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"What&amp;#x27;s a bridesmaid to do? Writes Save the Date reader Dara: I&amp;#x27;m a bridesmaid in a wedding next summer and I really want to help the bride make her wedding awesome&amp;amp;#8212;but the maid of honor is a complete nightmare. First of all, the bride sent us all five bridesmaid dresses to choose from, but the MOH refuses to pick. Then she complained to the bride that she hasn&amp;#x27;t been asked for her opinions on the wedding often enough. (Huh? It&amp;#x27;s not HER day!) I tried to go to dinner with her and it was the most painful evening ever. Then I e-mailed and offered to help plan the shower and bachelorette party, but I never heard back. The bride warned me that the MOH wants to be the center of attention at all times. I&amp;#x27;m worried that she&amp;#x27;s going to do horrible job planning&amp;amp;#8212;but I don&amp;#x27;t know if there&amp;#x27;s anything I can do to help! The bride tried talking to her MOH but isn&amp;#x27;t feeling any better about the situation. She asked me for advice, but the only thing I could think to say was, &amp;quot;I would&amp;#x27;ve kicked her out of my wedding by now!&amp;quot; We recently found out that this MOH actually was kicked out of a wedding in the past! I&amp;#x27;d like to help my friend, but I&amp;#x27;m not sure what I can do without sending the MOH into a tailspin! Help! Here are my thoughts: I think if you want to do anything at this point, you&amp;#x27;re going to have to be pretty aggressive. First, I&amp;#x27;d tell the bride to e-mail everyone and say, &amp;quot;I&amp;#x27;d like to have everyone order her bridesmaid dresses by the end of next week. Please let me know what dress you&amp;#x27;d like to wear. If I don&amp;#x27;t hear from everyone, I&amp;#x27;ll go with the majority, so if you care, send a vote!&amp;quot; Then you could send a similar e-mail saying something like, &amp;quot;We need to get together to start planning the shower and bachelorette parties! Here are four dates that work for me. Let me know which of those dates works for you guys. I know it might be hard to find a date that works for ALL of us, but if there&amp;#x27;s one that works for most of us, let&amp;#x27;s get together and start planning, then try to meet with everyone in a month.&amp;quot; If the maid of honor ignores both e-mails, I&amp;#x27;d say you and the bride are free to proceed with dress selection and party planning without her. I&amp;#x27;m sure the maid of honor will pout and/or pitch a fit, but the wedding can&amp;#x27;t be put on hold because of a one non-responsive &amp;#x27;maid&amp;amp;#8212;even if she is the maid of honor. From there, I&amp;#x27;d say just keep your interactions with her to a minimum but do your best to be polite when you do cross paths. Any drama will definitely get back to the bride&amp;amp;#8212;and I&amp;#x27;m sure she has more important things to think about right now! Ladies, what do you think? How should Dara deal with the nustso MOH? Should she confront her? Say nothing? What would you do in her shoes? Have a wedding dilemma of your own? Click here to e-mail me! More reader&amp;amp;#8217;s dilemmas, solved! * &amp;amp;#8220;Help! I&amp;amp;#8217;m in a Serious Funk!&amp;amp;#8221; * Have You Ever Had a Pregnancy Scare? * &amp;amp;#8220;Um, My Boyfriend&amp;amp;#8217;s Parents Walk Around Half-Naked. Weird?&amp;amp;#8221; Photo: Thinkstock "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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