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"Today, one reader worries that her boyfriend will never let her meet the parents. How long should she wait?Here&amp;#x27;s our lovely reader&amp;#x27;s question: &amp;quot;How early in an new relationship is it cool to introduce your friends/family to his and vice versa? I have been dating a British guy (who is 44, I&amp;#x27;m 32) for four months. In the last two months, he has gone to two weddings and didn&amp;#x27;t invite me to either. Needless to say, I&amp;#x27;m hurt. We both live in Canada. The first wedding was his sister&amp;#x27;s in London, and the second was his friend&amp;#x27;s in Italy. We are very into each other. He says he loves me and that I&amp;#x27;m the girl of his dreams; we see each other every day. I have introduced him to my friends, who are like my family here, since I&amp;#x27;m from California. I feel like I&amp;#x27;m missing something. I can&amp;#x27;t see things clearly because I&amp;#x27;m right in the middle of it. Am I overreacting... or what gives?! I&amp;#x27;m ready to throw in the towel as my biggest fear in life is wasting time. We only get one life! Here&amp;#x27;s my answer: My dear, I&amp;#x27;m sorry you&amp;#x27;re feeling worried! Here are my thoughts...There may be a bunch of reasons why your boyfriend hasn&amp;#x27;t invited you to the weddings. First, maybe he wasn&amp;#x27;t invited with a date. Weddings can be weirdly strict like that. Secondly, maybe he didn&amp;#x27;t want to pressure you to buy an expensive flight abroad. Third, maybe he knew he&amp;#x27;d be running around helping his sister and friend will all the chaotic wedding planning and didn&amp;#x27;t want to leave you at the buffet all by yourself. He might prefer to introduce you to his family during a more mellow and meaningful trip. Fourth, maybe he&amp;#x27;s embarrassed by his quirky family. Fifth, a billion other random and innocuous reasons we could never guess. Sixth, he might not be ready to introduce you to his family and close friends. I know you&amp;#x27;re worried about the fifth reason -- but keep in mind that it might not be true. Even if it is, that&amp;#x27;s OK. You two have only been dating for four months, and even though your relationship is serious and he adores you, he still might want to take things slowly. It might be his natural pacing, and that&amp;#x27;s OK. (Personal story: My dad came to visit New York when I had been dating Alex for about two months, and I felt like it was too soon for them to meet. So I hung out with my dad all weekend, and we didn&amp;#x27;t see Alex, who (thankfully) understood that I was just a slow-mover in that way. When I was ready, I introduced him to my family, everyone hit it off famously, and now we&amp;#x27;re getting married with my parents&amp;#x27; blessing. Remember that different people have different paces.) My advice? I&amp;#x27;d suggest talking to your boyfriend. Tell him that you love him and would like to meet his family when he&amp;#x27;s ready. Be honest and say, &amp;quot;Did you want to go to the weddings alone for any particular reason? It&amp;#x27;s totally fine if you&amp;#x27;d like to wait to introduce me to your family; I just wanted to let you know that I&amp;#x27;d love to meet them anytime.&amp;quot; And I&amp;#x27;m pretty sure that he&amp;#x27;ll calm your fears and tell you, once again, that you&amp;#x27;re the girl of his dreams. (And, on the off-chance that something does come up, write us back and we&amp;#x27;ll figure it all out!) Lots of love to you! My dear readers, what do you think? Would you talk to him about it? How long did it take to meet your boyfriend&amp;#x27;s family? Photo: Superbomba"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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