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" Unless you&amp;#039;ve been living under a rock, you know that Tiger Woods and Lindsey Vonn are officially a thing. The first thought that entered our minds\u2014after wondering, why the heck a couple would release professional Sears-esque photos to announce their coupledom?\u2014was: How did Vonn knowingly enter into a relationship with a notorious cheater and womanizer? (I&amp;#039;d ask the same question of really every single woman who&amp;#039;s dated John Mayer.) Clearly, Vonn&amp;#039;s not the first to do this. Celebrities&amp;#039; scandalous pasts are smeared across the tabloids, and yet, their love lives continue to thrive. But it&amp;#039;s not just in Hollywood. Many of us encounter some degree of unfaithfulness in our relationships. Is it possible to trust a once-cheater or former womanizer? We asked psychologist Kenneth McGuire, Psy.D., Director of the Institute for Sex Therapy, about how to protect your heart\u2014and your body\u2014when you&amp;#039;re dating a guy who&amp;#039;s been known to have wandering eyes. 1. Take it slow. The only surefire way is to take it slow and steady and let time build up so you can feel trust in the other person that they&amp;#039;re not going to cheat on you. If someone cheated on you in your current relationship, talk with a therapist about how to reestablish trust. 2. Clarify where he&amp;#039;s coming from If he&amp;#039;s being honest about his past and offering the steps he&amp;#039;s taking to not fall in the same trap, it&amp;#039;s a good sign he&amp;#039;s open and that he&amp;#039;ll be honest with you in this relationship. That said, if he&amp;#039;s simply stating the fact that he cheated in the past, it can also be a head&amp;#039;s up like, &amp;quot;This is who I am, I&amp;#039;m a cheater.&amp;quot; Listen to what he&amp;#039;s trying to tell you. 3. Don&amp;#039;t be afraid to ask questions... Make sure that his history is something that can be discussed openly. If he completely puts up a wall, that&amp;#039;s a sign the relationship might not be safe to invest in. If he&amp;#039;s willing to talk about it, that&amp;#039;s a good sign. 4. But don&amp;#039;t ask too many? You probably don&amp;#039;t want as much information about his past as you think you do. Decide what&amp;#039;s pertinent before broaching the conversation. Emotions run high when you&amp;#039;re talking about this sort of thing, so it&amp;#039;s a bad time to figure out what you need to know versus what you don&amp;#039;t need to know. 5. Understand why he strayed Get a sense of why he went outside his last relationship. A person who has been unfaithful should have good awareness of why he did it and what was really up with his last relationship. If he can&amp;#039;t offer an explanation, that&amp;#039;s a good sign he hasn&amp;#039;t gotten over it. 6. Be aware of your own paranoia Be honest with yourself about your own insecurities that have crept up in previous relationships. Sure, you absolutely have a reason to be on high alert in the beginning of your relationship if your guy cheated in the past. But if you&amp;#039;re always going to be wondering if he&amp;#039;s still sleeping around, and won&amp;#039;t be able to trust this guy, you should probably let him go sooner than later. 7. Get tested When you start to feel like this is a monogamous relationship and that you&amp;#039;ll become exclusive sexual partners, that&amp;#039;s a good time for you both to get tested and share your results. Don&amp;#039;t ever stop using a condom with the hope that it will deepen your connection.  Want more from Jessica? Follow her on Twitter. Credit: Tiger Woods/Lindsey Vonn "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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