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"Last week, we discussed whether or not it was cool that a reader&amp;#x27;s BF refused to wear a condom. Today, we have a different sort of question, and it&amp;#x27;s a good one: Is it wrong for a woman to want sex with no strings attached? Our anonymous Smitten reader writes: Is it wrong for a woman to just want sex from a guy? I mean men have been doing it for years, so why is it so different when a women does it? Let me address your first question, since there are two parts here: I&amp;amp;#8217;m gonna go ahead and say no. Not. At. All. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a gal just wanting sex and not a relationship. But (and this is a big BUT), you need to be safe and being safe does not make you a slut, k? (And neither does kissing on the first date. Or, for that matter, does dating a bunch of guys at one time.) The caveat here is that you have to be certain that you do only want sex. Sometimes we think we want one thing, and then it doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t occur to us until after the fact that there were other expectations involved. I also asked my co-author and psychologist Dr. Belisa Vranich to weigh in on this question, and she said, &amp;quot;Is it wrong? No, however, as a psychologist, I&amp;#x27;ve found that many women underestimate how much good sex makes them feel emotionally attached to a man they never planned on being attached to.&amp;amp;#8221; Oxytocin, the hormone that&amp;#x27;s activated during sex, is particularly powerful in women and can make us feel a bit mixed up about what we&amp;#x27;re feeling. Just something to keep in mind. The second part of your question is a great one. Why IS it so different? The idea that women only want relationships and men want sex is an archaic one that won&amp;amp;#8217;t seem to go away. As Dr. B says, &amp;quot;Women are supposed to want a relationship, where as men are stereotyped as only wanting casual sex.&amp;amp;#8221; With all that said, here&amp;#x27;s my advice in a nutshell: Go ahead and get yours, girl, but be mindful that sex has repercussions, both emotionally and physically. I truly hope this helps. What do you guys think? Is it OK for a woman to just want sex? What do you make of my advice and what would you say to our fellow Smittenite? Other reader dilemmas: * Reader&amp;#x27;s Dilemma: I Hooked Up With My Friend and Then Freaked Out, But Now I Want To Try Again! * Reader&amp;#x27;s Dilemma: &amp;quot;My Boyfriend Kisses His Mom on the Lips (and it Grosses Me Out!)&amp;quot; * Dating Dilemma: &amp;quot;Help! How Do I Tell a Guy I Want to Take it Slow?&amp;quot; Photo: Thinkstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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