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"Is THIS the right time to tell your family you&amp;#x27;re expecting? Writes Save the Date reader Kimberly: I recently found out I&amp;#x27;m pregnant with my second child and can&amp;#x27;t wait to share the good news with my extended family. The doctor says we can start telling people about Baby No. 2 at the 12-week mark&amp;amp;#8212;which happens to be two weeks before my cousin&amp;#x27;s wedding. Obviously I wouldn&amp;#x27;t start whispering my announcement during the wedding ceremony, but I&amp;#x27;m wondering if it&amp;#x27;s okay to quietly tell my relatives during the rehearsal dinner or morning-after brunch. Since it will be my second child, I feel like it&amp;#x27;s not as huge of a deal as it was the first time around, so I don&amp;#x27;t think people will with make a big fuss. My family is spread all over the country, so we had to tell them about my first pregnancy over the phone. I&amp;#x27;d love to be able to do it in person and see their faces this time. So is it okay if I discretely let them know the day before or after the wedding? Here are my thoughts: Congrats on Baby No. 2! I&amp;#x27;m sure you&amp;#x27;re excited to spread the word&amp;amp;#8212;but I think you should wait &amp;#x27;til after your cousin&amp;#x27;s wedding weekend. I often tell brides, &amp;quot;You get ONE day.&amp;quot; I don&amp;#x27;t think the bride and groom have any business dictating what their wedding guests do in the days and weeks surrounding their wedding. (Heck, I&amp;#x27;m running a marathon the day after one of my besties says &amp;quot;I do&amp;quot;!) Still, I feel like announcing your pregnancy the day before or after your cousin&amp;#x27;s wedding will seem like an desperate ploy to steal some of the spotlight from the bride and groom&amp;amp;#8212;even if your intentions are totally innocent. Even if you&amp;#x27;re being discrete, one of your aunts may scream or an excited cousin might start jumping up and down. Plus, as soon as they know, people will be rushing to get you a glass of water, offer you a seat, or tell you that you&amp;#x27;re glowing&amp;amp;#8212;you know, the things they&amp;#x27;d normally be doing for the bride. Since you&amp;#x27;ll be allowed to start telling people a couple weeks before the wedding, you could call your cousin ahead of time and ask whether she cares if you tell people over her wedding weekend. But unless she&amp;#x27;s super-selfish, chances are she&amp;#x27;ll say it&amp;#x27;s fine. Even if she really, really doesn&amp;#x27;t mean it. (I&amp;#x27;m always a pushover in situations like these, so I&amp;#x27;d never be able to tell my pregnant cousin that I thought she was being a little rude!) I&amp;#x27;d either make a huge push (pun intended) and tell people over the phone a full two weeks before the wedding, or&amp;amp;#8212;preferably&amp;amp;#8212;wait &amp;#x27;til your cousin&amp;#x27;s a few days into her honeymoon before calling everyone else. Ladies, what do you think? Can Kimberly announce her big news at her cousin&amp;#x27;s wedding? Or does she need to wait &amp;#x27;til after the festivities are well over? Have a wedding-y dilemma of your own? E-mail me! More reader&amp;amp;#8217;s dilemmas, solved! * What if Your Maid of Honor Doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t Fit in Her Dress&amp;amp;#8212;Two Weeks Before Your Wedding?! * Should a Girl Get a Say in What Her Engagement Ring Looks Like? * Can You Be Happily Married&amp;amp;#8212;But Still in Love With Your Ex? More Ways to Get Glamour: Chat with celebs, VIP fashion stars, beauty pros and more on our Facebook page! Visit Facebook.com/glamour for this month&amp;amp;#8217;s schedule! Visit ShopGlamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10! Download Glamour Magazine for your iPad--print subscribers, it&amp;amp;#8217;s now part of your subscription plan! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter. Photo: Thinkstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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