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"Dear Rachel, I am really angry with my best friend and I have no idea why or what I should do about it. We have been friends for 9 years, and we have always... __Dear Rachel,\n\n I am really angry with my best friend and I have no idea why or what I should do about it. We have been friends for 9 years, and we have always been very close because we have been through a lot together. She probably knows me more than almost everyone and vice versa.\n\n Over the last few years T. has changed a lot, but I don't have an issue with change, I know I have changed too. The thing is she has become quite slutty and inconsiderate and for the first time ever she isn't honest with me.\n\n Now when I speak to her for an hour, I have to listen to 50 minutes of her and her boys until I get 10 minutes of her being herself, a really great fun person who I love. I can't relate to any of her stories or relationships any more. I just really don't like the way she no longer has any boundaries. She will kiss three people in one night and flirt with one of their friends while she's at it. She keeps kissing people she shouldn't, when she has already been asked not to (brothers, cousins, ex boyfriends, people other people like) and as a result T. has lost a lot of her friends. I always defend her when this happens, but now she did a similar thing to me and lied to me about it.\n\n The thing is, I cant confront her about it because, every few weeks she has low moments when she cries about who she is and how she's a bad friend and lately I have really been struggling to argue with that. Also I don't know what I can confront her about, she hasn't really done anything and I have no idea why I am so angry.\n\n Then another thing, I accidentally got very drunk, it was the first (and last I really hope) time I have been so drunk and another friend of mine helped me. I would have thought T. would have helped me, seeing as I am her best friend and I have looked after her many times.\n\n What should I do? Why am I so angry? How can I put this behind me? Am I being judgmental?\n\n L., 18\n\n Dear L.,\n\n I'm sorry you are struggling. This is very painful. But I have to tell you -- I think you are more clear than you are willing to admit to yourself about why you're upset with T. For starters, you suggest that she did something with a guy you like. She lied to you. She didn't take care of you when you got drunk. She dominates conversations and doesn't give you space. Yet you write that you don't know why you're angry at her? I do.\n\n You know that thing she does where she gets really upset about what a bad person/friend she is? I understand why you feel sorry for her, but you need to also see it from another perspective. When she does that, it does not give you any space to explain what's bothering you. She ends up dominating yet again, and you have to take care of her. If she really wanted to let you have space to talk about your problems in the friendship, she'd actually let you -- but by crying and making it all about her, she's doing the opposite."^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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