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"A few brave readers have shared their dilemmas, including &amp;quot;I&amp;#x27;m too shy to talk to guys&amp;quot; and &amp;quot;Does getting back together with an ex ever work?&amp;quot; Well, today, a reader tells us how her boyfriend went hot-tubbing with flirty women he had just met. Hear her story, and weigh in, after the jump...Here&amp;#x27;s her story: Recently my boyfriend ended up hanging out with some women who were friends of a friend. I met the women; they were very shady and behaving inappropriately. I went home because I was tired. Later, my boyfriend told me that they all went hot-tubbing and that one of the women had the nerve to ask him to have sex with her, even though she was married and she knew that he had a girlfriend. He told her no and that he respected me enough not to cheat on me. I fully believe him; that isn&amp;#x27;t the problem. The argument is that, I don&amp;#x27;t think it&amp;#x27;s appropriate for a guy to go hot-tubbing with women he doesn&amp;#x27;t know well. He thinks it&amp;#x27;s OK because he isn&amp;#x27;t a cheater. I&amp;#x27;m on the fence. I wouldn&amp;#x27;t do this with my guy friends out of respect for him. What do others feel about this? Would you feel OK with your man putting himself in a semi-sexual situation with women he doesn&amp;#x27;t know? Here&amp;#x27;s my answer: Thanks for your question, my doll! I&amp;#x27;m glad that your boyfriend is trustworthy and didn&amp;#x27;t cheat. That&amp;#x27;s good, of course. That said, here are my two thoughts on this situation: 1) When you&amp;#x27;re in a loving relationship, you should want (and strive) to make your significant other feel safe, loved and comfortable. Even if he thinks hot tubbing is no big deal, he shouldn&amp;#x27;t do it again if it makes you feel uncomfortable. You told him you don&amp;#x27;t want him to go hot-tubbing with random women, so, as a loving boyfriend, he should respect your feelings and not do that again. 2) Cheating is a slippery slope. If you put yourself in a sexual situation--like hot-tubbing with flirty women--one thing can lead to another, and it&amp;#x27;s much harder to say no, once you&amp;#x27;re in a bathing suit, sitting next to these women and having drinks, than it is to say no to the entire situation in the first place. So, even though your boyfriend isn&amp;#x27;t a cheater, as he says, he shouldn&amp;#x27;t put himself in situations that will tempt him to cheat. He should be confident, loving and respectful from the very beginning--and know where to draw the line. Dear readers, what do you think? Do you think her boyfriend should forgo the hot-tubbing, or do you think it&amp;#x27;s fine as long as he doesn&amp;#x27;t cheat? P.S. One reader asks: &amp;quot;Should I cheat on my boyfriend?&amp;quot; Would you forgive a guy if he cheated once? And have you ever cheated? (Be honest.)"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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