp;quot; You should say: &amp;quot;I decided to treat myself since I&amp;#x27;ve been working so hard, and I had a little extra overtime money to do it. I really love it.&amp;quot; Note: We all think the way we choose to spend our money is more important than the way anyone else does. So don&amp;#x27;t even attempt to justify to your guy the reasons you really needed a black bag with gold accents because your practically identical black bag with silver accents just doesn&amp;#x27;t look right sometimes, because he&amp;#x27;ll just get more judgmental. (I mean, we get it, but he won&amp;#x27;t.) Just remind him that you&amp;#x27;re a big girl who can afford to make splurges on stuff you like, the same way he does, and you don&amp;#x27;t even need to get defensive about that. How do you handle moments when your guy is driving you nuts? Do you tell him off or try to keep everyone calm?"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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