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"    Q: My boyfriend often shares his fantasy with me about us having sex in public, which I realize is a harmless, common fantasy for both males and females. But what disturbs me is that he fantasizes about me intentionally fully exposing (and I do mean fully) my body to these strange men. The cake topper is that he asks me if we can attempt to pull-off the fantasy in reality. Does this preoccupation fall within the normal &amp;quot;guy realm&amp;quot; of sexual behavior, or is it deviant? A:I&amp;#039;m not a sex therapist, but let&amp;#039;s try to work through this using a little common sense. Firstly, I wouldn&amp;#039;t classify his preoccupation as within the &amp;quot;normal guy&amp;quot; realm because I&amp;#039;m not sure a normal guy realm exists. Whether it&amp;#039;s being turned on by old folks, sex machines, or watching your partner with another man, in a world of easy access, anything goes. Guys who watch a lot of porn have grown up in a world where their sexual proclivities have been nurtured and validated online. Fantasies that might have once been a little more taboo are now bargained over and probably even a little expected, and &amp;quot;normal&amp;quot; just doesn&amp;#039;t really mean anything. However, none of that amounts to a hill of beans if what your partner is asking you to do makes you uncomfortable, and frankly that sounds like the case in this situation. But it also sounds like you&amp;#039;re worried that being uncomfortable makes you judgmental or something. In this brave new world of sexual liberation, nobody wants to be the wet blanket or the prude, but seriously, know your boundaries and get comfortable with them, and don&amp;#039;t let yourself get caught up in what you think other people, including your partner, want or expect. You have to let your partner know where you stand by telling him exactly what you&amp;#039;ve written here. Maybe you guys can figure out a compromise where both of you are happy and comfortable. Maybe he understands where you&amp;#039;re coming from and he starts using porn for the way it was intended (as an outlet for fantasies and not as an instruction manual), or maybe it turns out to be a deal breaker and this issue ends your relationship. But unless you communicate with him and figure out exactly what this means to the both you, it&amp;#039;s going to hang over your heads like a cured salami at an Italian deli. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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