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"Fall is often a time associated with heading back to school to start a new academic year. Not so for one reader&amp;amp;#8217;s boyfriend. He&amp;amp;#8217;s decided to drop out of school and it&amp;amp;#8217;s left her very frustrated. Let&amp;amp;#8217;s see if we can help her out this afternoon, shall we? Writes our anonymous reader: I have been dating my boyfriend for almost two years. Honestly, I am head over heels in love with him and I would marry him in the future. The problem is that he refuses to go back to school. This bothers me more than anything since I was raised in a family where college was absolutely necessary and I feel that it&amp;#x27;s such a great and rewarding experience. Aside from the mental benefits, having a degree is a surefire way to secure your future. We&amp;#x27;ve talked about this endlessly and he just gets upset and frustrated, as do I. I&amp;#x27;m at a crossroads right now between breaking up with him because of his lack of passion and motivation. What should I do? And here&amp;amp;#8217;s what I think: Thanks for reaching out, darling. It can be so frustrating when our partners don&amp;amp;#8217;t see eye to eye with us on big issues like this. What&amp;amp;#8217;s the reason&amp;amp;#8212;or reasons&amp;amp;#8212;he&amp;amp;#8217;s decided not to go back to school? You mention he lacks motivation and passion, but could there be another reason? Maybe he&amp;amp;#8217;s having trouble affording his basic expenses (rent, bills, etc) and simply doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t have the cash flow for books and tuition. If this is the case, and if you truly see a future with him, sit down with him to talk about his finances. Offer to help him research financial aid options. Perhaps he could take classes at a community college, which are usually a great deal cheaper than university courses, to figure what exactly he&amp;amp;#8217;s passionate about. Would you be willing to help him out financially while he&amp;#x27;s in school? I value my college education more than I can say, but college isn&amp;amp;#8217;t for everyone. Nor is college the only form of education. If your boyfriend is interested in learning a trade, perhaps suggest he attend trade school or apply to join an apprenticeship program. A good friend of mine bounced from different universities and colleges before deciding that becoming an electrician was what he wanted to do in life. After joining his local union&amp;amp;#8217;s apprentice program, he&amp;amp;#8217;s enrolled in quite a few classes through the union to learn all about the trade. He&amp;amp;#8217;s never been happier or felt more challenged. If he&amp;amp;#8217;s simply not motivated or passionate about anything, sit down with him and have a serious talk about your future together. If he&amp;amp;#8217;s not planning on going to college or learning some sort of marketable skill, how does he plan to contribute to your future household? Through the years, I&amp;amp;#8217;ve seen a number of friends drop out of school because their current jobs pay quite a bit. But remember that what seems like a big salary to a young 22-year-old doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t always look so rosy when you&amp;amp;#8217;ve got more than yourself to support. I&amp;amp;#8217;m sure you&amp;amp;#8217;ve made your case again and again about why college is so important to you, so the next time you talk with him about it, ask him to make a case about why he feels it&amp;amp;#8217;s not necessary. Ask him how he plans on financially contributing to your future together. Ask him what his dreams are and how he plans on achieving them. What do you dolls think our reader should do? Have you ever dealt with a similar situation? Is education an issue that couples need to be on the same page about? A few more dating dilemmas tackled. * Do you wear heels on the first date? * Do cell phones make it okay to be late for dates? * Should you correct his grammar? More Ways to Get Glamour Visit Shopglamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter Add us to your iGoogle homepage Photo: Pixland"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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