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" You and your spouse have tried to salvage your marriage but you realize it&amp;#039;s time to divorce. The step is difficult enough for adults. For children, the thought of seeing their mom and dad split up can be even more frightening and confusing. Their sense of stability can be shaken, their allegiances tested, their psyches scarred. How can you tell your children about a pending divorce in a healthy way? Try these five steps:   Tell your kids Don &amp;#039;t keep the fact that you&amp;#039;re getting a divorce a secret from your children. They&amp;#039;re smarter than you think and will realize soon that a something is afoot.   Don&amp;#039;t wait it out Don&amp;#039;t wait until you&amp;#039;re about to sign the divorce papers to tell them, either. Your kids need time to adjust to the reality that mom and dad won&amp;#039;t be living in the same house anymore and will begin new, separate lives.   Explain as a couple Tell your kids about the divorce together. Mom, don&amp;#039;t tell Johnny on the way to soccer practice, and, dad, don&amp;#039;t tell Jane on the way to a ballet recital. Your children should hear from the two of you together that your marriage is ending and that the relationship between the two you will be different.   Keep the reasons for the divorce simple Don&amp;#039;t delve into past wrongs or grievances. Don&amp;#039;t tell your children that the reason for your divorce is that dad or mom has found someone younger or better.   Explain you love them Tell them that the divorce is upsetting, and it will be sad. They also need to know that despite that you love them and will always be their mom and dad.   Like what you just read? For similar stories, visit the links here:    What Do I Tell the Kids?   5 Signs Your Child Needs Help After Divorce   When Your Kids Want to Live with Your Ex "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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