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"Today, a reader tells us about how she spent a drunken night with her crush...and now wants to ask him out. What&amp;#x27;s the next step?Here&amp;#x27;s our lovely reader&amp;#x27;s question: My roommate, who is a boy and is six years older than me, has a weekly movie night on Mondays and invites all his hipster friends over. Lately I&amp;#x27;ve been sitting in on them and I have a great time (plus all his friends are extremely attractive). One of them is new to the group. His name is Michael. I thought he was cute right off the bat. Not too much later, we were all at a bar on a Saturday night, and Michael was there, and we got extremely drunk, and he came home with me and we had sex. The next time I saw him was a week later and he was super nice, but not showing extra attention towards me. I don&amp;#x27;t know how to interpret this because he&amp;#x27;s amazingly shy and quiet in the first place. I&amp;#x27;m also really shy when it comes to guys. I feel like this whole thing started backwards. We had sex, and now I want to date him. He doesn&amp;#x27;t have a cell phone so I can&amp;#x27;t do the flirty text thing. I&amp;#x27;ve considered adding him on Facebook a lot lately, but I don&amp;#x27;t want to seem too forward--even though my roommate says guys like that in a girl. What do I do? How do I make the (second) first move on this? I really doubt even if he DID like me back he&amp;#x27;d make a move any time soon. Help! Here&amp;#x27;s my answer: My sweet, thanks for your question! I&amp;#x27;m all about being straightforward. Being honest is awesome--you feel more confident, people really admire it (and honesty is a turn-on), and you skip all the game playing. Since he&amp;#x27;s really shy, I&amp;#x27;d vote that you just should tell him that you&amp;#x27;d like to hang out with him. I&amp;#x27;d send Michael an email and say, &amp;quot;I like hanging out with you. Do you want to maybe meet up this Wednesday for a beer?&amp;quot; (Or you can suggest a bike ride or walk or dinner or whatever you think would be fun.) If he says yes, YAY! If he says no, or acts vague, then you can assume he just wants to be friends, and you can still be friends with him (if you want) but move on to date other guys. Truly, no one can ever fault you for being honest. It&amp;#x27;s the sweetest, most attractive quality--picture women like Julie Delpy in Before Sunrise or Ellen Page&amp;#x27;s character in Juno. You might feel nervous, but it&amp;#x27;s so much better than beating around the bush, don&amp;#x27;t you think? You&amp;#x27;re awesome, and he (or any other guy) would be lucky to have you. Good luck! Dear readers, what do you think she should do? Email him? Call him? Wait for him to do something? Have you ever asked a guy out? I&amp;#x27;d love to hear your thoughts (and I&amp;#x27;m sure our readers would too!)... Photo: istock.com"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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