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"How we end relationships is always a difficult question, especially when you want to keep a part of it active, like this reader does: Dear Single John, I started sleeping with a guy from work about a month ago. Neither of us is looking for a commitment, but it&amp;#x27;s to the point where it&amp;#x27;s pretty much a relationship. I have a toothbrush, toiletries and a change of clothes at his apartment. I&amp;#x27;ve done his laundry. We spend four or so nights a week and the weekend together. I move states away in a few months and I&amp;#x27;m not ready to stop sleeping with him. How do I bring up that we need to distance ourselves from each other without making him think that I want us to stop sleeping with each other? Every time I&amp;#x27;ve tried to bring the subject up it just ends poorly. Someone wants her cake and to eat it too, which is, I admit, delicious, but also impossible. If he&amp;amp;#8217;s attached to you to the point where he doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t want to just sleep with you, you need to accept that and maybe be happy that he&amp;amp;#8217;s a real dude and not someone who was just in it for the sex. But you get props for trying to talk to him about it. That&amp;amp;#8217;s the right thing to do. He seems to want to play pretend and ignore the fact that you are leaving, which is what many of us did at the end of college (&amp;amp;#8220;let&amp;amp;#8217;s just have fun the next few months and not worry about what happens later!&amp;amp;#8221;), with varying degrees of success. If you&amp;amp;#8217;ve tried, and he&amp;amp;#8217;s the one who doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t want to have the discussion, then you&amp;amp;#8217;ve made the effort and can feel free to start distancing yourself, while keeping the sex, without any guilt. If, on the other hand, he just can&amp;amp;#8217;t handle that situation, and you think it may crush him, you may have to bail. There are a few ways you should NOT go about this: 1. Vanishing into thin air. 2. Becoming increasingly mean to him. 3. Slowly withdrawing yourself from him. Do you have any advice for this reader? Have you ever been in a similar situation? How did it end? Have a question about Dating, Relationships, or Sex for Single John? Submit it here. Can be totally Anonymous! More on Dating at Glamour.com 5 Dating &amp;quot;Sharks&amp;quot; to Avoid Falling Prey To (It&amp;#x27;s Our Version of Shark Week!) Put This Phrase in Your Word Bank: Underwear Money Sex Tip From a Guy: Mirror, Mirror On the Wall More Ways to Get Glamour: NEW! Now You Can Read Glamour on Flipboard! Visit ShopGlamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10! Download Glamour Magazine for your iPad--print subscribers, it&amp;amp;#8217;s now part of your subscription plan! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter. Photo: Thinkstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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