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"Delayed gratification can supposedly be a good thing, right? I think so. But can too much delay and a whole lot of anticipation actually ruin a hookup before it even has a chance? Well, it did seem to work for these two... Here&amp;#x27;s where the question arose from: A friend of mine was recently telling me that a guy she&amp;#x27;s had a crush on for years is now single. They&amp;#x27;ve never hooked up, since they both had significant others for some or all of the time they&amp;#x27;ve known each other, but they&amp;#x27;ve always had a flirtatious relationship. Plus, he&amp;#x27;s hot. Now that he&amp;#x27;s single, she&amp;#x27;s all, &amp;quot;We definitely need to hook up now.&amp;quot; (I mean, in her mind. She&amp;#x27;s not going to be that obvious about it to him.) Helpful responses from her friends, including me? &amp;quot;This has been years in the making; it&amp;#x27;s basically doomed,&amp;quot; and &amp;quot;Welp, there is no way this won&amp;#x27;t be a let down!&amp;quot; Ha, so supportive, right? It&amp;#x27;s not that we don&amp;#x27;t think she should go for it; it&amp;#x27;s just that she&amp;#x27;s obviously been drooling over the idea for years, so there&amp;#x27;s a good chance it would never live up to expectations. It will be like the New Year&amp;#x27;s Eve of hookups&amp;amp;mdash;you know, you plan it for a month and pick the sparkliest outfit, and it&amp;#x27;s going to be THE MOST FUN NIGHT EVER, only it ends up being meh at best and a waste of that dress? On the guy&amp;#x27;s side of the question, I once made a boyfriend wait a pretty long time before anything physical happened with us. He didn&amp;#x27;t complain, so in turn, I didn&amp;#x27;t complain when our first time lasted about four seconds. Ha! Another issue with delayed gratification, but one that&amp;#x27;s easy to laugh at and to fix. Have you ever had a hookup you&amp;#x27;d be dreaming about for a long time? Did it live up to expectations or totally disappoint? Wait for it.... *Sex Tips: A Chatty Way to Build Anticipation *How Long Do You Wait For the Spark To Develop? Here Are My 4 Rules; What Are Yours? *Call Me Old-Fashioned, but I Think You Should Wait at Least Three Dates to&amp;amp;#133;You Know"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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