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" Question The other day my employer suggested I get some help with my anger.  I am not sure if I have a problem but I do lose my temper very easily, mostly for no reason at all.  Several hours later after losing my temper at something or someone I will be even madder at myself for losing it and will tell myself what a loser or worthless person I am.  Maybe I am just a big baby that can&amp;#039;tt deal with things when they don&amp;#039;t go my way?  Anger and sadness are the only emotions that I feel.  I am very withdrawn and after work just come home and watch TV then go the bed.  The other week at a company meeting there where no chairs available in the back, the only ones available where in the front.  I always try to be where I will not be noticed. I could not handle this so I just snuck out and went home.  I am very shy and have not had a relationship in over 10 years &amp;amp;#8211; could this be why I am so angry and sad?  I have a few friends and once a month or so I will go out, but mostly I prefer to stay home and be by myself.  Sometimes at work I think people are talking about me. Or, they are not giving me certain tasks or taking some of my tasks away and giving them to others because they think I cannot handle any more stress, or they think I would lose my temper with a client.  I am always checking out what task other employees are getting to see if this is true and it never is.  I think about suicide but do not have the guts to do it. When I go to bed I hope that I do not wake up and just die of natural causes and go to a better place. Am I a mean person, spoiled brat, too weak to handle daily stress, hypochondriac or schizophrenic?    Answer First of all you are not weak, you are not a hypochondriac nor are you a schizophrenic.  You have done amazingly well coping for so long without much support or help.  Very few people could have coped with the kind of emotions which you have endured and this is why you are actually strong, sane, but in much need of some help.  The overwhelming emotions you feel are anger and sadness, which is hardly surprising as you conduct most of your working and social life in isolation and find it difficult to form relationships.  In fact because you find it difficult to communicate with others you have deliberately avoided going out with friends and withdraw into the background wherever possible, simply because it is easier.  But this is self-perpetuating because the more you hide away, the less skilled you become at making friends, and the greater the barrier you put in front of you to making any necessary changes.  Your few friends cannot help you unless you are with them and your low self-esteem and high level of self-criticism is contributing to your paranoia.  It must be awful to think about suicide and think that dying of natural causes is better than enjoying life on a daily basis.  Your anger and sadness is emanating from a degree of depression and lack of confidence. Your life could be changed for the better with some expert psychotherapy.  You need to discover why you feel worthless, why you find it hard to inter-relate with other people and what has knocked your self-confidence so much in the past.  Once you have done that you can devise strategies with your therapist as to how to overcome these problems and begin to socialize more effectively.  Your friends could help you if you tell them how and entering a relationship would work wonders for your happiness and self-esteem.  Your working relationships and your social life would improve immeasurably and you would also find that, without even thinking about it, your temper outbursts and anger would dissolve automatically. All of this is possible, albeit over several weeks or months.  You can make these changes, so please contact your doctor as soon as possible and arrange that referral either on the NHS or privately for the help that you need.  Yours sincerely The NetDoctor Medical Team   Other Qs &amp;amp; As Adult bed-wetting Am I paranoid? Bad behaviour and serotonin levels Can a urinary infection affect an older person&amp;#039;s mental state? Can hypnotherapy cure my weight problem? Could this be Tourette&amp;#039;s syndrome? Dizzy and exhausted Have I been hallucinating? How can conquer dieting inertia? How can I combat my PMT? How can I kick the nail-biting habit? How can I make myself taller? 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