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"  I&amp;#039;m a divorced single mother and 11 months ago, I started dating someone. Everything was great he accepted my children, and he&amp;#039;s very respectful, intelligent, successful, and loving. But the problem is that he&amp;#039;s always busy: He operates his business seven days a week, and works from 10 a.m. to 10 p.m. In the morning, we have coffee together, and he stops by my place almost every night, but late, when I&amp;#039;m sleepy and in no mood for anything. He does call me during the day to see how I&amp;#039;m doing, sends me flowers once a week, and emails almost every day to say he loves me and how sorry he is that he can&amp;#039;t spend more time with me. I love him, but I don&amp;#039;t think I can do this anymore. Am I being selfish? What should I do? G.S., 36, San Jose, CA Wanting to spend time with the man you&amp;#039;re &amp;quot;dating&amp;quot; (although from the sound of it, you rarely go on any actual dates) isn&amp;#039;t selfish, it&amp;#039;s normal. Otherwise, why date him? As considerate as emails, phone calls, and flowers are, they&amp;#039;re not face time, and face time is what it takes to make a relationship work. You need to ask yourself what would be enough to pull your romance from the brink of &amp;quot;I don&amp;#039;t think I can do this anymore.&amp;quot; A good place for you to start would be a standing Friday- or Saturday-night date, which will require you to get a babysitter and him to delegate part of his work to someone else.   Sometimes we women are reluctant to inflict any discomfort on our men. I know that owning and operating a business is more than a full-time job, and that this hands-on, hardworking guy may resist the idea of getting someone in there to help him but does he want a girlfriend or not? What&amp;#039;s scary is that the answer may be &amp;quot;or not.&amp;quot; Time is his very precious commodity, and if he&amp;#039;s not willing to find a way to spend some more of it with you, perhaps it&amp;#039;s time to think about dating someone else. It may not come to this after all, he was resourceful enough to start his own business but you can&amp;#039;t move forward with this guy unless he&amp;#039;s willing to give you the time of day...or night.   Award-winning writer Karen Karbo is the author of How to Hepburn: Lessons on Living from Kate the Great. She&amp;#039;s also a mom, a writing teacher, and a horse owner. Send your questions to her at: The Hard Stuff, REDBOOK, 300 W. 57th St., New York, NY 10019 or karenkarbo@redbookmag.com . Letters may be edited for clarity and length, and must include your initials, age, city, and state. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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