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"Somehow, I had the great fortune of reading YourTango&amp;#x27;s &amp;quot;Can Powerful Women Find Love&amp;quot; about five minutes before I read an article in The Onion (not yet available online) about the evolution of a romantic relationship into a mother-son symbiosis. Effective articles from The Onion are farcically expository but contain an recognizable truth at their core (some people call that satire, but some people are far smarter than I am). The intersection of the two pieces is this: having needs and being needed are normal.For our purposes, let&amp;#x27;s shelve the genetic (and historical) penchant for women to be caregivers. Let&amp;#x27;s get down to brass tacks (plus brass tax and brass tachs): part of being in a pair is providing something that you can&amp;#x27;t get on your own (obviously too many to enumerate but let&amp;#x27;s say security for women and someone to shave their backs for men). Most healthy humans crave companionship (&amp;quot;crave&amp;quot; might be a touch strong). True loners appear dangerous and have a tendency to purchase cabins, grow beards (women too), compile lists and send explosives via mail to people on those lists. Some &amp;quot;powerful women&amp;quot; struggle to find dudes not because they are intimidated by them but because these women feel expressing an iota of &amp;quot;neediness&amp;quot; is tantamount to weakness. I appreciate that the workplace tightrope accomplished women walk (between Polly Prissy Pants and Betty Ball-Buster) makes earnestly dating dicey. But there comes a time to put (some) childish things aside and admit no man (woman) is an island because most of the human condition is about interaction. I&amp;#x27;ve heard a number of women saying that they want what they want, not what they need, and I think that&amp;#x27;s a really good way to get nothing. It&amp;#x27;s true that needing anything at any time tips the balance of power towards the provider but that supply-demand dynamic is applicable to almost all of our experiences. A little swallowed pride sometimes goes a very long way. The bottom line is that some level of neediness (interdependence not codependence, cookie) is crucial to the survival of any relationship. It&amp;#x27;s up to your best judgment to determine how needy is appropriately needy. Here&amp;#x27;s a quick guide: if your fish just died it&amp;#x27;s not OK to ask him to skip his best friend&amp;#x27;s bachelor party. If you&amp;#x27;ve had a colossally bad day, it&amp;#x27;s cool to want to be held and told how great you are*. And if you have a feral badger in your bedroom, it&amp;#x27;s OK to ask him to help you barricade yourselves in the bathroom until animal control gets there. At some point, he may ask you, in return, to remind him that he has a doctor&amp;#x27;s appointment. *Note: &amp;quot;Colossally bad&amp;quot; is relative and should not happen frequently: e.g. losing the Catalina Wine Mixer account is a bad day, waiting in line at the DMV for 45 minutes is not (unless there was a robbery). --Written by Tom Miller for YourTango.com More from YourTango: -Relationship Advice: Everyone Is A Little Jealous -Top 5 Bedroom Mood-Killers -Inner Beauty: What Men Don&amp;#x27;t Tell You Photo: iStock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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