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" You&amp;#039;re hot, you&amp;#039;re fun, you have a cool job and a big circle of friends \u2014 in other words, you&amp;#039;re the whole package. Then why the hell can&amp;#039;t you meet a guy? &amp;quot;Often, women subconsciously give off &amp;#039;keep away&amp;#039; signals,&amp;quot; says psychotherapist Rhonda Findling, author of The Dating Cure. Well, we&amp;#039;ve pinpointed some of the mistakes you might be making and found ways for you to remedy the situation ASAP. You hang with a big group of girls. When going on a manhunt, you may feel better bringing backup. Problem is, surrounding yourself with a posse makes you unapproachable. &amp;quot;It&amp;#039;s intimidating for a guy,&amp;quot; says Findling. &amp;quot;He&amp;#039;s afraid of being rejected in front of an audience.&amp;quot; To make yourself available, go out with just one wingwoman or separate from the crew and work the room solo.  How many times have you found yourself saying, &amp;quot;Ugh, there are no cute guys here&amp;quot;? And yet, the following week, you&amp;#039;re back at the same bar, with the same people, saying the same thing. &amp;quot;Well, if you want to find a great catch, you should venture outside of your comfort zone,&amp;quot; says New York City psychologist and life coach Janice D. Bennett, PhD. The next time a pal invites you to a film class or suggests you hit karaoke night at some dive, give it a shot.  When you&amp;#039;re eyeing a sexy stud and some so-so dude starts chatting you up, you&amp;#039;re probably tempted to blow him off. But that could backfire. &amp;quot;If the object of your affection sees you acting rude, he&amp;#039;ll move on to a girl who isn&amp;#039;t as bitchy,&amp;quot; warns Findling. Not only that, but the B-list boy could actually turn out to be cool. So unless he acts like a sleaze, give the guy a break and talk to him. If he still leaves you cold, politely excuse yourself and move on.  You whine about how hard it is to meet a man, yet you veto any friend who tries to hook you up and you won&amp;#039;t even try online dating. &amp;quot;You need to open yourself up to any opportunity,&amp;quot; says Bennett. &amp;quot;Spread the word that you want to be set up.&amp;quot; And at least log on to a dating site and see who&amp;#039;s out there. If you click with a guy, great; if not, you don&amp;#039;t even have to endure a bad blind date.  It&amp;#039;s fine that you want to meet someone, but you don&amp;#039;t want to be so obvious about it. &amp;quot;Men can sense desperation,&amp;quot; warns psychotherapist Katherine Woodward Thomas, author of Calling in &amp;quot;The One.&amp;quot; &amp;quot;Most guys will steer clear of a girl they think is dying for a boyfriend.&amp;quot; In addition, being on a man-finding mission can make you self-conscious. &amp;quot;You become so fixated on how you look and act that you can&amp;#039;t enjoy yourself,&amp;quot; says Findling. The goal should be to have fun, not meet guys. The irony: Your laid-back vibe will attract men anyway. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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