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"This reader is super-annoyed with the company she&amp;#x27;s keeping! Writes Save the Date reader Brynn: I was asked to be bridesmaid by one of my sorority sisters from college. I am extremely happy for her and delighted that I get to be a part of the happiest day of her life. However! She selected another bridesmaid that is completely and 100 percent socially awkward, super-religiously judgmental, and a total know-it-all. All the girls at our sorority hated her when we were in undergrad and knowing that I will be a bridesmaid with her is awkward for me. I know this girl does not like me because we are complete opposites: I am social, go out, have a good time, have a couple drinks. She is devoted to her religious studies, goes on mission trips and spends all her time judging people based on their morals. She thinks that I am too crazy and I think she is, too. She drinks WATER and pretends she&amp;#x27;s drunk! Yep, she&amp;#x27;s one of THOSE girls. What do I do? Help! Here are my thoughts: I&amp;#x27;m surprised you&amp;#x27;re calling her out for being judgmental when you&amp;#x27;re doing a decent amount of judging yourself. If I were you, I&amp;#x27;d worry less about her issues and more about your own attitude. First of all, work on eliminating the phrase &amp;quot;all the girls in our sorority&amp;quot; from your vocabulary. After college, no one cares about the collective opinion of your sorority. And your whole &amp;quot;we all hate her&amp;quot; mentality is straight out of the middle school cafeteria. Clearly everyone in your sorority didn&amp;#x27;t hate her if the bride likes her enough to ask her to be a bridesmaid. I&amp;#x27;m not saying you have to be besties with the bridesmaid in question&amp;amp;#8212;she doesn&amp;#x27;t sound like someone I&amp;#x27;d spend my free time with, either&amp;amp;#8212;but I don&amp;#x27;t really understand what you&amp;#x27;re so worked up about it. Your going to be co-bridesmaids, you&amp;#x27;re not sharing a bedroom or starting a business together. So you&amp;#x27;ll plan the shower and bachelorette party as part of a group, attend these events together, and maybe see her in the day or two leading up to the wedding. I doubt she&amp;#x27;ll push for a Jesus-themed shower or ask the bridesmaids to accompany her to Bible study. And even if she, say, tried to make the bridal shower booze-free, a bridal party generally works like a democracy, so I&amp;#x27;m assuming it would be easy enough to vote her down&amp;amp;#8212;all while assuring her that there will be plenty of nonalcoholic drinks on hand. Even if she actively hates you, I think it would behoove you to be the bigger person when you&amp;#x27;re stuck interacting. (And really, how much hate can a &amp;quot;super-religious&amp;quot; person harbor?) Compliment her shirt and ask her how her job is, then excuse yourself to refill your mimosa. I&amp;#x27;m not sure how far out of college you are, but it will be good practice for the real world, when you&amp;#x27;ll regularly have to deal with co-workers, neighbors, and future in-laws who won&amp;#x27;t always see eye-to-eye with you. Whatever you do, don&amp;#x27;t start a smear campaign among the other bridesmaids, and don&amp;#x27;t take the bait if someone else starts bitching about her. If you truly believe her wedding is going to be one of the happiest days of the bride&amp;#x27;s life, do your best NOT to spoil it with petty bickering beforehand. Ladies, what do you think? How should Brynn deal with the un-fun bridesmaid? Have a wedding-y dilemma of your own? E-mail me! More reader&amp;amp;#8217;s dilemmas, solved! * &amp;amp;#8220;Help! I Want to Ask a Friend to Be My Maid of Honor&amp;amp;#8212;But Her Husband Just Asked Her for a Divorce!&amp;amp;#8221; * &amp;amp;#8220;Help! We&amp;amp;#8217;re Getting Gifts Before Our Wedding! Can We Use Them Yet?&amp;amp;#8221; * &amp;amp;#8220;Help! How Can I Be a Long-Distance Maid of Honor?&amp;amp;#8221; Photo: Thinkstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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