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" A sexy smile, good hands, rhythmic hips \u2014 no doubt, your guy has what it takes to get you off. But there&amp;#039;s one more thing that can seriously up your odds of climaxing.  Experts agree that personal lubricant, aka lube, can make every aspect of sex more satisfying.  &amp;quot;With a little extra lube, every touch and thrust will feel smoother and more pleasurable,&amp;quot; says Eric Garrison, a consulting sexologist in New York City and Boston and author of Mastering Multiple-Position Sex. And because you&amp;#039;re wetter, your partner will feel more confident, which will inspire him to try new moves and positions.  That&amp;#039;s just the beginning. Here, find out why this liquid accessory should always be within reach of your bed. It Has O-Boosting Potential In an ideal world, your body would provide enough natural lubricant to keep you slick from the moment he slides his hand between your legs to that last frenzied moment of intercourse. Unfortunately, that&amp;#039;s just not likely. &amp;quot;There&amp;#039;s a myth out there that if a woman is completely aroused, she&amp;#039;ll get really wet and stay that way,&amp;quot; says sex therapist Debra Macleod, author of Lube Jobs: A Woman&amp;#039;s Guide to Great Maintenance Sex. &amp;quot;But the fact is that you can be turned on and either not get wet enough or even experience desertlike conditions down south.&amp;quot;  The reason: Things like medications or being slightly dehydrated can prevent you from getting moist. Or your body may simply not be able to produce lubrication at a fast enough rate to keep up with the action. And if you&amp;#039;re not wet enough, penetration will start to \u2014 ouch \u2014 chafe.  But adding lube doesn&amp;#039;t just prevent sex from hurting; it also helps the two of you maintain the steady rhythm most women need to orgasm. &amp;quot;When you&amp;#039;re wet, he can thrust continuously, and it&amp;#039;s easier for him to vary the speed,&amp;quot; says Macleod. &amp;quot;That extra stimulation will help build sexual tension and bring you to climax.&amp;quot;   Related Video       Why It&amp;#039;ll Be His New Best Friend Too Think about the hottest days of summer, when you&amp;#039;re walking around and your thighs stick together \u2014 that&amp;#039;s pretty much what it feels like for your guy when he tries to enter you when you&amp;#039;re not wet. And psychologically, dryness can have an even more negative and traumatizing effect on his libido. &amp;quot;While a guy may logically know that a woman&amp;#039;s wetness has nothing to do with his sexual prowess, subconsciously, he still may think he&amp;#039;s not good enough in bed to arouse her,&amp;quot; says Natasha Janina Valdez, a sex therapist in Los Angeles. &amp;quot;But lube lets him forget about that fear and focus on how good everything feels.&amp;quot;  Most men will have no problem with trying something new. But on the off chance he&amp;#039;s hesitant, kiss his neck and tell him that if he doesn&amp;#039;t like it, you&amp;#039;ll toss it. Trust us: That won&amp;#039;t happen.  Sexy Ways to Use It First, pick your potion. Water-based lubes feel more natural and less gooey (try Sliquid pO, $12), whereas silicone-based formulas last longer and are water-resistant, making them great for shower sex (try Astroglide X, $12). If you use silicone-based lube, just be sure to wash with soap and warm water afterward, as silicone is more likely to stick to your body, which (if you don&amp;#039;t wash it away completely) could attract bacteria and cause an infection.  Warming lubes (try KY Intense, $25) can boost arousal by increasing blood flow to your clitoris, and freezable lubes (try Durex Quiver, $7) work like an ice cube at first, then melt \u2014 perfect for summer nights. Whichever you pick, be sure to keep it nearby so you don&amp;#039;t have to stop and hunt for it.  &amp;quot;Start by incorporating lube into foreplay,&amp;quot; says sex therapist Gina Ogden, PhD, author of The Return of Desire. &amp;quot;Have him place a pea-size drop on his fingers before he rubs your clitoris.&amp;quot; Since that spot is made up of delicate skin, a smoother touch will ensure that it doesn&amp;#039;t get irritated. You can do the same for his penis \u2014 put a tiny dollop in your palm before rhythmically stroking him.  Using a condom? Put a small amount inside the tip before rolling it over his shaft. &amp;quot;Many guys complain that a condom diminishes the sensation,&amp;quot; says Garrison. &amp;quot;Adding a little lube ups the sensitivity he feels inside the latex.&amp;quot;  When you&amp;#039;re ready to put tab A in slot B, have him place a dime-size drop on his fingers and rub them around the entrance to your vagina, or you can DIY. Warning: Using too much can reduce friction to the point where you barely feel each other, so be conservative \u2014 you can always add more.  Advanced Tricks Anytime you&amp;#039;re handling his package, lube can make things wetter and better. Surprise him by giving him a hand job. Place some lube in your palm before holding him. Then use a good grip \u2014 about as hard as you would squeeze a banana without it getting mushy \u2014 as you slide up and down.  Oral sex is another fantastic time to use the slippery stuff. &amp;quot;Women often use spit, but it can be hard to muster up enough,&amp;quot; says Ogden. &amp;quot;But a flavored lube provides enough wetness that your jaw won&amp;#039;t get as tired.&amp;quot; Consider buying a sample pack to taste test before investing in a whole bottle (our favorite: Babelicious Pomegranate Vanilla, $8, babeland.com).  Bottom line: There isn&amp;#039;t a spot on your body that lube can&amp;#039;t go. &amp;quot;Lube can work like massage oil,&amp;quot; says Macleod. Just watch what happens to foreplay when he drizzles some over your breasts and lets his hands glide all over you.  Let It Slide Real-life lube fans rave about its sexy effects. &amp;quot;I never used to go for quickies because it takes me a while to get wet, but with lube, we can jump-start the fun.&amp;quot;  \u2014Kate, 25 &amp;quot;I keep single-use packets in my purse. When I pull one out, my boyfriend has a Pavlovian response \u2014 he knows he&amp;#039;s going to get some action and becomes totally aroused.&amp;quot;  \u2014Laura, 32 &amp;quot;Shower sex gets uncomfortable fast because the water washes away whatever natural lubricant my body makes, and it took just one try to learn that soap can be horribly irritating. Silicone-based lube is the only thing that works.&amp;quot;  \u2014Cara, 27  &amp;quot;When I masturbate, I put a drop or two on my fingers before I start rubbing my clitoris. The wetness feels great against my skin and instantly puts me in the mood.&amp;quot;  \u2014Stephanie, 23 &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;m obsessed with the kind that slowly warms up. When I first saw it, I was afraid it would make my crotch feel like it was on fire. Instead, it nicely warms both of us, and the tiny bit of heat adds a ton of intensity while we&amp;#039;re going at it.&amp;quot;  \u2014Amanda, 30 "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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