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"Save the Date reader Risa has a sticky situation on her hands ...Really? Now you miss me? Writes Risa: In five months I&amp;amp;#8217;m going to marry a man who makes me so incredibly happy&amp;amp;#8212;it&amp;amp;#8217;s just one of those things that works effortlessly. But now, all of a sudden, my ex-boyfriend is back in the picture. My ex and I split amicably two years ago. At the time, our lives were in different places&amp;amp;#8212;literally, we were in different cities, and we were in different places emotionally&amp;amp;#8212;and we couldn&amp;amp;#8217;t carry on the relationship. I did the single thing for a while and then started dating my now-fiance. My ex and I have stayed in touch over the past two years and still care about one another. He moved back to the area about a year ago. Now, out of nowhere, my ex says he misses me and he wants to see me. I have a feeling that even though he knows I&amp;amp;#8217;m getting married, he&amp;amp;#8217;s going to try to rekindle our relationship. I do still care about him, but I love my finace, so nothing will ever come of it. But still, I&amp;amp;#8217;d like for us to be friends because we got along so well in the past. What would you and the readers do in this situation? Especially if you were in the midst of planning your wedding to an amazing guy? Here are my thoughts: I suspect several readers will disagree with me, but I was always a &amp;amp;#8220;clean break&amp;amp;#8221; kind of girl. I dated a bunch of great guys before I met Rory&amp;amp;#8212;and a bunch more not-so-great ones&amp;amp;#8212;but regardless of who it was or why we broke up, I never had the inclination to stay friends. And I know some people can be still great friends with their exes and do brunch once a month. But being friendly with exes just isn&amp;amp;#8217;t my thing. And I suggest, in this situation, you make it not-your-thing, too. Look, planning a wedding is stressful and emotionally charged&amp;amp;#8212;and even if everything&amp;amp;#8217;s going smoothly, you have a lot on your plate. I suggest you spend what little spare time you have nurturing your relationships with your friends, your family, and your fiance. You know, the people who really matter right now. (And the same ones who often get neglected during the wedding-planning process.) If your ex misses your friendship, he&amp;amp;#8217;ll still be around in five months. Even if you&amp;amp;#8217;re not missing him in a romantic way, seeing him before the wedding is going to throw a lot of extra baggage&amp;amp;#8212;and emotion&amp;amp;#8212;into an already emotional time. I say wait, and worry about him when the wedding is over. Ladies, what do you think? Do you think Risa should meet up with her ex? Or should she put him on the back burner for now? Have a wedding dilemma of your own? Click here to e-mail me! More reader&amp;amp;#8217;s dilemmas, solved! * &amp;amp;#8220;Help! I&amp;amp;#8217;m in a Serious Funk!&amp;amp;#8221; * Have You Ever Had a Pregnancy Scare? * &amp;amp;#8220;Um, My Boyfriend&amp;amp;#8217;s Parents Walk Around Half-Naked. Weird?&amp;amp;#8221; More Ways to Get Glamour Visit Shopglamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter Add us to your iGoogle homepage Photo: Jupiter Images"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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