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" I&amp;#039;m about to admit something that I feel super guilty and terrible about -- I don&amp;#039;t miss Sarah. I was talking to Ben about her yesterday, and he asked me a question that got me thinking: &amp;quot;If you were meeting Sarah for the first time today, do you think you would become friends?&amp;quot;  I didn&amp;#039;t have to think hard about the answer to that question. It&amp;#039;s &amp;quot;no.&amp;quot; What I did have to think hard about, though, was when, exactly, that became my answer. And it made me realize that Sarah&amp;#039;s and my relationship has been unraveling in seemingly insignificant, barely noticeable ways for a really long time.  Sometimes you&amp;#039;re friends with someone forever out of habit. Like Marni -- we have an easygoing, comfortable relationship that comes from years of knowing each other. But I think where my relationship with Marni differs is that, while both she and I have changed and grown (and in some cases, regressed, and yes, I&amp;#039;m talking about me) over time, we still have enough common ground to keep our relationship alive.  I don&amp;#039;t think it&amp;#039;s a case of Sarah being changed by a little bit of fame, exactly. And I don&amp;#039;t even think it&amp;#039;s a case of her becoming someone I don&amp;#039;t like. I think it&amp;#039;s just two people who grew too far apart to find that common ground, which I think resulted in frustration for both of us. Hers manifested itself in being bossy with me, and mine in pulling away from her emotionally.  The weirdest thing? How much all of these realizations hurt. It&amp;#039;s like being in a long-term relationship with someone, and when you realize you just aren&amp;#039;t in love with them anymore, you&amp;#039;re the one with the broken heart. I called Jenna last night, and we talked about it a little bit.  &amp;quot;It happens, K.,&amp;quot; she said. &amp;quot;We outgrow people sometimes. It sucks, but we do.&amp;quot; She told me a story about her best friend in middle and high school, Ally. When Jenna went away to college, Ally bummed around for a bit, trying to decide what she wanted to do with her life. When she got pregnant, life made the decision for her, and she got married and became a stay-at-home mother. &amp;quot;We still emailed and talked on the phone constantly, and when I went home for the holidays, we&amp;#039;d hang out, and it was like no time had passed. When she finally decided to come visit me at school, though, it was awful. It was awkward, and we were just in such different places in our lives, and had such different experiences that we couldn&amp;#039;t relate to each other at all. And then once she was gone, I realized how many cracks there had been in our friendship leading up to that. We stopped talking shortly thereafter -- not because we hated each other or anything, but because we just didn&amp;#039;t have anything to say to each other anymore.&amp;quot; I don&amp;#039;t know what any of this means for me and Sarah, but I&amp;#039;m sad. On the bright side, Ally and Jenna are now Facebook friends, and occasionally they like each other&amp;#039;s status updates, so I guess I have something to look forward to. That was sarcasm, by the way. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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